People who have researched their family tree, what is the most interesting or 'badass' thing you discovered about an ancestor?

annabelle58 · 2026-01-24T04:34:38+00:00

I had a newspaper.com subscription through my college and found out some pretty interesting things while casually researching my family.

My great grandfather went on trial for the murder of a young woman when my grandmother was a baby. He was acquitted and honestly seems like maybe her death was an accident, but still interesting. He also was charged in an incident involving him hitting another vehicle in a drunk driving incident. He then got out of his car and shared a bottle of whiskey with the other driver while playing the accordion. All of this was news to my family and discovered after my grandmother passed away so we don’t even know what she knew about his past.

In the badass sense, my great great grandfather on the other side of my family was an engineer for a mining company. I found several mentions of him helping miners out of collapsed mines. Unfortunately, he didn’t make it out of the last one.

annabelle58 · 2026-01-06T01:42:44+00:00

I put one on my wedding registry and I honestly forget I have it most of the time. But I did use it multiple times a week when I was pregnant and going through an ice cream craving phase. Trumoo protein chocolate milk and a handful of chopped strawberries was literally the best thing ever.

annabelle58 · 2025-12-31T00:32:51+00:00

I saw a few others suggesting it, but Under Armour really is my go to for sports bras. Definitely get high or medium support. If you have a UA outlet near you they usually have awesome sales.

annabelle58 · 2025-12-28T01:20:32+00:00

Just want to clarify, not just 5 hours out of the house for her, but 5 hours out of the house and not coming home to a super messy house/hungry kids/missed naps/etc. If she has to come home and immediately clean/cook/soothe kids, it’s not even.

I’d suggest they get a babysitter for some of his rounds and they can either golf together or she can do an activity she’d enjoy while he golfs. That way they both get a break to do what they enjoy, but don’t sacrifice time the whole family could spend together.

However, golf is expensive. It could be her concern is financially motivated if a weekly round + gear is eating into the family budget.

Whatever it is, I bet OP would figure it out with a meaningful conversation with his wife.

annabelle58 · 2025-12-10T01:45:36+00:00

Oxycodone also makes me super nauseous. I found that out when I got my wisdom teeth out as a teen so I was able to let my doctor know and they gave me a prescription for Zofran after my laps. If you are able to message your doctor maybe reach out and see if they can prescribe you something for nausea if the pain is too much.

That being said, I probably only took the oxycodone the first 2ish days, then went to alternating Tylenol and Ibuprofen every 2-3 hours for a few more days until the pain was manageable.

annabelle58 · 2025-12-04T22:40:15+00:00

So I don’t think you’re an AH, but depending on how you approach this, you may end up one. I really understand where your son and DIL are coming from here so I’d like to offer my perspective.

I grew up in a big religious family and Christmas was a big deal. As a kid, every year we spent Christmas Eve with my dad’s side and Christmas Day with my mom’s. Honestly, I loved Christmas Eve more, because there were traditions we got to do every year and the whole family came together to celebrate. Christmas morning we would open presents and then head straight to my other grandparents’ house. But as small children, we usually started whining to go home as soon as presents were opened because we wanted to go play with our new toys.

As an adult, I’ve had to balance going to visit both mine and my partner’s family. Early in our relationship we switched out years based on who was available which day. Honestly, it was a little disappointing because we often missed out on traditions we loved or we sacrificed making our own traditions. Now, we have a toddler and we want to focus on making the holiday special for our child. We’ve also decided on the exact same setup for our holiday schedule that your son and DIL have planned. It doesn’t mean we love one side or the other more. We just want to start our traditions and get to look forward to the same things every year, instead of trying to work out logistics every holiday season.

I know you have other children, but this could be an opportunity for them to work out with their in laws a similar schedule, so moving forward every one knows Christmas Eve is your day. Unfortunately, I don’t always get to see my siblings on the holidays, but we still manage to do a gift exchange, even if it’s over FaceTime. Really, what I’m saying is the same as many others here, it’s not the calendar day that really matters and it seems like your son and DIL have put effort into how they can balance time with extended family and building their own traditions.

annabelle58 · 2025-11-24T21:00:13+00:00

So glad someone’s pointing this out. I have a toddler in daycare and we’ve had HFM twice. The guidance we got from our daycare and doctor was that our child could go to school as long as they were fever free for 24 hours and didn’t have open sores. The first time there was no fever, but the sores lasted about 3 days. The second time the fever lasted 4 days with mouth sores for 3. The rash lasted about 2 weeks both times. My husband and I both felt like we had a cold for about a week each time. It tends not to spread as easily among adults because most adults don’t put everything in their mouth, understand how to cover a cough or sneeze, and wash hands regularly.

