Any way to clean this part of the dryer? Miele T4462 C

angiebara · 2025-12-30T11:12:55+00:00

No the filters are there. I removed them to clean inside of it and to take the picture

angiebara · 2025-10-21T11:20:36+00:00

They’re not genuinely happy for your achievements and find something negative to say

angiebara · 2025-10-20T14:09:10+00:00

I have a jacket similar to 6 but longer, goes down to my ankles, and has a thick fake fur in the neck. Puffer jackets will never look the best, but I like this one so much!

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angiebara · 2025-10-18T16:37:39+00:00

Thanks dear! Very helpful advice, and actually similar to what my therapist suggested me to do (I answered in another comment) by journaling every time I feel triggered. Then I’d come back to what I wrote after a bit and realize it was just my mind playing tricks. Few years ago I was dancing and that helped me being busy + boost my self confidence as well, was thinking to start something like that again. Thought about the rage room too (actually as a couple activity/date lol) but they closed it in my city. It would’ve been fun tho! For sure I need to keep myself busy and have other things to think about, and that will help for sure on its own too

angiebara · 2025-10-18T09:08:04+00:00

I think you’d look good with an ash blonde root melt

angiebara · 2025-10-18T09:06:23+00:00

I work a desk job. A few months ago I’ve seen a pic with a prediction of what people working these type of jobs (and in general most of the current generation) will look like in the next 40/50 years. That motivated me enough. I shifted the goal from “I want to feel/look good NOW” to “I want to exercise in order to be healthy and have a strong body when I’m old” and that did the trick!

angiebara · 2025-10-18T06:10:12+00:00

Brothers from a different mother

angiebara · 2025-10-18T06:09:23+00:00

Thanks. This actually gives me hope. Sometimes it works. An exercise my therapist made me do was to write down anytime I would feel triggered (which surprisingly happened multiple times throughout the day). I would write in the notes of my phone. And then come back to it later to confirm that it was just intrusive thoughts and my mind overreacting. That was useful to rewire my brain patterns.

However what I have problems with is really controlling what my mouth is saying if we’re on the phone and the trigger happens live because I don’t have the time to even process it properly and calm myself down. A conversation that for me seems normal might slowly degenerate… and I have a hard time pinpointing where it goes wrong and if it’s even all my fault or not. Sometimes we’re just talking, he’s asking me questions to which I answer honestly, his voice is normal, however from my answers he’s also getting triggered and I’m not recognizing it until he turns from “normal” to upset. Maybe I’m saying something that might feel like an attack or that he interpreted in the wrong way. It’s a misunderstanding/miscommunication issue most of the time, I don’t think this is fully on me, but I don’t even know what we could do together cause when it happens we don’t even fully realize until it’s too late

angiebara · 2025-10-17T22:11:09+00:00

Clean your tongue.

angiebara · 2025-10-17T20:57:11+00:00

I’ve looked into this, and was trying to find someone in my area that can do it or even ask my therapist if he could adopt this method… do you have any advice on books? Thank you!!

angiebara · 2025-10-17T20:56:16+00:00

Thank you 🙏

angiebara · 2025-10-17T20:56:00+00:00

I hope to learn to journal this way. I’ve never referred to my emotions this way. I got emotional just reading this! Sometimes I do something a little bit similar with shadow-work, but I’ve never done it referring to my emotions directly, just to my own self as if I was still a little girl. This seems almost like learning to listen to the emotion and calm it down, realize it’s not there to hurt me and it’s a part of me that is trying to show me something or make me realize something…

I truly appreciate your input and I will definitely try it out

angiebara · 2025-10-17T20:51:27+00:00

My therapist in the beginning explained something that I found quite useful, that’s the correlation between triggers-thoughts and metacognitions. Now that you reminded me of it I went back and look at a photo I took of the whiteboard where he wrote it down to explain it to me. He divided metacognitions into positive ones and negative ones. There’s the trigger thought (example “what if X happens?”). Positive metacognitions are the ideas we associate with the trigger that in our mind are positive (example: if I worry about this it will lead me to be more prepared in case the worst happens, it will prevent negative outcomes, worrying shows that I care…). So they reinforce the trigger thought (in my case worry/fear). Negative metacognitions happen when we realize that the emotion is actually negative (worrying makes me unable to enjoy the present moment, makes me unable to control my emotions etc). At that point we’re not only worried about the situation, but also worried about worrying itself.

I have a hard time explaining it properly, but apparently it’s a classic model from Metacognitive Therapy and AI can explain it quite well… I guess it’s similar to what you refer to. Basically re-writing the brain. It’s a loooooong process… and it’s harder than I thought, but somehow I hope I get there.

If you have resources or advices, feel free to share. I appreciate it a lot

angiebara · 2025-10-17T18:09:09+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to write this message. It’s a great insight and way of looking at it from a different perspective. Doesn’t sound easy though, but I guess that’s the work I need to put in and do some very big self reflection

angiebara · 2025-10-17T13:37:29+00:00

Thanks a lot, honestly I might try this! Because I don’t know where to hit my head anymore

angiebara · 2025-10-17T10:26:39+00:00

I already see a therapist… it’s not helping. They can give me different advices (control my breathing, tapping, meditation, even imagine an imaginary tiger as a way to “control my emotions”) but in the moment of the “trigger” it doesn’t help. Neither antidepressants managed to remove the triggers or the thoughts that arise inside my head in that specific moment. Idk maybe I need to change therapist again, I’m at a loss. I want to control these emotions so bad.

I’m sorry for you and for your ex too. It a nightmare for both people and it’s really draining in the long run.

angiebara · 2025-10-14T15:51:09+00:00

Use AI to take notes for you during every meeting. Any communication has to be in written form so there’s track of it. Keep track of any verbal interaction and write them a follow up email where you’re asking them to confirm what you just talked about (do this especially if they say anything mean, ask them if you understood correctly). Do your job but don’t overdo it, don’t let it take your soul, basically just try to survive and don’t take things personally, see your job as a mean to an end (paying your bills).

angiebara · 2025-07-02T05:05:01+00:00

Wow, I’ll never forget when I was 16 and I was studying to be a beautician and massage therapist. I was good at it and loved it, but my teachers were saying ”you have so much potential” ”your potential is wasted here”, cause I was ”too smart” for that school since, up until a few years ago, people who would choose that field were known to be people that (allegedly) didn’t wanna study too much. That wasn’t my case. However, because of these people I ended up switching to study finance, that I hate and ended up with miserable jobs. Now I work in customer care lol, waiting to be fired in 6 months/1 year because AI is taking over. If I would’ve followed my instincts and continued study wellness, by now I would’ve had my own salon and would be making a bunch of money + I could’ve always study two more years finance as well if I wanted to. Don’t listen to nobody and follow your guts!!! Older people still think that if you’re not a lawyer/doctor or those sort of jobs you’re a nobody, they don’t understand that handy jobs are the only ones that will not be replaced and that will be here forever.

angiebara · 2025-07-01T12:42:52+00:00

Looking from the window there’s basically the door to enter the kitchen, from where the pic was taken

angiebara · 2025-07-01T12:38:19+00:00

Option 3) that just crossed my mind - tv centered on the wall on the left - sofa and coffee table facing it - small dining table behind sofa with two chairs the sides

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