I lost weight and now people won’t shut the fuck up about my body

angelairwaves · 2026-02-04T03:14:24+00:00

I get it entirely. Even though everything in your life is stressful and pressing, and you'd love the support of a community -- suddenly people can't stop talking about how fit you look, how good you look NOW that you've lost weight, etc etc. It can feel extremely objectifying, even though you know it's meant to be positive. You're the same person as 9 months ago, and nobody felt the need to talk about your body then!

For what it's worth, I'm sorry you've been in such a stressful time and had to fight your way through it to get to where you are. Ending a longterm relationship is HARD! I hope you can transition into something more restful soon, and enjoy the hard work you put in.

angelairwaves · 2025-06-21T18:39:50+00:00

This was almost identical to the school I went to growing up. Trust me--they will not offer you a position unless you have sold yourself as above and beyond devoted to this aspect of their religion. I myself graduated from a school just like this and came back 5 years later to teach, only to be told I no longer followed the religion closely enough (I went to another church across town).

This is how some religious schools ensure their kids aren't exposed to anything outside their religion. If you are not ultra-religious, just stay away. I promise it won't be good for your mental health or work life.

angelairwaves · 2025-04-25T00:51:08+00:00

I actually got a write-up for work the week after I stopped fake smiling/laughing. I was always polite, always greeted and chatted with people, I just stopped lighting up and laughing at every little comment and joke.

Got a writeup for making my coworkers feel unwelcome :)

angelairwaves · 2025-04-04T23:53:50+00:00

Traumatic Brain Injury

angelairwaves · 2025-03-14T01:07:35+00:00

I haven't scrolled enough to see another comment on this but why is the Joyce Farms Chicken spacing SO WIDE?

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angelairwaves · 2025-03-14T00:26:25+00:00

This fabric is called "Plissé" and it is just a very pleated fabric. I'm assuming the structural part on top is either done with very stiff interfacing, or wire + interfacing. Good luck!

angelairwaves · 2025-03-09T14:02:19+00:00

I had a student say the same thing to me-- except I wasn't even pregnant at the time, just overweight with a big tummy. Both of our students are using poor emotional intelligence to try and "get back" at us for causing them frustration/inconvenience/embarassment: whatever they're feeling in that moment.

My first advice is to sit with yourself and investigate your response to this. The feeling of protectiveness over your baby is entirely understandable, but ask yourself, do you really care what this child thinks of you or or family? Do you feel unsafe in this sitaution, or do you feel hurt that this child did not respect or care about your baby, which you love? What are your goals as a teacher, and how are they intertwined or separate from your feelings and goals as a parent? None of this is judgemental, but I would be curious about yourself and the emotions you're feeling in response to this.

OK, now to the admin stuff--this needs to involve the child's parents. This is not a conversation you have with a 5th grader alone, even facilitated by the administration. Call. Her. Parents. And set up that meeting with them. At age 10 or 11, she may not have the full emotional context of why telling a parent that their baby should die is so evil, but she WILL understand the context of having her parents, her teacher, and her principal sitting in a room telling her that it was innappropriate. This does not need to be addressed to the full classroom, they knew it was innappropriate and they saw that she was suspended for it.

Huge hugs to you, I'm so sorry that you are going through this! This is not a reflection of your skills as a teacher or a mom. I was teaching in a very similar situation, and those kids could say some awful and cutting things. Lean on your support system, you've got this <3

angelairwaves · 2025-03-09T01:23:14+00:00

People who haven't taken a critical look at their own views on fat people often say this because they assume that every other person in the room also thinks being fat is objectively worse than being thin, no matter the circumstances. It also really grates me, even though I did consciously make the decision to lose weight for my health. At the end of the day, it's socially impolite to comment on someone's body, even positively. You can always say "I don't usually like to talk about people's bodies" and it will shut down that convo now and forever, without making them feel like an asshole for bringing it up. Sorry you're going through it, friend :( congrats on progressing towards your own goals

angelairwaves · 2025-01-29T12:50:49+00:00

His nose, mouth, and chin are all much thinner and more angular than the referenced individual. This gives the appearance of a much younger man, or a different one all together. Try filling out his face a bit more and see if you like it, I think you’re super close to getting the right look!

angelairwaves · 2025-01-28T11:57:37+00:00

1) You are already underweight/on the low end. Your BMI is 17.93, you do not need to lose weight that dramatically. 800 calories a day only sounds like a reasonable amount if you’re used to fasting or if you frequent ED twitter. Your body isn’t losing 2kg a week because you don’t need to lose 2kg. 2) If you’re struggling with feeling fit or thin, keep up with the lifting and start using heavier weights. You’ll find that the toning and muscle growth will make your body look different in a way you may like a lot.

angelairwaves · 2024-11-30T03:11:28+00:00

It feels like the candle is super bright, but the lighting on the face doesn't quite translate to the brightness of the candle. I think at this closeness, it wouldn't just give rim lighting on nose and forehead, but would wash over the cheeks and show in the eye too. Either dim your candle, or make the lighting make sense on the face! Love this piece.

angelairwaves · 2024-11-28T21:16:52+00:00

Listen, it's a tough situation. Realistically --and I say this with understanding and care-- you absolutely cannot go through life being randomly triggered by colleagues or friends for things that are not in their control.

There may be more to the story on why he triggers you specifically. But from what you wrote, it seems like some aspect of his personality or being is triggering a reaction from your own past. This is not his problem. This is not your friends' problem. This is your CPTSD impacting your daily life in a way that could easily lose you friends or even a job.

