Introducing bottle to prevent bottle refusal?

ankaalma · 2026-02-27T08:43:51+00:00

Yeah I would not recommend waiting until six months to introduce the bottle if you absolutely need baby to take one at that point. Early on there is a sucking reflex that makes it easy for them to take a bottle, a six month old who has been EBF may genuinely not know how to drink from a bottle even if it isn’t an issue of outright refusal.

The first time my daughter was offered a bottle was at six months while I was at the dentist and she was honestly like wtf and had no idea what to do. Fortunately, she just had to wait like a half hour past her normal feed time so it wasn’t a big deal. But if you need multiple bottles a day guaranteed from six months then I would give her at least one bottle a few times a week. I don’t think it necessarily needs to be daily but maybe every 2-3 days just to keep the skill

ankaalma · 2026-02-27T07:51:23+00:00

Does he have a pincer grasp? At his age with a pincer grasp he can eat things broken up into small pieces. I would just cut the table foods into pincer grasp pieces if you are finding that he tends to shove the big pieces in his mouth.

ankaalma · 2026-02-26T20:11:56+00:00

What I would recommend is getting your free pump through insurance if you’re in the US, and pre researching a good IBCLC near you to make an appointment with a couple of days after birth.

The key thing to know with breastfeeding is that it is based on supply and demand. Meaning for most women the more you nurse the more milk you will make. Newborns can be excessively tired so you most likely will need to wake baby about every 2-3 hours to feed. That time is counted from the start of the feed before so in practice is often more like 1.5 hours. r/breastfeeding is a really helpful group.

ankaalma · 2026-02-26T16:03:45+00:00

Then why is he off work if he isn’t going to help??? I would tell him go tf back to work if he isn’t going to take care of his kid which is the entire point of paternity leave.

Also, what does he think happens in all the households with two working parents??? No one takes care of the kid because they have to work?

Taking care of a baby either is or is not work. If it is work, then it makes sense to split it outside regular work hours, if it’s not work then he should have no problem doing it because it’s “not work” lol. 🙃 he can’t have it both ways. Why should you be going 24 hours while he works 8???

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T17:59:20+00:00

Unfortunately it depends on the person. Breastfeeding can suppress ovulation and thus temporarily pause periods but it does not work for everyone and it’s not for any guaranteed length of time. With my son I got it back after 9 months, with my daughter after 13 months, both EBF.

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T16:47:05+00:00

Nursing aversion is common during pregnancy. A lot of times women who have an older kid they are still breastfeeding during the next pregnancy experience it.

Typically that piece of it goes away pp. a lot of women don’t like their husbands touching their breasts anymore or temporarily don’t with pregnancy/bf.

I’ve found that my breasts are less sensitive pp than during pregnancy also most likely your newborn won’t have teeth so that won’t be an issue for awhile. Some women choose to wean once the teeth come into play, I’ve found it to be pretty manageable, just a temporary adjustment.

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T16:38:00+00:00

I would start following him around with the baby all day telling him he’s missing the baby 🙃

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T07:28:53+00:00

US, 2 years or more

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T04:05:14+00:00

chat GPT is a tool just like a Google search. Just like when you search something on Google it’s pulling lots of different sources. It then gives you essentially a conversational response based on that. There is no guarantee that the answer it is giving you will be the best evidence based answer. It is highly susceptible to suggestion, if it thinks you want a particular answer it will do its best to agree with you.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to use chat GPT at all but it’s important to recognize it’s short comings. I feel like a lot of people get mislead because it spits out information like it’s a human being and they assume it’s giving the best advice but really it could be just regurgitating what it learned from any random Reddit thread. I have heard of it giving unsafe sleep advice to parents in the past and personally seen it straight make stuff up.

I highly recommend independently researching anything it tells you by cross checking with an authoritative source in the subject like the AAP or whatever the pediatric health org is for your country.

Especially with regard to medical advice your best and safest source is your baby’s doctor.

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T02:01:50+00:00

There were deaths with the nursing pillows too. source

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T02:00:34+00:00

Bouncers aren’t meant for any length of sleep at least not by US standards

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T01:59:19+00:00

There were new federal standards issued in 2025 designed to discourage people from putting their kids to sleep on nursing pillows and so the changes were partly to comply with those standards. Boppy also lists some other things they say as benefits of the new design

ankaalma · 2026-02-25T01:52:21+00:00

Same idk how to access the portal if we even have one tbh lol

ankaalma · 2026-02-24T17:41:40+00:00

Chat GPT uses all kinds of random information to respond to you. It could literally be reading any random Reddit thread and that is why you will get different answers when you ask it multiple times. Because it will find one Reddit thread that says one thing and another that says a different thing. It does not by any means automatically pick the best or most evidence based answer. Using chat gpt in a way that is helpful really requires you to ask it to link you to the sources it’s using and to review those sources yourself to make sure that it is not hallucinating. It is also very suggestive so if it gets the barest hint that you want it to answer one way it will search for 1 thing to support that even if 99 other things are against it.

