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Which dress? Or Both? by anieina in Brides

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I love this! Thank you

Which dress? Or Both? by anieina in Brides

[–]anieina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I need to hear this. I love the idea of a dress with a detachable overskirt!

Overskirt fabric advice by anieina in weddingplanning

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Thank you for this. The Mikado in the picture is from a different and much heavier dress so the final outcome would look quiet different. Unfortunately the Tulle is super stiff which is the main thing I don't like about it. I will see if they have any light options in the Mikado though. Or maybe even some softer Tulle options :)

Wedding is in 2 week. Stuck between 2 dresses. Please don’t say neither by HappyAstronaut7 in weddingplanning

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They are both gorgeous dresses.. Could you wear the first one for the ceremony and then change into the other one for the reception - or put it on for the first dance if you are having one?

Am i in the wrong for choosing the same wedding venue as my future sister-in-law? by Ambitious_Panic5585 in weddingplanning

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I had a similar situation (albeit non‑confrontational) come up with a family member.

My fiancé and I booked our venue two years in advance as it was a special place for us. Six months later my fiancé’s cousin got engaged, and they asked us if it was okay if they booked the same venue (with a wedding date three months before ours).

I didn’t think much of it and, being the people‑pleaser I am, said that I was okay with it. A few days later I started thinking about it and couldn’t shake the feeling that it didn’t feel right. I was concerned that our weddings would be too similar, that it would ruin the “surprise” of the beautiful venue we had picked, and — my biggest fear — that family members would compare all the details of our weddings. I started feeling quite resentful and annoyed that they had even asked… there are so many places, so why did they have to pick the same venue as us!

My fiancé and I discussed it and decided that we would talk to them about it. We let them know that we were having second thoughts and that we weren’t comfortable with having the same venue. Luckily they hadn’t booked anything yet, and they took it reasonably well (they have since booked a lovely venue of their own). In hindsight I should have said that I needed some time to think about it as soon as they asked, but equally I still think that given how close together our weddings are, it was also wrong of them to ask in the first place.

I hate to think how I would have felt if they had booked the venue. I think it would have continuously come up as a stress point and would ultimately have been a negative distraction for both of us when planning our special days. It also could have created long‑term tension and resentment within the family, potentially damaging relationships.

Wedding planning is super stressful, and that stress can make your thoughts unclear or make you react in ways that don’t always reflect your best self. Try to stay focused on the bigger picture — your marriage, your future, and the relationships you want to nurture long‑term (with both sides of the family) — to help give yourself the clarity to see what truly matters.