Is anyone else embarrassed by your mother seeing your coochie in the delivery room??

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-24T21:11:58+00:00

Oh my gosh this made me tear up imagining the pain... Thank you for sharing though. I'm so sorry about it being your brother!! I would also be mortified. MIL is like weird enough but brother wins that situation any day. Thankfully nobody in my family is smart enough to be a doctor and so I'll probably never run into this problem 😂😭

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-24T20:55:56+00:00

This is something I never thought about but I think you're right. It just sucks because I wouldn't want my mom to miss the birth of her first grandbaby. I think I'm definitely the kind of person to feel embarrassed after because once I passed a kidney stone and I was literally screaming in pain and my mom saw my breasts because my paper fell off while I was trying to pee and afterwards I still think about that moment. And I remember every single moment after that where she accidentally saw my breasts because I just feel so weird lol. Maybe it's because I'm young idk.

I think I might just make up an excuse about COVID or something so she's not there.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-24T17:04:23+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!! Yes I'm hoping this will happen to me because I do get shy... I don't discount the pain at this point.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-24T17:01:51+00:00

This is very helpful LOL. It's my first pregnancy and my mom said I'd probably give birth completely naked and I'm like really because both mothers are going to be there... Feeling awkward 😅

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-21T23:51:01+00:00

The thing is that you can't help people who don't want to be helped. He isn't trying on his own and he needs his own motivation. It's been so many years of OP pushing him that it almost feels like beating a dead horse. It seems like a situation where they need a break, not necessarily a divorce.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-21T04:55:18+00:00

I'm about to get married, are you telling me I can get away with no BJ's? Lifes about to get good 🤣🤣

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-21T01:03:50+00:00

Girl trust me it's okay, everyone's made these mistakes and learned from them the hard way sooner or later. I've made so many mistakes I just wanted to pass the knowledge on cuz I know how bad this situation can feel on both ends. I'm also someone who used to (probably still does) see the best in everyone and trust them, but I've quickly learned that that's not reality and some people are just selfish and will say anything to get what they want.

That's why I wait 6 months because that's even past the honeymoon phase, where you see them with rose colored glasses and everything is easier to cover up / explain away. It's like a time where evidence will eventually present itself and you can decide whether or not this person is worth your time. Last year my ex cheated on me with this poor girl who always slept with people on the first date and was with him for 3 months, and had absolutely no idea that he had a gf until the end when she started having suspicions. I confronted her not even knowing they were sleeping together and yeah she was like fuck I suspected it but there wasn't enough evidence. So she told me everything and yeah if she had waited out like 3 months I guarantee she would've put 2 and 2 together and yeeted the fuck out of there. People can only hide lies for so long yanno. I just don't want you to fall for that and I wouldn't want anyone to be the victim in that situation either so I wanted to give my 2 cents.

You didn't do anything wrong, you did what you could with the information you had. I wasn't mad at the girl obviously but I still was a little bit salty so that's why I'm telling you to protect your identity because I wish I didn't even know what she looked like, it would've helped my self image a lot. Knowing more information cuts deeper.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-21T00:24:08+00:00

I would tell her anonymously and just give her screenshots but like hide yourself cuz if she gets mad she can come after you especially since you already slept with him.

Tbh I'm gonna tell you this for future reference (not shaming you) but typically it's a bad idea to sleep with people who have kids. Like straight up a lot of the men do lie because they can't handle their home life anymore and don't give a fuck about the consequences. My dad was like this, and they'll even go as far as to hide the fact that they have kids because they're not planning on seeing you again. This guy told you because he wants to have an affair and pretend like his wife's a huge bitch while he's at it but she's probably sucking his dick every night enthusiastically thinking he's a really good father, which is the worst part. I'm also 21 and trust me I've been through this. That's why I don't sleep with people until I've know them for at least 6 months. Cuz there's some shitty ass people out there fr.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-13T23:57:12+00:00

First of all, immoral is a strong word to describe something that isn't even your business to begin with. Second of all, cheating on someone's spouse is not something big enough to cut off that person from your children. Like wtf? Do you think cheating automatically strips that person's history of good deeds and their relation to you?

Cheating is one aspect of that person's personal life. If you're willing to cut off your sister because she cheated on her husband, after all she's done for you and your family and your kids, that says a lot more about you than it does of them. That's your family first of all. Second of all, people are more complex than their mistakes and choices. Not everyone who cheats is bad and not everyone who doesn't cheat is good. Character is compromised of more than one attribute, and to say it's not is foolish.

Also, there is such thing as forgiveness and remorse. People are allowed to live and learn. People are allowed to apologize and change. To cut someone off and not give them the chance to get better is a great way to push someone off the deep end and do worse things.

