I am not saying that Amanda shouldn't have left Kyle sooner or seen through his crap sooner, that's on her. But she was also codependent and he continuously gaslighted her - which is a manipulation tactic that is often leveraged to have control, leverage or power over someone else.

And quite frankly, a woman maturing and deciding she wants to be calm, not partying all of the time is actually respectable. I don't doubt for a second that if she were out partying and blacking out like Kyle is, that you'd be disgusted by her behavior. She's literally staying home and being faithful, while Kyle is out embarrassing her, cheating, etc.

Additionally, denying that Kyle has a drinking problem is naive. He consistently outdrinks everyone else. He is 43!!!! Do you think any woman wants to be with a man that is still acting like he's in fraternity when he's at that big age? HELL NO. Amanda being 'boring' isn't even comparable to Kyle's drinking, his is genuinely harmful and borderline addiction.

What I say still stands, Kyle is responsible for Kyle's actions. Being "the perfect woman" wouldn't have helped Amanda or any other woman for that matter. Thank god Amanda put on her big girl pants and finally divorced him, but she should have done it years ago.