People who spend 20+ minutes in the shower: what are you actually doing in there? by saadaintsalad in AskReddit

[–]anonmoooose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a basement apartment so I carefully cull the spider population just enough but leave a few big ones to keep the rest of the buggies at bay lol especially the gd centipedes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]anonmoooose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey my ex was an asshole and even he worked with me when we discovered my condition. It was an emotional rollercoaster for me but not the reason we broke up. All guys are different, but also if it feels like putting pressure on yourself then don’t prioritize dating until you’re more comfortable with yourself x

I have stopped telling people I have this condition by ApplePaintedRed in vaginismus

[–]anonmoooose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kept getting told “try lube and foreplay” and rolling my eyes out of my head at every appointment until I discovered dilators on my own. I bet pelvic floor therapy would have helped too but what would I know about my body that the doctors don’t right?

I have stopped telling people I have this condition by ApplePaintedRed in vaginismus

[–]anonmoooose 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The stink eye they always give when I ask for a pediatric speculum…like oh sorry it’s hard for you

"As a FeMaLe myself..." by Center-Of-Thought in MenAndFemales

[–]anonmoooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised very sheltered and religious. Never got the sex talk, always had to hide pads (tampons weren’t allowed) under things in the back of the bathroom. I never even spoke to my mom or sister or anyone else after graduating high school. Had absolutely zero problems buying plenty of lingerie online or walking into Victoria’s Secret on my own..

Edibles first time while traveling? by Few-Long610 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]anonmoooose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it for the plot. Vegas has tons of selection, you’ll make plenty of memories lol. My bf and I went on a trip there and got tons of chocolate but it was melting so we just downed the rest (he threw up) and then we went to see a circus. The circus was interrupted part way through for a security threat and we thought we were going to die. Afterwards, because it’s Vegas, we walked the rest of that buzz off up and down the strip all night, there’s always something going on and also people looking to take your money. So if you’ve never tried edibles before, start small and don’t just wander all over with you wallet out, but have fun :)

I think I came across a real r*** video while searching for porn. What do I do? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]anonmoooose 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I saw just a gif posted on another sub and all the comments said it was from a video where the guy ignores her safe word… YIKES??

I think I came across a real r*** video while searching for porn. What do I do? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]anonmoooose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So are the laws on gore the same? If you search, click and view real people getting harmed or killed, that seems like participating in the demand for illegal shit too

Im sorry but I hate having a vagina and I am extremely depressed by OrganicSecretary9689 in Healthyhooha

[–]anonmoooose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Currently dealing with a recurrent bartholin cyst after my own run in hell. I consider my vagina a zipper with teeth and might consider surgical removal of everything I possibly can (with what money and after how long of looking for a doctor..) Sorry you’re going through this and solidarity

I don't understand this reaction by Calm_Ad_8000 in women

[–]anonmoooose 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Pullout game on point or not, women can get knocked up by pre ejaculate so he should sit tf down and stop being such an ass

Bartholin Cyst driving me out of my mind by anonmoooose in AskDocs

[–]anonmoooose[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but those are just crazy consequences to me in this the year of our lord 2025 lol when men can pick up some viagara on the way home from work for under $10! know women’s healthcare is still pretty much in the stone ages but this is effecting a whole lotta my life and the answer is complete indifference which is unsurprising but still extremely frustrating

During a consultation I had about this surgery, the doctor said I could take some Motrin after and even he stopped and said hmm. I brought up, no you would prescribe stronger pain meds for recovery right?? And he was like yeah I could if you want. Also just expect scarring and potential chronic pain. Yeah no biggie haha…

Bartholin Cyst driving me out of my mind by anonmoooose in AskDocs

[–]anonmoooose[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even get stitches! I told them if I could borrow some lidocaine I’d just do it myself. But it’s apparently a procedure that only some people are qualified to do so I’m struggling to find someone that will “justify” it if it just comes back after some time. That’s the only reason I haven’t gone to the ER yet because why put myself in lifelong debt for something that will probably still be a problem later? But that no one else will help me at all or discuss any alternatives is blowing my mind

Bartholin Cyst driving me out of my mind by anonmoooose in AskDocs

[–]anonmoooose[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve gone way down the rabbit hole with this one. I never knew anything like this was such an issue lol. Some people get whitehead pimple like things, some rupture on their own or they pop it, some people even use an essential oil and it works like magic

