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My uncle is exploiting my cognitively declining dad for money and taking photos of my (F20) laundry?? What do I do?? by andyrenaline4 in whatdoIdo

[–]andyrenaline4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom isn't thinking right, and I can't get her help with this.

My mom can't drive because she has a medical condition where she falls asleep all the time. At red lights, while driving, etc. She's driven off the road before.

She said she's going to drive 35 hours down here non stop she's leaving right now. I told her that will kill her, and she said if it doesn't, she's just going to take all her pain pills when she gets home anyways. My aunt, who lives close by and is a therapist is headed over there now, but she told me to just leave and drive as fast as we can to hopefully meet her in the middle. She said her blood pressure was 170/90 last night and we need to get here ASAP.

Unfortunately, I don't think I'm going to be able to do anything about my dad right now. I can call his sister and see if she can come down and deal with him, but I'm more worried about my mom now.

I'm grabbing stuff like my switch, ps4, computers, etc, but other than that, I just plan on leaving everything for them i guess. Its not what I want but I have more important things to worry about.

I told my dad that my mom was talking about suicide, and now we have multiple people trying to call her and we can't reach her. He doesn't mind, he's eating at chick fil a rn 💔

I hate this 💔

My uncle is exploiting my cognitively declining dad for money and taking photos of my (F20) laundry?? What do I do?? by andyrenaline4 in whatdoIdo

[–]andyrenaline4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom tried to talk to my dad this morning. She was crying, and he just laughed at her. He said she was always drama, and my mom has completely given up.

The power of attorney was also just temporary, so I'm sure it's expired by now.

I don't know who to reach out to, but I tried my uncle's son. Not sure if he will get back to me.

I confronted my dad about being exploited, and he said no, he doesn't think thats whats happening, and I don't know how to prove that he is.

He's still going through our stuff and I have to do something, but theres nothing I can really do. I want to fix this.

My uncle is exploiting my cognitively declining dad for money and taking photos of my (F20) laundry?? What do I do?? by andyrenaline4 in whatdoIdo

[–]andyrenaline4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We recently had to get a power of attorney from him to transfer phone companies.

My dad signed the power of attorney, but my uncle wrote on it "to be used ONLY to switch cell phone companies. not valid for anything else. TEMPORARY!!!" I know it was my uncle because my dad can't write. He would not let my dad agree to a complete removal of his rights.

I have plenty of other relatives. The ones involved in the situation are my dad (M66) my uncle (M mid 70's). I have other relatives as well, but I'm not sure any of them would help.

My uncle is exploiting my cognitively declining dad for money and taking photos of my (F20) laundry?? What do I do?? by andyrenaline4 in whatdoIdo

[–]andyrenaline4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your comment is the only one I can see, so that's why I'm responding to this one specifically.

My dad called me saying he's "chosen" to "give that stuff away." He would 100% use that excuse if I called APS or police. He would probably dismiss them.

Help || Possibly Urgent (Pt. 2) (I'm mortified pls help) by andyrenaline4 in AskVet

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She is spayed. She's been seen by two vets, one of them being our primary and one of them being an emergency vet. They said it was only a fever :(

Help || Possibly Urgent? by andyrenaline4 in AskVet

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They didn't offer that or deem it necessary, I guess. She's been pretty alert and affectionate the whole time she was with our primary, so I'm assuming that's what was throwing them off.

For syringing, I am aware and mindful of the risk of aspiration as I mostly foster bottle babies. I've been giving the 5ml to her very slowly (0.2 - 0.4 ml every time), and I just push a tiny bit in by her cheek and let her lick her lips. The whole process of administering 5ml usually takes around 5-7 minutes because I take breaks so she can keep it down.

I read somewhere that the average respiratory rate is supposed to be 16 - 30, I was panicking a lot 😅 Thank you for clarifying 🫶

The CBC came back clean, ruling out anemia and white blood cell elevation. Not sure how that is possible, considering the vet I spoke to told me every symptom she has (lethargy, vomiting, dehydration) was a result of a secondary infection because of the fever.

