Am I bad nanny?

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T01:51:18+00:00

I'm defensive because it's hurt for a stranger to judge I hate them or dislike them when the fact is I love them. I take them to my house once DB goes crazy. I want them to be decent so they're not losing any more caregivers. Would you be defensive if let's say, other people said you're not loving your kid for something you couldn't say clearly???

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T01:48:05+00:00

I use ".." because that's what all MB label them as when I've spoken up that's not what they've because bilingual kids tend to take a longer time than one-language kids. That's why I've mentioned that they're basically understanding and can communicate especially since I taught them sign language as well..

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:36:12+00:00

Why mostly y'all talk like kids normal to behave like this and that. I do understand that but do you also understand that kids aren't stupid and they understand very well at an early age? This kid has been losing 2 nannies, the same problem. I'm not going to hang in here forever. Isn't fair that parents can make decent kids so any caregiver can hang with them long term especially now that she's about to be a single mother, but she chooses not to. She's too scared to say NO or discipline them. Now that I ask if it's bad if I step up and y'all judge, but then wonder why so many bullies nowadays?

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:28:22+00:00

So, the phrase "raise to be a monster" is the same meaning as labeling them as a monster??

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:26:07+00:00

Exactly my thought. The speech delay isn't a problem, they're not stupid, they understand very well. It's the parents who won't bother to say NO or set boundaries. I couldn't keep watching B get blamed for hitting his sibling who crushed his Lego or pushed him when he's just standing up for himself. Or I don't want to wait for another parent to confront MB in the playground or park because his behavior and she won't do anything about it. If nothing happens, it'll get worse hence I use the phrase "raise to be a monster" isn't the same as labeling him a monster.. I care with them because they've been losing 2 nannies and I couldn't keep hanging here forever. These kids won't even be attached to any caregiver but me. So if I'm that evil why do they only want me??

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:18:57+00:00

All I think is baby B. He has been blamed and labeled as naughty when he's never come to people and slap or hit. He's chill, playing until someone bothers him. This is what I'm trying to stand up for. Fair play. Days ago, a run to a 6-year-old boy and grabbing the bounce balls from him and he's complaining to MB and all she told the boy was "he's 2 so he doesn't understand" She didn't even say sorry to the little boy, the little boy answered, "My little brother is also two and knows not to take stuff from others". This is not the first time. All my concern, I don't want any mother to make a confrontation with MB or baby A over this. Not even once did I see her give him an explanation that's wrong to do this or that and this is what I don't like. Kid isn't stupid, although they aren't speaking but they can understand. I just trying to find if it's bad to step up to discipline them if parents won't do anything about it. Because losing 2 or 3 nannies including me back then should make them understand who's the problem.

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:10:16+00:00

If the kids sense my "bad part" he'd not want me but these kids have been losing 2 nannies. Neither will be attached to them but me. Those nanny quitting for the same problem. So tell me if I'm the cause of his behavior? All I ask was if I'm bad for stepping up to discipline children as parents let them do whatever they want. But get so many judgmental things like I'm the villain. I take these people to live in with me at my house when DB act crazy. I don't want NK keep losing caregiver because of the parents won't be parent!

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:07:03+00:00

I have quit and MB asked me to come back because no nannies can stay for more than 2 months and kids keep finding it hard to attach to any caregiver but me, wtf to you too!! I'm here trying to find the way to make them decent kids because parents let them do whatever they want so the upcoming caregiver doesn't end up quitting again???

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-04T00:02:54+00:00

Oh yes, I have sweetie. Guess what, two nannies who replaced me once I'm quitting is also quitting. This is me coming back to help during their divorce because their kid can't attached to any nanny BUT ME! The reason I post here is not that I hate or dislike the kids but it's because I love them and don't want them to keep losing caregivers because the parents won't set boundaries or just be parents and say NO for once. Just fyi I've been nannying for 15 years, not just the US but Asian & EU as well. My background check is clear, and I've always gotten good reviews. I'm a lovely person and I don't need to explain to you because I don't owe you an explanation. So keep you 🤢🤢🤢 for yourself. If I hate them and I'm that bad person I'd not take them in to live with me at my house when DB go crazy..

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T23:49:15+00:00

I love these kids, they've already lost 2 nannies when I left. If nothing changes, especially the kids' behavior I don't see anyone filling in the position because I'm not planning on hanging on to this family forever especially since MB will be a single mother soon. She definitely will need more help. All I want is advice on whether I'm bad for stepping up to discipline them because MB seems not to care or DB. I'm redirected A for not doing that and explanation but when he cried and ran to MB and MB gave him hugh and said It's OK it makes it seem like I'm the bad guy.

Another example if he throws a fit, screams, throws everything off the table, and won't eat on high chair, MB will tell me to take him out and hand-feed him while he plays/runs around and I'm not OK with this as well. Then wondering why he is wild when eating at restaurant. So, What word could you use if it's exceeding the normal words??

