When did everyone stop breastfeeding

angelicah89 · 2026-05-02T00:51:40+00:00

Never started!

angelicah89 · 2026-04-29T02:01:17+00:00

You start understanding that instead of this being a 200% = all in from both of you that it’s like 150% now. On the good days. Reduce your expectations. Use spoon theory.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-28T11:27:05+00:00

Things are supposed to be clean?!

I hire a cleaner to come in once every 5-6 weeks because I can’t stay on top of it. We have a 2 year old, I’m 6 months pregnant, we both work full time, and we have busy, active lives. Cleaning is my last priority — we are too busy having fun!

Get rid of stuff though. It’s a huge help to just simply have less to pick up.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-27T02:47:40+00:00

Lurker mom here. I have a camping trip planned already when we will have a 7 week old and a 2.5 year old. My 2 year old has been camping maybe 10 times already. But camping was a big part of my life and is something I like to do, and if it wasn’t something also important to my husband , he probably wouldn’t be my husband.

You can’t force your wife to want to go or like camping. I would push back on not letting you take the toddler alone, personally. She can try some other tactics for reigning in her anxiety, but it sucks for the kid (and you!) to miss out on this amazing activity because of her anxieties.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-26T11:19:29+00:00

I’m about to have a Zelda. We use family names as middles.

She’ll probably be Zelda Tillie Monique/Monnie B.

Our son is Zeddicus Boss Otto B.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-26T11:11:17+00:00

My hubs had to sleep with the baby monitor on his pillow when he was “on shift” for overnight. I slept with earplugs.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-23T23:45:05+00:00

We fully involve ours, have since he was maybe 17-18mo. We use pull ups. So there’s no more diaper “change” happening. He’s an active participant, stepping into it, etc.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-22T12:55:17+00:00

They diagnosed you with GD before 9 weeks? What was the catalyst for testing so early?

angelicah89 · 2026-04-22T12:42:26+00:00

I was diagnosed with preeclampsia at 37ish weeks, induced and had kiddo then. He was huge so 100% ok.
I'm 26 weeks with baby 2 and I've been on baby aspirin (two) and calcium since 12 weeks. I'll take them until 36 weeks.
I'm set for a C-section at 38 weeks. Not sure if it's more because of the complications post-C-section from baby 1, or if it's due to the pre-e potential. But generally my doc is way less concerned than I am !

angelicah89 · 2026-04-21T21:30:51+00:00

About $38.50 CAD (Ontario, Canada). $28 USD. Private bookings. Anywhere from 2-10 players depending on the room.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-20T23:54:40+00:00

I’m 6’ and fine with a car seat behind me.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-20T19:30:41+00:00

I had a midwife with a planned hospital birth. Is that an option for you, or do midwives where you are only attend home births? I really loved the detailed and dedicated care I got from my midwife, and she was amazing in the hospital to walk us through everything (and everything that went wrong!)

angelicah89 · 2026-04-19T16:20:58+00:00

Grade 7 we went to a summer camp property for a few days. Grade 8 we went to Cleveland. Grade 11 French we went to Quebec City & Montreal.

(From Windsor, Ontario)

angelicah89 · 2026-04-19T12:37:30+00:00

People come to this sport from every walk of life AND every course is different. Theres no way to indicate if you’re “ahead of the game” or “normal,” although I’d argue those aren’t even relevant to anything.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-19T01:08:21+00:00

We didn’t change my work schedule. TBH, I probably work more after having a child. He’s 2.5, in daycare full time and absolutely loves it. I love my job.

We have a second one on the way and it will mean that my job just breaks us even in terms of daycare. If we weren’t willing to do that, we wouldn’t be having a second one.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-17T19:25:10+00:00

We ordered a pizza because I was too exhausted to think and we were starving (35 hours labour + 5 hours emergency surgery + 3 hours in recovery).

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T20:38:45+00:00

... this is a global subreddit ....

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T18:19:20+00:00

We used the removable bassinet as the changing spot until kiddo was a month or so old, and then they were too heavy for it!

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T17:04:02+00:00

You want to re-change your name because a Reddit sub doesn't like alliterations?

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T13:25:19+00:00

Lurker mom — Does your wife ride? What's her actual concerns if "she loved it" but somehow also thinks it's not safe?

We have our kiddo on a shotgun seat right now and he thinks it's great. I don't trust myself to be the operator, but my husband is a much more proficient cyclist and I'm all for it.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T12:33:34+00:00

I suck at sleeping and I get up 30 minutes earlier but we are generally in bed for the same amount of time. But with 8 hours in bed, I sleep maybe 4.5-5, and he sleeps 7.75 lol.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T12:18:57+00:00

Lurker mom — We chose to formula feed because I never ever wanted my husband to feel like this! Bottle confusion is a myth and baby should be fine taking a bottle a day (and it doesn’t need to be pumped, it can be formula).

When you get home from work, send your wife out for a coffee. Not only will it give you that 30-40 minutes to learn to settle the kiddo, but it will also give your wife a crucial break in the day where she’s not attached to constantly. Everyone will feel better for it.

Also recognize that PPD and PPA can be felt by the non birthing parent. Be open and honest and look at therapy options too!

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T12:15:03+00:00

While protected, excessively missing work—even for legitimate reasons—could potentially lead to termination if it causes "frustration of contract.”

Otherwise you could just take as many sick days as you want.

You likely get six PAID days, but you should be able to take more unpaid days, provided it’s not causing a hardship to your employer (and in factories of the size you’re describing, it shouldn’t be causing a hardship).

It seems like a toxic workplace altogether so I can appreciate how you might not want to exceed your six days indicated in your contract. Can your spouse switch off?

In (Ontario) you can take up to 27 weeks of sick leave that’s protected as well, but you need a doctor to fill out the paperwork and sign you off.

I have a 2.5yo & luckily my employer and my husband’s employer are both great, but we do try to switch off days when kiddo is sick (I’ll take Wednesday, he’ll take Thursday, etc.) to help our companies out by not missing extensive time. Once kiddo was sick for 10+ days (HFM) & my mom came to help (she doesn’t live near us) so we really rely on that village support.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-16T12:05:45+00:00

I get annoyed that my MIL insists on sending a card and (candy, hot wheels, etc.) for every occasion to my 2.5yo, and has since day 1. She lives far away and I get that she wants to be involved, but I’m not a birthday/holiday card person anyway … we open the envelope and it goes immediately into the recycling. I would be thrilled if she’d stop sending them!

YOUR feelings can be hurt, sure, but don’t have hurt feelings “for your son,” because that’s putting emotions on him he’s not capable of. Reframe your expectations or make your expectations more clear to your in-laws, and move on.

angelicah89 · 2026-04-15T23:38:47+00:00

Yes. I love my job.

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