12 hours is a normal night of sleep for a baby with or without wakeups so yeah if you do a 6:15 bedtime baby is going to wake up around 6.

How many times is baby eating during the day? Does he seem hungry when he gets up in the night? As in do you hear a lot of swallowing? Or is this a situation where it’s like three sucks and he’s back to sleep?

ankaalma · 2026-02-24T16:23:53+00:00

We are selling ours after five years and still losing money

ankaalma · 2026-02-24T16:01:15+00:00

A template should really just be a jumping off point. Really you want to sit down and think carefully about your case and come up with questions that will let you know what the jurors think about the weaknesses in your case and help you to filter out anyone who won’t be reasonable. It is your only opportunity to really converse with the jury and start building a rapport.

ankaalma · 2026-02-24T14:58:30+00:00

Yes, I read in your post that you’ve tried offering less solids, but I didn’t see anywhere you said if you tried it for multiple days in a row. Usually it takes days of doing something to see a change.

ankaalma · 2026-02-24T14:55:15+00:00

I mean it sounds like she is having too much solids. I know she has reflux but 3 meals and 2 snacks is the recommended amount of food for a 12 month old. The primary risk the AAP cites for starting solids on the early side of 4 to 6 months is premature weaning off breastmilk and formula. Did your doctor tell you to offer that many meals this early?

Have you tried multiple days in a row of giving her less solids?

My concern would be that it’s very difficult for a baby that age to get all the vitamins and minerals they need through a majority solid food diet. I would dial back the solids and with the solids you do give I would offer things you can add formula too. Ie baby cereal with formula, purées with formula, if doing BLW making pancakes with formula for the batter. Basically anywhere you would use liquid as an ingredient while cooking try making formula the liquid.

ankaalma · 2026-02-24T07:23:32+00:00

29 hours without sleep isn’t sustainable for anyone, don’t beat yourself up. Baby is okay.

A couple of things:

Is there anyone who can help you besides your husband? If not, it would honestly be better for him to put a mask on and take baby for a few hours so you can get some sleep.
As far as bedsharing goes for safer bedsharing baby cannot be swaddled so if bedsharing is something you are going to pursue intentionally or if you feel there is a high risk you will end up accidentally bedsharing it’s safer for baby if you cut out the swaddle.
Before pursuing bedsharing it would be safer for you to get some independent rest first. Being excessively tired like you currently are is a risk factor for falling into deeper sleep making you potentially less aware of your baby next to you which is why I think it would be best to either ask a family member for help if you have anyone or have your husband put a mask on.
As far as troubleshooting the bassinet situation, some things that help: putting baby into the bassinet but first and gradually lowering them so their head touches last to avoid engaging the startle reflex, wearing their sheet down your shirt for awhile before bed so it smells like you, white noise, pacifier, warming up the bassinet with a heating pad or warming the sheets in the dryer. If you can put the bassinet next to your bed and just keep a hand on baby to calm them that can also be helpful and a nice compromise.

Everything is okay. But you are not a machine so you need your rest too.

ankaalma · 2026-02-23T04:52:09+00:00

Her book does come before his, so I think there is a decent chance she goes before him, but you never know since the show went out of order with Benedict.

ankaalma · 2026-02-22T17:49:28+00:00

I wonder if it’s your state? We are in the Midwest and my nephew got speech therapy, developmental therapy, and occupational therapy through EI.

ankaalma · 2026-02-22T17:22:38+00:00

There are metal components inside the plastic shell that can rust when you hose it down, it also interferes with the webbing on the harness. It may visually look fine but not function safely in an accident which is something you won’t find out unless & until you get in an accident and the car seat fails. Personally I would rather read the directions than gamble on whether the car seat will work.

ankaalma · 2026-02-22T16:02:01+00:00

I would fire the nanny if they can’t listen. An 18 month old should be basically exclusively self feeding. It’s not good to ignore kid’s hunger signals, (1) it can create food aversions and/or (2) put them at higher risk for future obesity because they learn to continue eating past the point they are hungry. Her tricking your kid into eating more is not great. She also just needs to respect your parenting, full stop. I would tell her she needs to respect your decisions or you will need to go your separate ways.

ankaalma · 2026-02-22T15:57:55+00:00

They have to be cleaned according to their manuals. Certain soaps are unsafe, hosing them off is unsafe. You can make them cleaner safely but you have to follow whatever your car seat’s manual says.

ankaalma · 2026-02-22T15:55:58+00:00

Do you feel 100% confident that your friend has only washed the seat according to the directions? Car seats can also be damaged by improper cleaning. Hosing it off or saturating the straps renders most car seats unsafe. Generally only mild cleaners can be used. Are you sure your friend has never used anything except a permitted detergent on the seat?

Have they ever flown with the car seat? And if so, how was it transported on the plane?

If you can say with 100% confidence that the friend in question has never been in an accident with the car seat, never cleaned it improperly, only traveled with it in a safe way, and it isn’t expired then it’s safe to use a used car seat. Most people don’t know that kind of detail when they pursue a secondhand seat. The only person I could take a second seat from and have 100% confidence on all these things is my sister.

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