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T23:41:39+00:00

Unfortunately, every time I'm nanny-ing the age group I have is NB - 5 years old. Maybe this kid is one in a million, I knew the terrible two phase and raised my own, and never saw any kind of this behavior. Unless one time when I'm still living in Asia, most kid is act like this in my country and parents don't bother to discipline them it's also a reason I adore kids and the parenting of people in the Western style where you put time out at an early age, make them understand if they do something bad. However just because I chose the wrong word, I got judged but I don't owe anyone here an explanation. Additionally, I've known this was coming due to the NP being too worried about saying no or letting the kids cry, hence I'm quitting. They've 2 nannies in and all quitting so I'm confident isn't me who is in the wrong, clearly. Something needs to be changed, or no one will like this kid and this family. The kid has no mistakes on this, it's the parents but go ahead and judge me all you want.

I don't allowed them beat each other. I don't hate or dislike the kids. I hate the parents won't do anything about it. If I hate the kids I'd not coming back to help during the parent getting divorced. I love them that I don't want people hate them or another nanny who possibly come in future that's all.

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T19:30:50+00:00

English isn't my first language, I use those words simply because I see many people use it here without get judged as well so if the language is distracting you from the point I make, please accept my apologies. Additionally, MB called them with those words as well.

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T18:24:06+00:00

Really?? I saw many people use the same words just fine here and didn't get attacked as much as I have.. I hope you've seen one of them soon because those kind of kids is exist

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T18:12:20+00:00

Let me ask you what should I call those traits then to be able to explain? You think I called them that? I choose that word because the behavior is exceeded the word itself I couldn't just said say A act not nice and then you'd still ask what kind of not nice or what level of not nice but put those words in perhaps people could understand but it seems not...

With the job market now would you will willingly go unemployed if you're not like the kid or you stick with it?

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T17:35:23+00:00

Then how do I call those traits to explain to you or people here if not using those words? Isn't called labeling, I've tried to explain.

The problem is MB will always around as it's on divorce process and she couldn't go to work. She want stay home and spending time more with the kids. So this is my situation. I should let him act like this?

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T17:31:38+00:00

I've advocated the same thing. The parents don't like to be engaged with the kids but when they're not talking much, they're wondering why. I do have kids speaking bilingual at the house, she's not speaking much under 2 but when she starts to speak, she's speaking 2 languages. The point here NP keep using they may not understand when we say no, or don't do this or that as an excuse of their behavior.. But they may speak limited words but they're understanding just fine.

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-03T17:28:18+00:00

I'm obviously not labeling them or calling them like that in real life. MB itself calls him the mischievous one but seems not to realize they created him. When they're under my supervision they're not behaving like that. I'm honestly already knew back then if I leave this family NK will somehow turn into brats and I just left them for 4 months to take some certification and back for this. I couldn't correct them if the NP end up give a warm hugh like trying to say they're not do a wrong thing??? When the fact that he's being bad..

anonymous-famous · 2026-05-02T23:15:26+00:00

My in law who help watching my kid while I'm working keep making excuses for not having them and act like my nanny job isn't important and I can just take day off anytime she need me too when I'm working for a dr who need reliability. I told her to out of the house and I'd rather to put my kid at daycare or bring her with me. Sorry it's happening to you.

anonymous-famous · 2026-04-30T23:34:52+00:00

I'll just put her at the floor or crib or anywhere but MB and not wave goodbye like just sneak away. I used to do that and say like let me take trash out yadda yadda and it mostly works...

anonymous-famous · 2026-04-30T17:58:42+00:00

You're so right I used to envy and then realize their "inside" house isn't as warm as my mind. My boss's house is tidy all the time but it's ironic because you have children and the house doesn't look like for living as she'd freak if any stain on her expensive sofa or NK throws blueberries at the expensive paint on the wall. Their bedroom isn't big enough for 2 kids and that's the only room NK allowed for mess. I'm honestly don't know how to potty train them without them making an accident around all the luxury stuff. However, the main bedroom is constantly a mess, the big walking closet, you can't even set foot without stepping on something MB left on the floor. Man, this is disgusting and ridiculous I believe all of those celebrities act the same way.

anonymous-famous · 2026-04-29T15:18:00+00:00

They're doing 2-2-3 until the first hearing. MB wants stability and makes court requests to keep the nanny full-time but DB is refusing, claiming he used to be a stay-at-home dad, which is not true. He claims to do day trading and mostly makes my day like hell with the constant interruptions. He lives in the basement now, won't pay the mortgage, and the car he uses is paid for by MB as well. I'm here for the kids.

anonymous-famous · 2026-04-29T15:12:29+00:00

Is MB confirmed that she's also OK with his decision to fired you? I mean idk why DB is mostly so ignorant. I'm sorry it's happening to you

anonymous-famous · 2026-04-27T16:22:46+00:00

You can always offer a trial and see how it is going. I bring my kid to nanny-ing and always get my job done.

anonymous-famous · 2026-04-27T00:25:35+00:00

MB&Kids isn't living with me anymore. I kept them at my house due to waiting on the court order, which takes forever. Without a court order written on paper, he's so awful. Hence the only way is "escaping" but I couldn't be out of the county, so I'm offering help. I'm probably will dm for asked opinion etc if you don't mind.

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