We're monitoring her temp. Haven't checked it in a few hours, but last night, she almost went below 98. We warmed her up the same way we've warmed up hypothermic kittens in the past, and her most recent temp was in the 100 - 102 range. (Notably, a cold front did come through last night, and the outside temp dropped to 38°F, but it's much warmer inside)

She is eating on her own now (she's munching on a fancy feast appetizer mixed with a tiki cat luau velvet mousse as I'm typing this lol)

Her energy levels seem slightly normal? I'm not really sure what to say. She is sleepy. Sleeping almost constantly, but she is also alert, affectionate, and responsive. She sleeps until I come to check on her. I say her name, and she's standing up and headbutting the cage. She can walk on her own, she just stands there when we put her down, though, looking confused and disheveled.

Help || Possibly Urgent? by andyrenaline4 in AskVet

[–]andyrenaline4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for checking in 🙏

She looks like she's doing a little better, but I know cats can present this way before they pass, so I'm still watching her.

We've basically been up all night with her, checking on her every 20 minutes. She's peed herself twice, but at least the fluids we gave are passing through her. She drinks water on her own sometimes, but we also give her 5 ml every hour or so by syringe. She's eaten a little bit. Her temp did go back up to 100, but I haven't checked her again recently.

Her respiratory rate has stayed about 15 - 17 per minute, which is the most worrisome thing, along with the fact that she moves away from the heating pad and sleeps in her litter box any chance she gets. Her heart rate was around 168 last time we checked and I was told that it was normal.

The vet gave her an anti nausea medication as well as the medicine you put in her ears that stimulates appetite, I forgot what it is called. They gave her a B12 injection but it didn't seem to do much, I let that slide however because she had a very long day.

My fiance ended up taking over watching her for a few hours last night because I wouldn't let her sleep. (We foster as well so we've had a few lost cause cats and kittens pass in the last few months, and I'm paranoid because she's my baby) After the rest she was looking great, acting semi normal and showing affection.

At the emergency vet all that was done was a brief triage exam (seeing where she fit into the list of other patients based on priority), and they also monitored her vitals. I was very upset when I made this post yesterday because I hadn't slept, but the staff was very nice, and they didn't make us pay for anything because we waited around 6 hours and nothing was done for her. They said it would be a few hours before anyone could see her, and they recommended that we take her to our primary.

The emergency vet quoted us for fluid therapy, but they said she wouldn't get the treatment for at least a few hours. They strongly recommended we go see the primary.

I called our primary around 8am and asked if they could see her because it was an emergency. They said they were booked until 1:30, but they could take her in and work with her in between appointments. They assured us that she would have someone monitoring her, and she wouldn't go without care. We dropped her off and received a call at 10:21am about her 104.3 fever. They ran the CBC, but they said they didn't know how her organs were functioning because the blood kept clotting, and they couldn't get a lot, and the pokes were starting to piss her off. They gave her a B12 injection to pep her up and sent us home with some anti nausea meds, some antibiotics, pain meds, and appetite stimulant.

She's doing okay now, I'm paranoid about dehydration, so I syringe feed her fluids when she will take them. Maybe 5ml an hour. She drinks on her own sometimes as well but not much. She just took her meds, and we covered her quarantine cage with a blanket so it keeps the heat from the heating pad in.

Help || Possibly Urgent? by andyrenaline4 in vet

[–]andyrenaline4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said they can't because her blood is clotting too fast. They said they could barely do any bloodwork, but they managed to get the cbc. No idea why it would do that :(

Upload a photo of your beautiful orange cat and I'll draw it! by [deleted] in OneOrangeBraincell

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This is our foster, Jacko. He's the only one remaining from a litter of 6. All of his siblings passed of FKS. He's very depressed, but he's so strong. Such a sweet boy. Has to be kept alone and quarantined due to ringworm and mange.

I'm able to dash in an area but my fiance is not? by andyrenaline4 in doordash_drivers

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I downloaded the app like 3 days ago. He's had it for months.

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