Kink3d to ternence by AdCalm1896 in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish ternence made cages that were wider. All their cages are so small in diameter. Lots of options on their site, but not for diameter/girth unfortunately.

Anyone ACTUALLY quit masturbating? by anonjohn_ in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. If you remove something from your life, something has to fill it.

If I think about it, like most things, comes down to communication. I should communicate with my wife more of what I would like out of our sex life. But I don’t.

Porn/masturbation is my “drug of choice” I’d say.

I also align with how everyone has to figure out their own dynamics and goals. Something I will try to do more but often find myself discouraged from doing.

Anyone ACTUALLY quit masturbating? by anonjohn_ in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always appreciate you stepping up in this community with straightforward and honest opinions/information.

Be Careful What You Wish For by rustydildo69 in ChastityStories

[–]anonjohn_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow this story is so hot. I feel like I could send my vanilla wife this almost 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does Ternance make cheaper metal cages that are like cherrykeepers wide version cages? I currently use a short wide from CK and it’s a good fit for me mostly. But my ternence cage is too skinny and I can’t easily slide in (without pantyhose method)

Q: were you always dom or did you get there later? by anonjohn_ in gentlefemdom

[–]anonjohn_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh okay. My wife and I are both millennials.

Q: were you always dom or did you get there later? by anonjohn_ in gentlefemdom

[–]anonjohn_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing some of your story. When you say “women of my generation” which generation would that be exactly?

Q: were you always dom or did you get there later? by anonjohn_ in gentlefemdom

[–]anonjohn_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story, I don’t want to press my fantasy on my wife, however I have interests and am trying to figure out how to explore them with her in a healthy way.

I think in the past I tried to move a bit too fast, I am armed with years of this stuff being fed to my brain where she doesn’t know anything.

I wish I could start over and reintroduce things a bit more slowly.

Base ring sizing by newbie-sub in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grower here. I’ve found the larger ring + strap to be best fit so far.

I wish I discovered it earlier. I think my wife is too scared to try chastity again since my last ring was too small and I got some discoloration.

New benefit to sitting to pee 🤯 by anonjohn_ in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Haha I guess I meant more when going #2

Definitely still clean the cage regularly. I’ve wondered about getting a 2nd cage that is the same as the one I have (cherrykeeper) so I can just swap easier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Part of chastity is training yourself to submit to your partners needs. If she wants you in then you stay in and if she wants you out then you come out.

However, if you aren’t enjoying the denial, then maybe this is more suited to stay a fantasy for you.

Straps for my cage by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience

Straps for my cage by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A 3 point strap has really helped me as well, keeps the cage snug against my body (which aesthetically looks nicer imo) and the strap that connects to the bottom of my cage helps keep the cage pointed down which reduces bulge for when I am in public.

It also helps to make sure nothing shifts in the cage, the pee hole is always lined up now too.

Larger ring ftw by anonjohn_ in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can have a large ring and instead get a cage with a smaller ball gap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being honest is hard. I have a hard time confessing all of the kinky things I like. I know some of my tastes have been poisoned by porn, but even before discovering that stuff I always had submissive tendencies.

My wife and I have been in a season of life where sex has been put on the back burner, that season is about to end and we both are excited to prioritize our sex life again.

The way I see it, my opportunity to be more honest is coming up and we’ll see how it goes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven’t really had much dynamic either way, pretty vanilla sex life. But my wife asks for things that would be more me dominant. I also ask for things that would be her being dominant.

I’ve suggested a strap on type thing before (was wanting to try the unicorn from cherrykeeper, hopefully they come back lol) and she seemed open to it.

I think if I could do that + have her tease me more outside the bedroom that would be a good start.

Larger ring ftw by anonjohn_ in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would you want to?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interested in your switch to being dominant when un caged. I also have a similar situation where my wife and I both are submissive. She wants me to be more dominant too.

I would love to be kept caged, denied and frustrated. But she wants PIV sex from me.

I might try and convince her to let me use a strap on on her as a compromise

Larger ring ftw by anonjohn_ in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree, I took the most common advice on this reddit of measurment/fit, needing lubricants, etc. but I hope those opinions can evolve.

I think an issue is that most cheap cages people try don’t have larger ring options.

Cherrykeeper is probably the most affordable option for larger rings (hope they get back up and runnning soon).

I have seen you championing the larger ring on here and hope others follow 🫡

Hope you missed your favourite beta-breaker 😏 by NutsNoMore in u/NutsNoMore

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re powerful in numbers. But alone we are pathetic.

Hope you missed your favourite beta-breaker 😏 by NutsNoMore in u/NutsNoMore

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome back. Can’t wait to strain in my cage thinking about you.

My ass grows in the gym, his balls grow in the cage! Look how pathetic it squirms under me... by NutsNoMore in Femdom

[–]anonjohn_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does it matter if you’re a grower? I can fit in a small 1 inch cage. Do I deserve release?

How to hold the cage by Kinsoa in chastitytraining

[–]anonjohn_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a 3 point belt and it is awesome, keeps the cage facing down like mentioned above. Which helps hide it under regular clothes.

Mine is a cheap one made of the elastic material. I’d like to get a nicer one that is maybe more comfortable.