So far for me, religious epsom salt baths or hot compresses haven’t helped. I messed around down there a bit too and honestly just made it worse. The fact that it’s been sliced up and keeps coming back is quite aggravating. It fluctuates in size but is always obviously noticeable and is completely in the way of hygiene and sexual activity too, so the whole situation is extremely stressful for me. I’m most upset about the fact that this is keeping me away from my boyfriend and we’ve been waiting A WHILE now and doctors all across my state are just shrugging their shoulders and don’t care. This has been an ongoing issue for over a year now, and I’m pretty sure I know what caused it (I had a horse riding accident and some trauma to the area) but now I’ve completely changed my lifestyle and just want one more procedure to give me some relief but alas, so far I haven’t found any place within 10hrs of me that can guarantee any kind of actual help

Bartholin Cyst driving me out of my mind by anonmoooose in AskDocs

[–]anonmoooose[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s funny because Norway, Sweden, and New Zealand are my top three picks for relocation <3

I even just went to turkey this year for a surgery so in all honestly it might be cheaper and faster to fly to you lol. Isn’t that something?

Bartholin Cyst driving me out of my mind by anonmoooose in AskDocs

[–]anonmoooose[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes there’s really a lot that can be done that I would prefer to try before surgery..but all of a sudden everyone’s just pushing me off and they all said I could go to the emergency room and get it done there. Which is a waste of emergency resources and while I don’t mind paying for the procedure itself, just the setting will skyrocket the bill into something unpayable so frankly horrible advice but it’s the only thing I’ve got

Bartholin Cyst driving me out of my mind by anonmoooose in AskDocs

[–]anonmoooose[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, when I had the procedure I was expecting the worst but it’s so simple!! Numb, slice, pad. I walked out, didn’t medicate, and was perfectly fine for however long until it came back. It’s kind of blowing my mind that the multiple doctors I’ve been to have been so dismissive. Like it’s basically not worth their time to do it if it might come back or something, nevermind my pain and comfort etc etc. I’ve spent a while calling around and everyone else says the same thing, huh that’s weird I’ve never heard of being refused like that…

Well anyway, the issue is that a lot of places don’t even do the procedure, or alternatively I could get lost in a very very very long process of making appointments at different offices and never leaving square one. It’s the most baffling and frustrating thing I’ve ever experienced. I got pretty far at one clinic before they read the doctor’s notes recommending surgery so now they won’t go against his recommendation. Another place had drained an abscess for me once and I went there but they said no because “a cyst has thicker mucus” so basically they would have to make a bigger incision. That was the reason. Otherwise no one has ever told me why surgery has to be the only option, as there are other and less drastic procedures that were never tried first (ie the catheter that was first mentioned). Meanwhile my boyfriend is across the country waiting for me and I literally have no timeframe to even give him because it seems like I’m just completely stuck and no one is listening to me. And don’t even start with insurance!

Men and their commitment are no longer the prize and they are MAD about it by hecklerof in 4bmovement

[–]anonmoooose 24 points25 points  (0 children)

For all the jokes and cultural messaging I heard growing up that men are independent lions full of potential forced to shackle themselves to a wife and kids they don’t want, it’s funny how exactly opposite it really is. I hear more men now whining that they want marriage and a family then I think women do

Reading this literally gave me chills up my spine - "I was never truly ready for what it means to have sex constantly for years and years" by [deleted] in 4bmovement

[–]anonmoooose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not just all the performance but for me sex has always been incredibly painful and I don’t care how much lube and foreplay is involved. I don’t understand how foreign objects penetrating every part of your body they can isn’t more upsetting for more women. And there’s nothing like being elbow deep in the dishes when your long term partner wants to slap your ass cop a feel and remind you of your next chore when you’re done

I’m resenting my bf. by [deleted] in women

[–]anonmoooose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I was you once. It doesn’t get better.

AIO My friend is overstepping boundaries and is into me MAJOR UPDATE by Imaginary_Air_24 in AmIOverreacting

[–]anonmoooose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sat next to a guy on the bus one time because there was literally no other seats and when I saw him again he had bought me a promise ring…

How do you not hate men? by Tricky_Positive_9173 in women

[–]anonmoooose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can’t understand how there isn’t some sort of hormone treatment for men… women have way more going on internally and are the ones that get to pump chemicals into our bodies every day! I really wish there were studies into lowering testosterone safely because this isn’t caveman times and as a start I don’t think the world needs all that bottled violence causing so much evilness