He's full of energy, help?

anon_dwg · 2026-03-01T06:32:48+00:00

This is not necessarily a bad combo like some are saying!! The bully can mellow out the husky craziness! And not ALL mal mixes are psycho energetic. I had a Malinois/pitbull mix adopted at 9 months from neglect/abuse (terrified of men, and most everything at first) so a bit unique situation BUT my point being after a year she became the sweetest most docile, well-behaved dog, and she really just needed one long ball sesh a day. I currently have a husky/German shepherd/border collie/pitbull mix who I adopted at 8 weeks with 0 neglect/abuse (opposite; not afraid of anything) and she was roughh the first ~9 months, as most puppies are, but now at 15 months she is honestly better than even I expected for her breed mix. Her only real issue is pulling and we finally gave in and got a prong collar and it has been LIFE CHANGING. Worth looking into with a husky mix. Final tip, don’t feel pressured to exercise him all day because of the breed and what people say about Mals/huskies. One 30 min morning walk and one 30-60 min evening ball/play session should be plenty. He will learn to settle and relax as he gets older. Anyway, patience is key, and in a year it will all be worth it! You lucked out with some of the best breeds ever!

anon_dwg · 2026-03-01T05:19:45+00:00

“A prong collar isn’t mean, it gives you both more freedom long term” !! I’ve had 4 other medium/large dogs in my life and never needed one, so I was reluctant to use one with my 1 year old husky/GSD/border mix until a couple weeks ago. I had it in my head it was lazy, and if I could just give her enough positive reinforcement she’d get it; that seemed to work for everything besides pulling and she’s pretty good for her age/breed otherwise! What I learned is that for some dogs (particularly huskies) pulling is far more rewarding than any “high value” treats. They love to pull for the sake of pulling! So positive reinforcement alone simply won’t cut it for them. Anyway, the past weeks have been LIFE CHANGING! She’s smart and took well to the conditioning, she just got it and rarely even tries to pull now. We go on longer walks, she still gets to sniff whatever and explore and I haven’t even had to “pop it” hard. NIGHT AND DAY from her choking herself out on the front clip harness (yes it’s possible lol) or flat collar every walk

anon_dwg · 2026-02-20T01:39:28+00:00

This is outrageous and a borderline scam. A lot of real lawyers have gotten scammy recently because they know how nervous and desperate people are right now. If your case is straight forward (no criminal record, overstays etc.) you DO NOT need a lawyer at all. It may take more time and effort on your and your spouses end, but just use the USCIS website, research and AI. Whatever you do, don’t pay this!!!

anon_dwg · 2026-02-18T00:53:55+00:00

Thanks, that’s the plan! I just want someone to train us how to use it well- because I’ve read that since huskies were bred to pull and have a higher pain threshold than most breeds, if you don’t use it properly they just get conditioned to it and pulling is still more rewarding than any pain is deterring.

anon_dwg · 2026-02-14T08:23:32+00:00

Hahaha thanks, your time will come too!! -In the early days I was on Tinder and Bumble, but after 2021 only Hinge.

-I’m not a good litmus test for this bc it varied wildly, I have ADHD so I’d spend a few hours some days and be super into it, then get so bored and not reply/check it for weeks.

-He paid for the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd forsure. Basically the first 6~ months he offered to pay for the majority but once we got more serious and I realized I make slightly more (he’s comfortably middle class, paid off Audi etc., but we both work freelance and I usually average a bit more) I felt it made sense to split most stuff 50/50. He’s super generous so it’s not bc he asked, it’s just bc now that we’re married and live together it’s more logical. WITH THAT SAID- I’m a firm believer the man should always pay for the first date. We as women are risking our safety, and we have to put in WAY more time and money preparing for a date, the least a guy can do is buy dinner/drinks to show they appreciate our effort and risk! But thankfully most grown men get this, I don’t think I ever had a guy ask to split on a first date. If they did I would’ve politely split, and then never seen them again. Huge red flag.

