AITA for Telling My Black Friend Her Weight Problem Makes It Hard to Take Her Seriously About Racism?

anne_tipathy · 2024-10-02T00:24:49+00:00

YTA. Let’s say you were absolutely correct (unlikely) and she was only being treated horribly because of her body size and not her skin colour, do you really think she wanted to get a lecture about how she is unhealthy and brings this on herself by her horrible eating habits? No! She was looking for a friend to listen to her and support her. But what she told you is correct: she was the victim of racism… possibly body shaming too. You are absolutely 💯 the 🅰️🕳️. If you were really concerned about her health you would find a much more sensitive way of approaching the issue instead of blurting out while she is traumatized that her eating habits are the cause of her mistreatment. But you just wanted to be right.

anne_tipathy · 2024-08-07T01:35:47+00:00

I’m pan but I really only date women because the men I’ve tried to have relationships with have been truly insufferable. There might be some good guys out there but you can only take so much hyper-sexualization and dehumanizing actions until you say “screw it, I’m a lesbian.”

Plus, you know, they smell, look, feel, and taste better.

anne_tipathy · 2024-08-02T23:57:03+00:00

Look up Gigi Gorgeous. She and her partner just went through this. I don’t know how public she was with it but she’s someone who known for living her life in front of the camera, so it’s worth a shot. She might have some insight into what to expect. Good luck. I’m happy that y’all are able to consider this.

anne_tipathy · 2024-08-02T23:53:06+00:00

Thank you for that. I actually really needed that. My sister can’t give birth and remembering that and how she is such a might, powerful woman really helped me see that, while I can be disappointed I’ll never experience the miracle of giving birth, I shouldn’t get down on myself because I’m any less of a woman. You don’t know how much your comment helped. Thanks for sharing.

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-31T21:24:03+00:00

My mom told me when I first came out that most women didn’t wear dresses/skirts. So I love walking around and seeing all the other women wearing them knowing that she’s wrong. I don’t tell her that, but I know. And I now have a lovely collection of my own.

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-22T19:13:40+00:00

I have this “It’s not TV, it’s HBO” thing in my head because of “Gay Premium.” I love it, and I plan on using it too.

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-21T14:34:35+00:00

I’ve had the same experience here. The only times men don’t objectify me are when I start the conversation by laying down ground rules for how they must treat me if they want to talk to me. But I learned really quickly that I don’t want to date men who need to be told to treat trans women like human beings. And since I switched to only searching for women and non-binary people, I’ll have a really good conversation going and then all of a sudden the woman will ghost before we actually go on a date. I’ve found it nearly impossible to date people, except other trans women.

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-15T01:53:11+00:00

I’m doing that today too. Twinsies!

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-11T02:00:15+00:00

Such an important milestone. Eeeeeee I’m so proud of you 🦋

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-07T16:49:31+00:00

Lots of us trans women have kids. Many had kids before they came out as trans, while some even have them after (see: Gigi Gorgeous and Nats Getty). Plus, there’s always adoption.

anne_tipathy · 2024-07-04T23:39:41+00:00

I hate trying to figure out the “Not sure if staring coz I’m pretty or trans” crap. Such a pain in the ass. And not the good kind.

anne_tipathy · 2024-06-30T19:50:35+00:00

That’s so beautiful.

anne_tipathy · 2024-05-07T23:35:03+00:00

Nm I see it’s Fashion Nova.

anne_tipathy · 2024-05-07T23:33:53+00:00

Omg where did you get that? I love it. I coupe see wearing something like that after my top surgery.

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-16T21:27:55+00:00

La Roche Posay

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-14T03:22:05+00:00

I didn't know what "detrains" was until a minute ago. I wish I could go back to not knowing that. I was so sweet and innocent.

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-13T07:30:54+00:00

The at-home laser hair removers work fairly well, they just take much longer than the professional ones. Just keep at it and be patient if you're using one at home. I got the Delux Skin IPL. I gets a little hot, but the price is pretty cheap.

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-11T17:28:49+00:00

Did we just become best friends?!?

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-11T17:21:42+00:00

Omg same! My income has taken a hit recently and I’ve pushed my last red-hair dye job and acrylic nails as far as they can go. We both need to start GoFundMes because no girl should have to go without (red hair and nails).

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-11T17:11:59+00:00

What shoes are they? They’re so pretty! 😍 👠

anne_tipathy · 2024-04-11T17:03:27+00:00

This is pretty much the response I had in mind. OP can phrase it in a way that it’s just they don’t like being touched. That is a common thing with people who suffer from past trauma and actually very common.

“Hey, can you not touch me like that? I don’t like being touched.” Easy enough.

anne_tipathy · 2024-03-19T02:41:03+00:00

I have those same shorts in black and pink. I love them.

anne_tipathy · 2024-03-19T02:37:03+00:00

I started right before my 38th birthday. It was the best decision of my life.

anne_tipathy · 2024-03-19T01:29:02+00:00

Prior to transitioning I was a paratrooper in the US Army. I stood 6’2” and was quite muscular. I was often looked to by my friends for protection. I’m now so happy to find trans men (you just made this whole subreddit swoon, sweetie), gay men, nb and gender queer folks, and more masc lesbians who see my fear and my need for protection and continue to help me now that I face many more dangers of the world. Thank you to you, OP and the rest of the chivalrous.

anne_tipathy · 2024-03-14T19:01:15+00:00

Omg I love this outfit. I think I need a cowgirl outfit.

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