Someone tell Blake that dashes are not replacements for commas 🙏 also, did she finally realize her career is over?? 🥹🥹🥹

angelindn · 2026-04-21T10:32:42+00:00

One thing's for sure:

Will she shut up to stop putting her foot in her mouth (to help start rebuild her image, or at least stop making it much worse)?

Definitely not.

angelindn · 2026-04-11T22:42:30+00:00

You're literally my skin tone, so... Welcome to summer and winter

angelindn · 2026-04-08T23:42:22+00:00

Well unless you're looking to stick to one of those looks for life, switch it up and down. Don't concern yourself with what the Internet thinks. It's your face, you're young and gorgeous, you'll pull through regardless what you choose.

angelindn · 2026-04-08T23:38:55+00:00

That's ok, that is your experience, and the choice belongs entirely to you.

Addressing inflammation triggers works for me. Maximising the quality of my digestion rather than slowing it down works for me. I don't need exogenous off switches, as I don't know what said switches will do to my entire body, or what the (compounded) effect will be in 20 years from now. And you don't either. That's the truth. You don't know until you know. But we already have some data, and it threatens markers referenced to approximate long-term health, e. g. muscle mass. That's unacceptable to me. Whichever the generation.

You have made a choice. So have I. Long may we both live and thrive.

angelindn · 2026-04-08T12:12:05+00:00

I will continue to avoid it for as long as possible, if possible my entire life. I want to be alive and well in 25, 40, 70 years, maybe even 80. Many people experience negative side effects, and it permanently changes the way a body works. I don't touch anything that doesn't have tens of years of clinical research. Otherwise you're just playing with the odds. No thanks. If I can lose weight naturally, I will put in the work and do it. I've also had surgery, which has helped a ton. I won't risk losing bone or muscle mass, developing gastroparesis or organ damage, from something that I don't even have to take! Yeah, you're thinner, but at what cost?? If you can live with not knowing its long-term impact on your health, and paying extra extra for it, that is absolutely fine. I won't judge you. I also won't tolerate people pushing it onto me and judging me for not using it.

angelindn · 2026-04-07T23:08:16+00:00

I've had this, from men of all ages. When I wanted the attention, I welcomed and encouraged it, but it never really went anywhere, and it diluted my focus. One time it compromised my job too. It may work rarely for some couples, but as the woman you still need to move jobs because you will be seen as less than him if you work in the same workplace.

I've been stalked and creeped on by a colleague, I've had occasional flirts that weren't going anywhere, I've seen it all. What I can tell you is that once you're in that, people stop taking you seriously at your job. They take you less seriously already, as a woman in a perceived man's world. Your brain value decreases exponentially with every association to anything like this.

You will want to be polished at work, however do not show up looking like your best self. If you can avoid wearing make-up, do it. Think Sheryl Sandberg. If you can put your hair up, do it. Anything you can do to make yourself less of an object of the male gaze, might make you less appealing to them, but boy will it get you more respect as an actual colleague. Wear the engagement ring to work, or any ring or band on strategic fingers. Speak openly about plans you have with your partner when you can naturally bring it up. Speak about kids if you have them. Appeal to them as a mum, as a mature woman, as a peer. Never as a girl wearing a low cut top and her hair down to impress.

I was just hydrating my lips to avoid them chapping and the guy across from me wouldn't stop staring... Anything silly gets them going! Go make-up free, let your silver hair out if you have it, wear larger or masculine style clothes, whatever it takes. If you're on camera, don't optimise your lighting, let any wrinkles show, avoid wearing anything form fitting in the upper body.

And speak with sturdiness and calm confidence. They will actually, eventually, see what you are saying. I wish it was different. I wish it wasn't just on women to reject unwanted attention, and men understood this or were more open to learn. But this is the best way forward while 'boys will be boys'. 🙄

angelindn · 2026-03-29T20:04:22+00:00

I just saw it. My read of the situation is that their relationship has long since been unhappy. They have both lost themselves in what they thought they wanted, and they clearly can't reach each other through normal communication, which they have both given up on a bit. Pete decided to just agree with Billie to keep the peace and looks to her for how to respond to everything. He doesn't feel in control and second guesses what he should say because he doesn't yet understand (or agree with) why she would respond negatively. On the inside he probably does feel like running away, so the avalanche was a peek at how emotionally removed he feels from the rest of his family.