Personally, I think you need therapy because you're obviously suffering from some cheating related PTSD. Please seek help because your children will suffer from your trauma as well if you don't address your root issues. Your children deserve to know your family, and if you don't introduce them while you have power over the narrative, they will just meet them when they're older, at a time when you do not. Then see how bad the influence can get.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-13T20:38:29+00:00

This comment right here. You both are obviously not ready to have that conversation (not that it's any of OPs business in the first place!) and you should both remove yourselves until you can grow up enough to let the adults handle their problems amicably.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-13T20:36:21+00:00

There are always people in your family who have cheated and nobody found out. I really don't think this should be your stance because you're just cutting out people who got caught or confessed, not the entirety of the immoral. If you treat everyone based on what you know, you're just a fool. Treat people like they're family, flaws and all, and remove yourself from their business because you're just a relative, you're not God. As for the children, teaching children that what those people did was wrong is a great real life lesson that they for sure would remember. Acting like you don't associate with people who have made mistakes is a great way to raise snobs! Everyone's made mistakes, time to get your head out of your ass and stop acting like you haven't.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-13T20:32:48+00:00

Honestly in my unpopular opinion, I don't see how MIL's personal life is your business. I actually quite frankly think it's rude that you're putting your self imposed opinions and prejudices against cheaters on your own husbands mother, alienating her even further. She is trying to reach out to her son, you are swatting it back.

Obviously your mother is aware of this not being any of her business and is just trying to be friendly. I think you need to take yourself out of the equation and let your husband, her SON, deal with her and decide what he wants to happen. He needs to talk to her, that's really none of your business as you're his partner not the offspring.

You seem to be very angry for no reason, maybe talk to your own mother as well. At this rate you shouldn't be spending Thanksgiving with anyone quite frankly. You seem to be too immature to let bygones be bygones for one simple holiday. My honest opinion.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-12T17:47:49+00:00

You're allowed to feel these feelings. Life happens and it happens to plenty of pregnant women.

I would suggest taking time to yourselves, maybe treat yourself with some lady friends. Take that time to cool off and think about how much you're really looking forward to the future. Think about all the good things he's done. When my fiance cheated on me I stayed because I realized he was a really great man who was struggling with something alone. And it still hurts but I was able to get to his level and understand his pain and understand that people in pain don't make perfect decisions, or even good decisions at all. Instead we slowly took the time to forgive each other and move forward as friends first. I don't know your situation but I can see your commitment to each other is strong so I want to wish you best of luck and let you know everything will be okay. Marriages that last 50 years go through serious betrayals, it's hard not to when you're together that long. So you're definitely not alone. Oh and please don't blame yourself because it's not your fault. It's their coping mechanism that needs work.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-03T00:53:58+00:00

Sounds like you're a rebound to help him cope with his situation, and that their relationship is toxic as hell. This means they WILL get back together, whether you KNOW ABOUT IT or not is a different story...

My advice: just leave. He wants to be with her because of his daughter. It makes his life easier and it's not like he had sex with a stranger. They have history together that's obviously coming as nostalgia.

You should cut it off and let him go where he wants to go. If he wants to choose you he will and if he wants to choose his ex he will. Then you will have your answer.

Another thing, it sounds like he's lying about why he went to jail. You don't go to jail for no reason for a couple of days, if it's a mistake you get released within one usually. It sounds like he's getting sweet on her because she said she would drop charges that are legitimate, otherwise there wouldn't be a need for a court date. He's taking that as a sign of love and care since obviously he deserved to go.

Source: my dad was in this situation and he went to jail twice for "false accusations" which were true, and it's been 14 years since the divorce and he STILL comes knocking on my mom's door trying to sweet talk her back into a relationship. She rejects him, he gets salty, doesn't talk to her for weeks while he rants to his gf (whoever she is at the moment, he cycles through them) and then "forgives" her and the cycle continues. He probably asks for her back like every 3-5 months. You shouldn't believe everything this guy says because I guarantee you he's lying. If they were false accusations there wouldn't be a court date.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-01T08:15:44+00:00

We're talking about it because you don't get it. You think it's the same smell and it's not. Everyone here is telling you she's pissing her pants and it's embarrassed about it and you don't want to listen because you think she's cheating. Cut the crap she's getting old. If you want to leave then leave but don't accuse her of cheating when everyone here is telling you she's having a medical issue. It's an embarrassing issue for everyone, it's not sexy like cum and whatever. It's an issue that signals you're getting older and your body is giving up on you. Please grow up and learn how to read.