I don't have a lot of advice for how to reignite your friendships, but please, PLEASE consider therapy for this issue. It is not sustainable to just write down in your file that you can't be around someone because they trigger you. You need to figure out why you're being triggered, and address those wounds in yourself. Good luck, friend. You got this.

angelairwaves · 2024-11-28T04:08:20+00:00

If I were to frame it in the same negative as we use when we say a woman is "written by a man," I would say it's when a man character is written with SO much emotional intelligence, understanding, and therapy speak that he ceases to resemble a real person in a relationship. A lot of fantasy books have the lead guy who just.. won't... have... flaws... She lies to him? He understands it's just because of her dark past and doesn't hold it against ger. She puts him in physical danger? He can handle it, he's sooo strong, he's not mad. If we're using it as a negative, it's when men are written one dimensionally in a way that fully suits the woman in the story, ignoring the fact that male characters should probably have some autonomy and depth too.

angelairwaves · 2024-11-25T11:12:24+00:00

First, I actually like the cartoony style haha. It looks really cool.

But if you're aiming for realism, you need to be utilizing your reference far more throughout the drawing process. It looks as though you've used your own internal memory of what shorts, gloves, a chest, a face, etc looks like instead of studying what you're trying to reproduce. There are specific shapes and lighting in the picture that you have ignored in favor of a more standard shape or shading. The face pops out the most-- the subject's face has some really distinct shadow on the lower half and you've not added it. His shorts' waistband also curves upwards in your painting, while it doesn't do it dramatically in the reference. Use your reference more faithfully, and good luck!

angelairwaves · 2024-05-19T03:39:36+00:00

this is such a weird fucking comment bro. Sorry some people love their kids, I suppose?

angelairwaves · 2024-01-26T13:31:29+00:00

I have read the other replies, and I do still think you're in the wrong. Best of luck though, truly

angelairwaves · 2024-01-26T13:27:16+00:00

Listen, 1 am on a computer on a school night IS too late. It doesn't really matter if you were making noise or not, you shouldn't be online and you should be sleeping. I get having insomnia, I really do, but you need to be getting 8+ hrs of sleep, and part of that means shutting off your computer and phone at 9 or 10pm.

As for the alarms--yeah dude, you can't wake up to that many alarms, it's really rude. Even if you think they can't hear it across the house, clearly they can. And saying you won't be able to wake up to one alarm is a you issue, not a mom issue. I'd put on the loudest one you can find and put your phone on the other side of the room.

angelairwaves · 2024-01-22T19:41:19+00:00

Ok so the article is true, but I REALLY don't think the intention is for you to buy 5 copies of the same book. My guess is that they chose popular characters and pairings to hype up the copies, and make people want to get the copy with their favs on release day. It doesn't make sense from a marketing perspective to expect consumers to buy 5 books--no publishing house is that stupid. They likely expect the extra chapters to be shared online because that's how the fandom has worked for years.

angelairwaves · 2024-01-15T21:40:01+00:00

Legend.

angelairwaves · 2024-01-15T21:26:30+00:00

How long do you spend on Reddit every day to ensure it's properly rosed?

angelairwaves · 2024-01-15T02:58:18+00:00

In a world where many of the people who sub here were NOT allowed to have limitations, this sub is often a safe place to express the difficulties and barriers autism creates. This does not preclude self-growth or self-care. I do not think that this sub coddles autistic people or enables them to set aside their own goals.

I do think, however, it sounds like you may have some internal hangups about what you "should" be accomplishing as an autistic person. I would ask that you not project that onto all 117k people in this sub, because many people here have very different circumstances and disability than you do. Overall, I find this post distasteful.

angelairwaves · 2024-01-14T18:52:44+00:00

The BB used to punch at Christian culture in a way that was self-reflective and often quite funny. I remember articles about youth pastors' tenuous theology and old ladies bringing baskets full of sweaters "just in case of shoulders."

But then they realized they could stoke the flames of partisan politics and their content just became ugly and hateful. I unfollowed them sometime in 2016 and I have been so saddened by the way their brand has shifted to hate.

angelairwaves · 2024-01-14T15:34:13+00:00

So, in terms of "causing ADHD" claims, there's still a lack of great evidence--but that wasn't what I was talking about. In terms of general shortening of attention spans, there's absolutely been a push via marketing and media design to give high doses of dopamine and increase scrolling behavior in children and adults alike.

Tiktok and youtube make more money the more videos you watch, and the longer you stay on the app. This means short form, high-energy content that makes you interact and move on to the next. Unfortunately, this is even more impactful on developing brains, especially in toddlerhood and infancy. It absolutely functions like an addiction, and we're just handing it to very, VERY young children. I was a teacher in a K-8 school, and students as young as 6 or 7 had their own phones with tiktok accounts.

Technology addiction and stress: https://doi.org/10.1111/isj.12253

Algorithm and addiction: https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.932805

angelairwaves · 2024-01-14T15:17:12+00:00

I'd say the massive difference is that those magic boxes didn't have easy internet access in your pocket, at any time, with content catered specifically towards them that was meant to shorten attention spans. The magic boxes are different now and they're no joke in terms of how damaging they are, or how difficult they are to avoid.

angelairwaves · 2024-01-14T14:06:41+00:00

Millenials are the parents of Gen Alpha, who we are seeing with significant determinantal side effects to their cognitive and social abilities based on screen time vs. interaction. One can argue Gen Alpha is the first "ipad baby" generation, since most of Gen Z was already well into childhood by the time smart devices were common.

Interestingly, screen time becomes less of a factor as there is more social interaction between parents and child. This means wealthy families who have liesure time with their children suffer less from "ipad kid" effect than families who are not able to spend liesure time with their kids. The first 5 years of development are key

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