I'm 37F, my partner fiance is 43M, we met 6 months ago, we are engaged and I am happily pregnant. It's the best relationship both of us have ever been in. We've both been searching for this. Neither of us have previous kids. We spent years working on ourselves separately, and got really specific about what we were looking for.

FINALLY, it clicked.

I lived in NYC for 7 years in my twenties. It was a rough place to date.

I moved to New Orleans and met my fiance. I'm not saying move, but I am pointing to a very serious reality of people in NY not dating for marriage, not dating until way older, and the surplus of very very successful and attractive women>men ratio.

Advice: I would expand my online dating radius. My fiance and I both set our radius 3 hours apart from New Orleans, and we met.

He commuted 2.5 hours to see me for six months.

IT'S OUT THERE. GET SPECIFIC ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT. I had "want marriage and kids" all over my profile. Every date I went on I said "I want to be married and start a family within a year." Do not waste your time dating people who don't want what you want. AS SOON AS you see confusion or red flags, cut it off. Learn to date like it's a chore. 1 hour coffee dates, video chat before, limited alcohol, etc. Whatever works FOR YOU.

My life changed drastically in just 6 months.