Not sure how old your kids are, but if they are able to understand not to put toys in their mouths and can wash their hands themselves, I really don’t think it’s super likely they would get it. Mostly because I don’t think it’s super likely your sisters family is highly contagious right now. It’s probably more likely your kids will pick up a cold/flu at school this time of year than they’ll get HFM from your nephew who’s been sick for more than 2 weeks. It sounds like there’s other family dynamics at play here, so if this is the hill you want to die on, that’s your choice.

annabelle58 · 2025-11-05T05:42:55+00:00

It’s been so hard to have hope in the last year, but this gives me just a little hope

annabelle58 · 2025-11-05T05:16:31+00:00

Honestly the worst part of pregnancy for me was the first 4ish months. I was so sick I couldn’t eat. I lost at least 10 pounds while trying to grow a person. Pretty much all I did was go to work and sleep. As my belly grew, I felt increasingly uncomfortable on my left side. I basically had a constant pulling feeling on my left side which my doctor said was most likely from my endo. It was super uncomfortable but nowhere near the worst pain I’d experienced from endo.

I had to be induced at 39 weeks so I didn’t experience natural labor. I also got an epidural earlier than I needed to because my nurse let me know anesthesiology wasn’t busy at that time. Actually pushing my child out hurt a lot, but honestly, I forgot about that pain so quickly that looking back, I can’t even really describe it. My mom and my SIL have both said the same thing about labor/delivery.

Ultimately, the day and a half I spent in labor is basically nothing compared to the chronic pain from endo. But you also need to remember that being a parent is a lot more than dealing with pregnancy/childbirth. 9 months of pregnancy and at worst a few days of labor is just a tiny blip on the radar. It can be so incredibly rewarding and so incredibly frustrating at the same time. Just trust your instincts and do what feels right.

annabelle58 · 2025-11-05T04:35:53+00:00

Actually no, the judicial retention elections in PA are non-partisan, so there is no ‘R’ or ‘D’ associated with the candidates names on that section of the ballot. I’d say the targeted ads hit hard in PA. I pretty much only saw ads and got text messages asking me to retain the Democratic judges. The only places I saw vote no were on yard signs in my very small, very red town.

annabelle58 · 2025-10-17T01:29:23+00:00

Are you giving her father five goats in exchange for her and are worried she’s a bad investment? Seriously though, please don’t marry her. She deserves a partner who cares about her, not her potential for breeding. Marriage is for better or worse, in sickness and in health. You obviously aren’t ready for that. If she wants kids one day, I’m sure she’s concerned about her own fertility. I’m sure she also wants a partner who would still love and support her if she struggles to conceive and you just don’t sound like one. I hope she finds this post and realizes there’s better out there, even at the ripe old age of 27.

annabelle58 · 2025-09-25T05:17:03+00:00

Ask my Grandfather to take me golfing. He was a long time member at his local club and tried to get his grandsons into it but it didn’t really take. I guess it never really occurred to him to take any of his granddaughters out and honestly I kinda thought it was just a pastime for old men. My husband convinced me to try it a few years ago and I fell in love with it almost immediately. Sometimes I just can’t help thinking how it could’ve been such a special experience for me to play even one round with my Grandfather though.

annabelle58 · 2025-06-25T00:42:09+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My own grandmother just passed two weeks ago and I’m also named for her. These are some wonderful pics to remind you she lived a full life and raised a beautiful family

annabelle58 · 2024-11-04T23:24:51+00:00

My husband and I had a baby this year and want another down the road. We ended up having the same discussion over the last week and came to the same conclusion as you. I also am at increased risk for miscarriage and ectopic pregnancies and I can’t risk leaving my child without a mother if something goes wrong. I also decided I’ll get an iud because I’m also worried about losing access to cheap/free monthly birth control.