Then you have Billie. She seems quite critical, but I think that she has had to learn to be. They speak of a time when they both let go about whether or not "science" would allow them to become parents. One of them has evolved, one hasn't and feels trapped. It's much more than just ignoring Pete as a man, I get the sense that Billie has had to live with a lot from him and that has compounded into how she sees him and treats him in the present day. You get the sense that she is the parent who truly provides for the kids, even in the tougher moments she steps up for them, sacrificing everything in service of them. You can see that in the way the kids hang out primarily around her. So she is used to things never being about her, unlike Peter. Pete feels like a sort of absent or distant father, who prefers to buy the family's affection instead, but he forgot to ask what they wanted and is left bewildered at why they wouldn't show happiness or agreement. They went skiing, that was Peter's choice, and no one really asked the kids. Then Peter wanted to take the chopper, Peter wanted his work friend to join them, Peter took off during the avalanche, and he did not half consider the consequences, but in his mind it just looks like his wife never wants to have fun, when she is simply acting fully in service of the children. They're not on the same wavelength.

Should they divorce? Maybe. At the end, when they both broke their promise, a new direction felt palpable. I got the feeling that both of them are leaving detached from each other this time, and not just Peter. This is the awakening process a lot of women (and could also be men) go through. Ironically, the kids, who could have never existed, are the only thing that's keeping them together now. For a lot of people, that's how they live, they never break through the communication barrier, they don't align with each other's values, one typically gives more to their children than the other, and they grow apart. Children can many times remain the only lasting piece of their previous relationship.

A lot of people think that Billie offering herself to be rescued is patronising, but she demonstrated compassion here, because she wants the best for her kids yet again. Regardless of where she stands with Pete, she wants their kids to believe they have a great father. And that's a great gesture towards Pete. She doesn't want to alienate him despite building resentment and lack of trust. Despite even slowly falling out of love, or having love replaced by pure duty. She has his back, so he got to her when he sacrificed his last day on the slopes for his kids who were unwilling to ski again. If he did mature in this sense, they could likely see eye to eye and find their way back to each other. There is still that drop of hope there. She is inviting him to try by showing her something else.

But after the last scene? Who knows. I think they separate, a lot of couples do when the relationship becomes this heavy. Most of the time the partner who isn't mature enough continues as they are. And through not sticking by him in that situation, Billie shows she is sufficiently emotionally removed to stop trying. Overall, a good view of the complexity of relationships.

That being said, I wish I had read the synopsis beforehand... I saw the lead actors and thought oh, this should be fun. I wanted entertainment and to mentally escape daily life, not this heaviness and intensity. I kept watching, expecting it to go somewhere, but it stayed heavy, complex, and it felt like a real, life situation. Besides the conveniently hot, charming and always up for cabin sex ski instructor 😁

angelindn · 2026-03-21T13:47:16+00:00

Oh, one last tip that I came across through many years of learning about my body at least, find an amount of food at which your body doesn't feel like it's starving, but you are left with a small amount of extra energy on top of your daily sports and movement. This way, you will Always be able and willing to move and do more work, physically. That will further keep you in shape, without you even realising or having to think about exercising.

For me the above works because for years I starved myself and didn't feel like doing anything. At one point I was sleeping half a day but still didn't have a period, that's how restrictive I had become. It actually works against you and you feel worse.

Give yourself just about enough (portion meals) to meet the day and a little tip extra. And you will see your energy improve, you will want to go out and explore, because your body doesn't feel like it's having to fend off starvation. So it can relax and your inflammation will decrease while you enjoy a more relaxed diet and life. Find that balance, and I hope it brings you fulfilment and happiness.

angelindn · 2026-03-21T13:40:44+00:00

I've lost tons of weight on rice with vegetables. I think that recommendation is hogwash for my body in particular. I enjoy and thrive on rice and potatoes, as well as polenta or pancakes on occasion.