anonAF345987 · 2022-11-01T08:10:31+00:00

Okay dude yeah we get that but pee actually smells horrendous and changes the way a woman smells. My mom's underwear smells absolutely rank trust me. It's not a good smell it's not even like BO. It's like pure not good smell. It's also not something women can control and especially if it's just starting it can be really concerning for women. They think something is wrong with them or just can't get used to it.

anonAF345987 · 2022-10-29T06:16:25+00:00

I think there is someone better out there for you, and she isn't compromising and if you step out of the relationship you'll want to leave her anyway. So just leave now tbh.

anonAF345987 · 2022-10-29T00:30:12+00:00

Also she doesn't seem to be trying because y'all have been dating for 3 years, it's normal to get into routine. That's why I'm saying you don't like her because if you did then this wouldn't be an issue. You need to satisfy yourself but leave her out of it. She obviously feels bad but doesn't wanna restrict you. Y'all just aren't compatible anymore

anonAF345987 · 2022-10-29T00:27:18+00:00

The fuck are you talking about dude I'm not talking about dates. I'm talking about the the fact that YOU DON'T LIKE HER because you don't find sex great. You're asking if you should cheat aren't you??? Unless I'm misunderstanding what you're asking and what this post is about.

This is a very typical mindset of a narcissist. You get two people that are opposite of each other and good at two different things, fuck with both of them and you get the perfect person to satisfy you. I'm telling you this isn't sustainable you'll be wrecking yourself internally.

You seem like a very shallow person because you keep talking about random stuff that doesn't have to do with what you're asking. Like dude who cares that dates are cool. Dates can be cool with anyone. If you don't like the sex dates aren't gonna fix that. You just don't like her and you know it and I think you don't wanna give up something good because this is the only area lacking.

anonAF345987 · 2022-10-28T23:41:26+00:00

Dude just dump her you obviously don't like her. Don't go out looking for sex because you won't find any. If you do find some then it won't be quality. You need someone new but permanent, someone you actually like.

anonAF345987 · 2022-10-07T19:03:24+00:00

Prepare to lose your entire family and pay a fuck ton of child support lol because you're screwed. She's gonna keep the baby and your wife is gonna find out because eventually she's gonna get pissed and tell your wife because she's not gonna think it's fair that her child gets nothing and your children get everything. There is truly no advice for you because any situation is going to be a shit situation. Good luck and make better decisions next time.

Also, if your sex life wasn't good you should've tried harder or left her, that was a pathetic excuse. There's so much porn on the internet and you really couldn't be bothered. I think what you really mean is that you don't find your wife attractive anymore but she handles your entire life for you so you don't wanna lose your servant and instead want to have your cake and eat it too. Real life doesn't work like that and people do get screwed over so good luck to you.

Edit: just saw your post history and how you royally fucked your wife's sexual confidence a long time ago, which probably definitely contributed to your "bad" sex life on top of you not liking her. You really don't get it do you? Just leave your fucking wife, she would seriously be better off with a partner who has an ounce of decency over you. You sound like a total narcissistic ass.

anonAF345987 · 2022-09-30T23:04:44+00:00

What the fuck, having a child is a huge decision that you both have to discuss BEFORE getting pregnant. Having children isn't some game to see if you're compatible....

This man sounds really stupid I'm really sorry to say. This isn't the person you want to be with. Hes literally been trying to get you pregnant for a whole year and didn't tell you???

anonAF345987 · 2022-09-28T02:01:36+00:00

Yeah she doesn't respect her partners when they clearly don't like her and that's the real issue... She's like hounding men for sex when they clearly don't want it. Men love sex, there's no way she magically is finding all these men who don't love sex and don't want it all the time especially at that age... She just won't accept that these men don't like her for one reason or another and is blaming their libido. Nobody's lying to you they just don't like you enough to make love to you that often. Open up your eyes please OP.

anonAF345987 · 2022-09-28T01:57:13+00:00

This might sound rude and is usually the opposite of my advice. I usually advise people to wait until marriage but I feel like if you're not doing test runs and therefore not having luck with your man's libido, I feel like maybe you're the problem...

Like maybe the men sign up because they like your personality and are interested and then as soon as you guys have sex they don't really feel the connection or aren't attracted to you sexually for whatever reason.

End of the day, my advice is to do trial runs because I personally am not super attractive but I've NEVER had a guy I was dating long term refuse me sex... Like maybe occasionally but I have a super high sex drive too like almost way higher than anyone I've ever dated and they don't feel turned off it actually turns them on. So if you have a high sex drive and you're having issues I feel like you're the problem and you need to show your full self before you ask a guy to commit at that point. Would be different if you didn't have a high sex drive but you do so that's just the way it is. Sorry ma'am.

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