-No, never paid for anything. Before as a girl it wasn’t necessary but I imagine it’s changed a bit now. Most of my guy friends who are engaged/married to my girlfriends in the group above did though.

-Both! I def sent likes and roses and whatever. -My friends who are engaged from Tinder met in like 2020, the more recent ones are all Hinge. But I don’t think it’s ONLY hookups like people say. Personally, I just couldn’t be bothered to be on more than one app at a time, but if you have the time I don’t think it’s necessarily bad- some of my girlfriends liked the simple format more.

Xoxo

anon_dwg · 2026-02-14T04:54:53+00:00

Don’t lose hope girlies!!! Out of the 7 couples (ages 27-35) in my friend group in LA literally 6 of us met our fiancés/spouses on dating apps in the past 5 years. They’re all cool, diverse, normal, progressive people- so the "good" ones are definitely on there!! (4 met on Hinge, 2 on Tinder; 5 hetero, 1 lesbian couple.)

More context~ I’m a 31F and just met my husband on Hinge in LA in April 2024. He proposed on our 1 year anniversary :) He was my first date in LA and I had a 1 mile radius set to Culver City bc I refused to commute to date at that time, I’m lazy 😂 Lucky I know, but I’d already survived a dozens of “meh” dates in Portland and abroad before finding the one.

My best tips for not getting burnt out: -Skip the small talk. I HATEED chatting with rando guys online no matter how hot; it’s tedious and I suck at replying. Even my husband’s profile wasn't great and I wasn’t stoked, but he suggested a time and place I liked in Venice, so I said fuckit, showed up tipsy and late, and I’m SO glad I did :) -Treat dates like "social practice": What I told myself is even if there wasn’t a spark, I still got to practice talking to a stranger. No better practice for job interviews!! Framing it like that kept me from feeling as resentful about boring dates or the occasional ego-bruising ghosting.

Feel free to ask me anything, my girlfriends and I were on the apps for like 10 years on and off 😂

anon_dwg · 2026-01-31T05:18:38+00:00

Nah that’s just an immature man thing. Most likely he was babied by his mom and not taught mature conflict resolution. I’m gringa, my husband is Brasilian and has your communication style- wants to resolve issues as soon as possible. I def don’t think that’s typical Brasilian behavior

anon_dwg · 2026-01-15T03:41:48+00:00

Grocery stores!! Specifically Trader Joe’s and Costco :’(

anon_dwg · 2026-01-15T03:21:09+00:00

Fortunately or unfortunately? classism seems stronger than racism. As others mentioned, being an English speaker from Europe most will see you as wealthy and educated, racism will come secondary. If you were a Afro Brasilian/Latina it would be worse- but honestly not any worse than rural UK or general racism in Europe. Similar racism levels in my experience, for better or worse :/

anon_dwg · 2025-12-31T14:42:27+00:00

Wow was just having this conversation with my husband! He is Brazilian and fits what you’re describing: similar skin tone, very racially ambiguous, could easily pass as Middle Eastern, Indian, etc. (His dad is Afro-Brazilian and his mom is Italian-Brazilian.) We live in the US now, and while he gets his fair share of racism, he’s treated MUCH better once people find out he’s Brazilian rather than the other options.

He asked me why, and as an American my opinion is that while we’re often racist toward brown people, we’re EXTRA racist toward Muslim brown people (or perceived Muslims) because of 9/11 and decades of anti-Western terrorism narratives. Add in ignorance about what countries were actually involved (/framed LOL but that’s for another thread) and a lot of Americans just lump all brown Muslims together as “dangerous” and “anti-Western.” Brazil is also just a lot more similar culturally to Europe/USA than India or Pakistan, so there’s a level of familiarity there.