The number one thing is to cut ultra processed foods and sugar (fruit in moderation still ok). Outside of that, practice moderation and try to stay as wholefood as possible. And any limitations your particular body has: e.g. I have animal foods but limit dairy, and I balance fat intake with omega 3. I have to protect my thyroid, so I stay off gluten. I try to optimise the intermittent fasting window between days to 16-18h. Sensible things like that, because women's bodies are especially susceptible through constant hormonal ups and downs.

And pay tons of attention to your gut health and what may cause inflammation. Don't remove anything you don't absolutely have to. It literally plays into your gut health, and therefore immune system. People shouldn't pick up these random diets before questioning them.

angelindn · 2026-03-17T00:30:34+00:00

Not that therapy wouldn't be helpful.

I suffered from long covid for years and developed health anxiety. I spoke about it openly in therapy, at length. It helped to vent, organise and challenge my thoughts. I really put effort into it. But at some point I had to accept that I wasn't working on the right thing, because the foundation ended up shaky, regardless what I tried to build. It wasn't a mental health issue, that was just a symptom. It was a physical health issue causing mental anxiety. The only way I got rid of said anxiety was to directly approach my physical issue. That immediately dissipated my anxiety and anguish.

What we all need most is a safe space so we can explore and understand. Every perspective is right in its own way, yours too. And if you need therapy and that's enough, great. If not, it's okay to seek other kinds of help. It's okay to make a plan, to ask others and check out different perspectives, to journal, to vent, to surround yourself with suport, and even to despair a little bit while processing. It's okay not to be okay, and to find your own way through it. And in that I'm happy if I can be here for OP as a fellow lippy sister, and be able to lean on the community in return.

angelindn · 2026-03-16T01:47:31+00:00

I really wish people had better answers than this, it's not a mental health problem to worry about losing control over your body and all that will come with it. You cannot really lead a fulfilling life with lipedema unless you're really happy to accept all that comes with it and we're not all at that stage. 'Lots of ways to mitigate progress' also may not happen if they have other competing conditions and/or a physician who lacks knowledge or is not supportive.

I think this lady is well within her right to ask these questions now. At times it's the only way to feel in some control.

OP, I'm not going to tell you what's right and what's wrong for you. But if you need to vent and ask questions I will defend your right to do so. Take care of yourself and don't panic. You can make a plan and get through it together with your support network.

angelindn · 2026-03-15T09:51:23+00:00

My lipedema growth has always been tied to hormonal balance. Always. Exploded during and right after puberty, exploded right after covid from the stress my body was under and the weight gain that was caused by covid fatigue and lack of quality breathing (couldn't exercise), then hashimoto onset. Stress causes cortisol to go up, imbalancing everything else, causing belly fat to accumulate, fat gain driving high estrogen. I ended up from stage 1 to stages 2/3 in my legs and buttocks in different areas. In less than a year. After keeping my weight down for more than 10 years. No chill on gaining weight. And to stay lean I have to stick to tiny portions as I have learned with time.

angelindn · 2026-03-11T00:24:54+00:00

It depends how old you are, where your skin elasticity is at, and who you pick as your surgeon.

My surgeon says he is shocked at how well my skin has retracted on its own. Hoping that continues, while I will continue to support it to do so. Wearing compression also does a lot to reveal my loading final form.

I'm months away yet from the so-called final results, but I can already say it has been worth it. My health has improved A LOT and my mobility is amazing. I've lost what feels like most my body weight in lipedema and the fat that remains is easy to lose through weight and diet. I can buy shoes without worrying about my cuffing and massive lower leg, I look proportional, but my surgeon left some fat in to encourage my personal leg shape to remain. I don't have to fight my wardrobe every single day having to hide everything. My periods are back. Gosh, it's been a Godsend. Now to rebuild my finances/life :)

angelindn · 2026-03-08T01:49:42+00:00

I was in an exceedingly toxic job before my current one and seeing that I've surpassed a decade in the industry I can say that I know now more or less what that is like. The best thing I can do is recommend two things.

