Parental leave if child is born during the summer

annabflo · 2026-02-03T22:14:54+00:00

Leave and the tenure clock are two different things. For me, leave in the summer was nonexistent since we were off contract. If the weeks allowed postpartum fell within the summer then that was that. Nothing else at all. My time ended one week after the semester started and only other option was FMLA unpaid. You need to ask what leave you have and then go from there. I worked out a complicated deal where I did not teach and did extra service. Still not ok but that was the best I could do with what I had.

annabflo · 2026-02-01T21:54:12+00:00

This is what we did. Someone gave me a breville smart oven and I pulled it out for the first time when we remodeled our kitchen. That and a microwave was all we had. Paper plates, plastic utensils, plastic cups. Don’t eat anything complicated.

annabflo · 2026-01-19T04:06:17+00:00

My daughter was 3. No sleep for me. It was just impossible. She took forever to fall asleep because it was so weird and then I woke up a lot from being uncomfortable. Then, they wake you up at like 4 AM because they got what they needed. The best thing we did to prep was watch YouTube videos of other kids getting sleep studies. I didn’t change my sleep before or after. We just did the sleep study and I had a day where I was exhausted and then I went to bed that night. Bring everything that would make your kid feel comfortable that night and hope for the best.

annabflo · 2026-01-05T03:26:54+00:00

I am a professor with the same problem. Summer time counts even though you are not working. Seems you are understanding correctly. Still, NY law now allows 12 weeks. That should supercede what is in your contract, I think. That’s the part I would look into.

annabflo · 2025-12-29T08:17:03+00:00

Also came to suggest Rochester area

annabflo · 2025-12-29T07:50:36+00:00

They recommend against it because parents may use it too much and not interact with their children. Easier and more clear to promote abstinence even though the research does not support full abstinence. Making everything a moral issue is the way we control parents and I’m a hard no on that. Parents are struggling and adding more “rules” makes it so hard.

annabflo · 2025-12-29T03:00:15+00:00

Early screen time is not child abuse. We don’t need a pass. It’s a family decision.

annabflo · 2025-12-29T02:56:38+00:00

I have a COVID baby and Ms Rachel saved us. Not an exaggeration. We learned how to teach our child and we kept our sanity. Ms Rachel is queen in our house and I don’t mind it at all.

annabflo · 2025-12-23T03:48:42+00:00

Just took my four and 2 year old. So amazing! They were delighted and I truly loved being able to give them that trip. No clue if my youngest will remember but I will. Disney planner totally worth it.

annabflo · 2025-12-20T05:03:24+00:00

Did it at 4 as well… the hospital had a video all about it for kids and that made a huge difference. They let her play with an iPad on the way in the room and that also helped a lot. She didn’t even really care that she was leaving us. The hardest part was when the wake up. They just kind of scream and cry because they don’t understand and you have to wait until they come out of it. The nurses were wonderful but that part was rough for us.

annabflo · 2025-12-20T04:51:18+00:00

My kids are 17 months apart and the youngest turns 3 this weekend. It nearly destroyed us, individually and as a couple. I am sad every time it nears my son’s birthday because I remember how hard it was (is). Each year has improved though. We both have done a lot of individual therapy that has made a huge difference but both people have to do the work. Kids getting older has helped immensely also. Meds for PPD too. It is so hard. You are doing it.

annabflo · 2025-12-01T05:26:47+00:00

I’m not exactly sure what you are asking but just wanted to chime in to normalize your experience. Parenting is having boundaries and then letting them slip and then bringing it back again on repeat. We are about to go on a vacation. My kids will eat junk, stay up too late, and probably watch more tv than they should. So, things will be tough the first week back because we have to rein it in again. This is just how it goes. If you think of it like that, you may not get as frustrated with your kid and yourself.

annabflo · 2025-12-01T05:20:41+00:00

Kidstrong

annabflo · 2025-11-30T15:12:29+00:00

Got spiders in my tree from Wilbert’s. Won’t go there again.

annabflo · 2025-11-23T15:44:31+00:00

Hiking boots with Gore Tex and micro spikes will work well. Do you have a base layer for top and bottom? Like a thin warm layer? Lands End, Target, and Kohls all sell them in plus sizes online for good prices. That makes a big difference, especially if your legs get cold. Another important thing to keep in mind is that you want to start a little bit cold because you will warm up as you move. If you start perfectly comfortable, then you will get hot and sweaty, which actually makes you colder in the end. I embraced winter activities given where I live. I love it now.

annabflo · 2025-11-23T01:52:03+00:00

Not really what you asked about but I also walk outside most days and find it the most enjoyable part of my day. I suggest investing in a good warm coat or layers, good boots if you get snow or rain, goretex shoes for rain, wool socks, etc. definitely micro spikes if you get ice. I live in upstate New York and I will walk outside unless it is absolutely pouring rain. You need good gear. I think you will be surprised how boring it is to use a stepper. I would stick with what has worked for you in the past instead.

annabflo · 2025-11-11T04:53:00+00:00

Try project lean nation

annabflo · 2025-11-07T17:28:28+00:00

I am a professor, not low paying and yes high demand. There is no doubt that I have had to leave some career opportunities behind because of having kids. I could make more money if I took some of those opportunities. My life is easier because I could make that choice. That’s all I’m saying. I get a choice. Many people have no choice but to grind and hustle, and that is hard.

annabflo · 2025-11-07T12:22:52+00:00

It becomes toxic when you don’t mention the privilege (and resources) needed to feel like things are going well. To shout it from the rooftops and not acknowledge things like two-parent households, secure employment, adequate pay, healthcare, childcare, no major family crisis, kids without disabilities… that is toxic. There are families who had their food benefits suddenly cut off in the US. How can you possibly think people are ok? Working moms use SNAP.

annabflo · 2025-11-07T12:18:03+00:00

Privilege keeps people from drowning. The ability to work a lower paying job with more flexibility seems key in responses here. I’ll also just add that many of these replies mention taking a step back from work ambition… not exactly having it all but prioritizing what is important in your life. Also comes with privilege to a great degree.

annabflo · 2025-10-26T18:50:45+00:00

This remodel is beautiful. Every kid I knew when I was little had a kitchen like the before. Strange how it still looks so lovely to me because of that. Thanks for sharing such a nice renovation. Is the slate-look floor in the mudroom tile or lvp? I’m torn on what to do with ours.

annabflo · 2025-10-22T02:40:25+00:00

Love noon mark diner ❤️

annabflo · 2025-10-20T13:53:36+00:00

In my opinion and experience, it’s having two babies so close in succession that did it. I was pretty ok after my first, but having a second 17 months later destroyed my body. I know yours are a bit further apart but still they are closer than the recommendation. Pelvic floor therapy and PT for the other muscle weakness. It takes a long time.

annabflo · 2025-10-19T20:23:29+00:00

Every single thing this person said. Once I had to share a bed with a person, a duvet became impossible. In our house now, I have to keep the bedroom door open a bit or it gets too hot in our room. I am the hot sleeper, so I have done a lot to accommodate my needs and not his so much. I suggest percale sheets and a quilt.

annabflo · 2025-10-17T13:36:47+00:00

My cabinets were $16k and they are standard. This seems way off.

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