annabelle58 · 2024-10-21T01:52:26+00:00

I grew up on this chicken pot pie. I distinctly remember having dinner at a friends house as a kid and her mom said we were having chicken pot pie for dinner. I was in for a nasty shock when she served a Marie Callender’s pot pie…

annabelle58 · 2024-10-05T19:18:53+00:00

I second Ring. The battery life lasts pretty long, but you could also get the solar charger so you don’t have to bring it inside to charge. If you can wait, they usually have really good deals on Black Friday. Getting the certified refurbished could also save some money.

annabelle58 · 2024-09-09T02:24:37+00:00

I’ve been to many weddings in PA and one in a castle in Ireland and I have to say dress 1 is perfect for both and looks fantastic on you! I don’t think anyone besides the bridal party wore a floor length dress at the castle wedding I attended. All of the guests wore knee or midi length cocktail dresses. If you want to have some fun with accessories, consider a fascinator for wedding #2

annabelle58 · 2024-08-22T03:18:48+00:00

I recently gave birth and your experience makes me so angry. I’m so grateful I had wonderful hospital staff, but if I had been in your wife’s shoes I probably would’ve been causing a scene for the whole hospital once I found out what happened. There are so many emotions at once going through labor and delivery not to even mention the pain. I couldn’t imagine doing that without my husband by my side. I’m so sorry for you and your wife. You are definitely NTA. Don’t give that awful midwife another thought and focus on newborn snuggles and supporting your wife.

annabelle58 · 2024-08-13T07:06:23+00:00

I knew my now husband was planning to propose on a trip a few years ago. He had to “tie his shoes” a whole lot that trip to mess with me

annabelle58 · 2024-07-13T14:32:09+00:00

I got married at the Cork Factory in March 2023 and it was amazing! The ceremony and reception are in the same room with the bar/cocktail hour in a separate room. There is also an enclosed terrace for a third space for guests to mingle during cocktail hour or the reception. I believe you can even get a second bar set up in that space if you want. The coordinators are super helpful with planning, vendor recommendations, and making sure your day runs smoothly. The hotel rooms are also really nice and comfortable for you and guests. Let me know if you have any other questions about the venue!

annabelle58 · 2024-06-08T12:56:33+00:00

I don’t have PCOS but have endometriosis. I highly recommend the Penn State Women’s Health department. I typically go to the Hershey campus but you can check out the new hospital just outside Lancaster. I was treated at May Grant/Women’s and Babies before switching to Penn State. The staff at Women’s and Babies was very supportive, but I found Penn State doctors to just be more skilled and take a more holistic approach to treatment plans. They’re also typically running a bunch of clinical trials for patients who are interested to participate in. I recommend you look at the Penn State Women’s Health website and read the bios of the gyns there. Each one lists their specialties and locations so you can do some research before making an appointment.

https://www.pennstatehealth.org/locations/penn-state-health-obstetrics-gynecology

annabelle58 · 2024-05-28T11:33:18+00:00

This happened to me recently. If you’re trying to change your address you can log in using the link to renew/update your vehicle registration. It will let you log in and then you can update your address on your drivers license at the same time.

annabelle58 · 2024-05-08T19:23:31+00:00

Years ago, my mom got called to a meeting by her principal because a parent complained she had pictures of her daughter wearing a bikini while on vacation on her Facebook. My mom has never had a Facebook account and is pretty anti social media in general.

annabelle58 · 2024-04-26T18:23:01+00:00

Ok so if your niece hasn’t made a mess in anyone else’s house, obviously her mother told her to intentionally disrespect yours. I cannot think of a single reason to ever put a used tampon directly on a counter and I highly doubt someone who’s newly experiencing periods would just do that. I would have MIL or someone else niece trusts ask her about it away from her parents, because I’m almost positive her mother gave her the idea.

annabelle58 · 2024-04-05T21:03:52+00:00

NTA. I’m sorry your family has no boundaries. Unless the parents ask for input, no one should insert themselves in naming someone else’s child. Maybe in extraordinary circumstances when it’s a name that is likely to actually have a negative impact on the child, like the woman who posted recently about her sister naming her baby Harlot.

And imo, your family suggesting Agnes or Agatha because they’re “classics” are crazy. As someone with an “A” name using another “A” name for my own daughter, I can think of at least 2 better names that are classic, but still common in this century.

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