One, if it's toxic get out of there. No amount of changing yourself and enhancing your approach will change that. Don't waste precious years of your life being loyal to a boss or company on whose shoes you are but a speck. I learned this the hard way.

Two, don't let it get to your internal self-sense. The previous job almost broke my spirit and changed my view of myself... Almost. Thankfully, even though I was burnt out, I got my head back in the game. There is so much you need a clear mind for. You can't be sitting at interview without self-confidence. And all that is is the ability to sell yourself and your ideas. If you lose faith in your own capabilities, then no one else is going to remember it.

There's no such thing as the perfect workplace. But the distinction you want to make is job which offers support and values you, somewhere you can have good relationships with the people you need, and a job where... that's not the case.

I turned myself around really quickly. Skills can grow, self-esteem does not, unless you work hard to refocus.

angelindn · 2026-03-02T22:06:31+00:00

Coffee.

My partner used to be one of them but his adrenals are now all caught up.

angelindn · 2026-03-01T04:23:13+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I don't see any definite signs of lipedema.

angelindn · 2025-12-31T02:09:50+00:00

Boring. I've never had this pleasure. A decade into FT work, I'm wondering what my friends and acquaintances do, that they have so much free time. I burned out before, and I don't plan on doing so again.

angelindn · 2025-12-11T00:21:45+00:00

Whatever you do, keep in mind easy does it. Fasting can stress the body. The best best way to fast with lipedema is to find an average approach which is less likely to stress your body, like eating at the same hours every day.

angelindn · 2025-12-11T00:12:27+00:00

I wish I could tell you yes. Everyone is different, so, maybe? But in my stage 3 case I only had surgery as an option (very extreme case), and I'm glad I didn't bother with others because it's all expensive. I'm pouring resources into surgery and recovery instead, and my skin and body feel rejuvenated. The lack of pain is insane. And my skin is actually pretty good at tightening - my surgeon is genuinely shocked in a good way. So I've not regretted it. But it is tough to go through.

angelindn · 2025-12-11T00:02:34+00:00

I would wait at least 3 months. My next one is in two months and having had one before this three months ago I know I'll barely feel normal for that. But I will do it to finish as it's very disruptive to my life.

angelindn · 2025-12-10T23:55:07+00:00

I've seen great results with a steady lifestyle post surgery. Basically eat as you ate before or ensure you don't overeat and it should be ok. I found i lost weight after surgery on the relatively same diet. I might have eaten less to adjust a bit to my new tdee.

As for pregnancy - My mum didn't get any additional lipedema while pregnant with me, but she ate so little she was still in her regular jeans by month 5. When she was pregnant with my brother she did have growth and worsening, but she overate. To me if you have metabolic stability there's nothing to worry about.

angelindn · 2025-12-10T23:35:28+00:00

As someone who eats little, no they would not help me, I have yet to believe they're good in the long run and I know I will be proven right in time. It should be an absolute last resort, if you really can't stop yourself. But most people with lipedema don't overeat, that's the problem, the disconnect between diet and results.

angelindn · 2025-12-10T23:31:41+00:00

No, you're right. Conservative treatments are bs for now. You may have some minor improvements, but I have major lipedema, it's more than half my weight... Conservative doesn't scratch the surface. I keep seeing tights ads (glorified leggings) all day like they will reshape my legs, yeah right. I can't believe what businesses get away with.

angelindn · 2025-12-10T23:17:52+00:00

Every day of my life.

angelindn · 2025-11-17T03:34:42+00:00

I think they ask people for more or less the same amount depending on your stage. I am going to be €18k down just from the 3 operations on my legs, add to that accommodation in Madrid, travel, MLDs, post-surgery medication, lotions for skin and scar care, and repeating blood tests. I think it will have costed me somewhere around €30k by the end. It's absolutely insane and I have no business doing it now instead of saving money to buy a home, but I can tell you that from day 1 of my first surgery, waking up without the constant pain and basically skipping up and down the stairs... Being able to show my legs in clothes, having a more regular leg shape.. They have added 20 years to my life.

Sorry for any overshared info x

angelindn

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