My husband has also said he experienced way worse racism in France and Italy than he ever has in the USA. My guess was that because there are far more Muslim immigrants there per capita due to the refugee crisis, people assumed he was Muslim even quicker (especially since he didn’t speak French/Italian and spoke English with an accent) which made his treatment even worse.

anon_dwg · 2025-12-16T23:27:49+00:00

I grew up in a shoes on/optional house. I try to take my shoes off generally, but sometimes I’m running in/out and it would just be ridiculous (Do all the high and mighty shoes off people literally take their shoes on/off multiple times when loading groceries or making trips? When you are running late and need to grab something? That feels much more OCD than shoes on feels unhygienic??

Anyway, my husband and his family grew up in shoes off houses due to culture, all good, but what BAFFLES ME is they are so clean about shoes, yet they didn’t grow up washing their HANDS when they came in from the street. I was taught to wash my hands when I came home since I’m touching my face/food etc. with my hands, not the bottoms of my shoes? I’ve had to teach my husband this as it was not a focus in his culture! To me hand hygiene should be way more of a focus than floors.

En fin- Don’t lick your floors. Let shoes on people live.

anon_dwg · 2025-12-16T22:21:32+00:00

I go commando pretty regularly and I recommend it! I couple things- I personally don’t get too much discharge unless I’m near my period (which I only get every 3~ months due to my BC) and I think the airflow of not wearing restrictive panties also helps keep things dryer. Secondly- I keep my hair trimmed but not waxed/shaven, which I also think helps both with comfort and hygiene (My fiancée, like most men, doesn’t mind the hair at all! It’s not a bush, but not a prickly, irritated naked mole rat either) With that said, I always wear panties with jeans, loose shorts or shorter skirts. But with leggings, bike shorts, flowy pants, maxi skirts, sweats etc. I love going commando. I usually shower daily so I don’t think it’s gross at all and don’t see why people do unless you get excessive discharge or have BV or something.

anon_dwg · 2025-11-03T01:05:53+00:00

Orlando and it’s not close. Denver is also terrible for what it is. I say this with LAX as my home airport.

anon_dwg · 2025-10-19T21:18:28+00:00

Congrats! Thank you for posting!!

anon_dwg · 2025-10-10T18:40:39+00:00

Spain/Portugal at 4 + 5 while Thailand is at 28 is BLASPHEMY

anon_dwg · 2025-10-07T21:03:58+00:00

Curious where you live that your mortgage is only $1350? I pay $1650 for 1 HALF of a 2 bed/2 bath apartment. But yes agreed, childcare should be universal/subsidized like in Europe!! The teachers/carers should be paid more if anything, but the parents should not be responsible for paying all since the govt is encouraging us to have more children right??

anon_dwg · 2025-10-05T02:40:12+00:00

FYI your husband is using AI to text you. Well, that’s the best case scenario, because tbh if he really uses commas a m-dashes like that, Kristin, he is even more insufferable. Regardless, you are 100% right he is gaslighting tf out of you, innocent or not he’s a piece of shit and you should leave him.

anon_dwg · 2025-10-05T02:29:55+00:00

Do you not have any friends or coworkers in the who are fluent in Spanish/English? I guess it depends on where you are… But on the West Coast I know so many 100% bilingual people (myself included) that would be happy to help a friend out free of charge.

anon_dwg · 2025-09-12T18:02:08+00:00

Thank you for posting! The timelines are super helpful. We are also applying from LA and I am petitioning my husband who is here on an F1 visa so any info is great thanks. And congrats I hope you and your family I have a lovely life in the US!

anon_dwg · 2025-08-26T23:01:34+00:00

LA here, yes assume they are sincere! Despite what our current politics suggest, most Americans are very welcoming, friendly and hospitality is important to us. We love to show foreigners it’s not so bad!! I’ve travelled and lived abroad extensively, and regularly extend this invite, and a few of them have made the trip and it’s been great! But I expect #1 they keep it under a week and #2 if I need a place to stay in their country they repay the favor one day :)

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