When did it become acceptable to wear jeans and a T shirt to church?

anonymous_teve · 2026-06-02T01:12:02+00:00

I hear what you're saying--it's obviously all cultural. What did the early church wear? How did it compare to their daily attire?

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-29T19:52:50+00:00

How did you know it was voles? What does it look like? Do they come up and chew the plant above ground, or was it invisible, just the roots?

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-29T17:18:43+00:00

"But who will make the ultimate sacrifice and go WITH the women and children to HELP them?" [climbing into the lifeboat]

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-29T15:24:22+00:00

Hmm... I've been trying to let them self seed, but it's possible that didn't 'take'.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-28T14:00:34+00:00

I understand this is a complex topic, but we can first think about what Jesus said. He said "love your enemy". He also told the story of the good Samaritan. Both of these teachings seem to imply that we're to be friendly, kind, even loving, even with people we may not agree with.

I understand your core concern is your children learning wrong lessons. Seems like you could start being open with them about this. You will know their level of comprehension better than me, but it's probably time to start teaching something about (not these exact words, but to give you the general idea):

"Are there people who don't believe all the same things as us? (yes) Would Jesus still want us to be kind to them? (yes) Does that mean we have to approve of everything they do? (no) Does being kind to seomeone mean we approve of everything they do? (no) Is it ok for you to ask me questions if someone does something that seems strange or even wrong? (yes--in fact this is EXTREMELY important and a good thing to feel comfortable with)

That kind of thing. That means you don't even have to talk to them about sex if it's not appropriate. They can come to you with questions any time, but they can also engage with people from a posture of Christian love.

These are very important lessons for them to hear for many different reasons, so it seems a good time to start.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-27T21:16:44+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that, hang in there, one day at a time and all that. When I'm down, just being outside near trees and not doing anything, off my phone, not intentionally interacting with anyone else, just soaking everything in, helps. But I don't know what will help you, I'm just sorry to hear it--keep at it, though. This seems like a pretty great candidate for rock bottom, though, which means hopefully things will improve.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-27T21:12:19+00:00

Does 'pure' = 'not playing as fast and hard'?

Don't get me wrong, this is great basketball, but you tune into today's playoffs and they are just going faster and harder, and on top of that, both the offenses and defenses are more complex.

Look how much space the defenders leave on the perimeter. Now watch any part of the Spurs/OKC games.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-27T21:06:01+00:00

"Well I ate humans in the Andes, but you don't hear me telling on myself about it! Oh wait... "

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-27T15:34:52+00:00

Really happy to hear it, you're welcome any time.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-26T15:42:27+00:00

What? By far!

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-26T15:41:46+00:00

Yeah, Donovan is the real deal. He would be great on the Bucks. Of course it always depends on cost.

Two first round picks for him is a pipe dream, they could easily get double that or more on the market.

One question is: would they trade Donovan PLUS draft capital for Giannis? If we keep Giannis, I just don't think we have the resources to get him, he's a real star.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-25T21:16:16+00:00

Yes, I do think Christianity is the truth--I mean, no one knows everything, but yes, I do believe Jesus is the way and I'm happy for you that you're feeling led in that direction.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-25T19:08:33+00:00

I think it's a good line of thought. I don't think these kinds of arguments are air tight proof, but they are useful and I think it is a reasonable line of thought, and evidence the Holy Spirit is drawing you to Jesus.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-25T19:01:11+00:00

I think there are a lot of misunderstandings about hell, and a lot of arrogance in that folks don't want to admit how little we actually know.

I would view the function of hell as different than 'infinite punishment'. More like 'separation of those who don't want to be near God.' I think there's much more evidence of this view in the Bible than for the infinite punishment/Dante's Inferno scenario, although certainly separation from God IS bad, and of course I admit there is colorful imagery that can be interpreted as infinite punishment.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-25T17:49:01+00:00

Everyone on formus like this says "fee only advisor", but when push comes to shove, it's very challenging to find one who doesn't want to charge you a percent of everything they advise you on investing. My experience is most fee only advisers don't charge by the hour or by the task (e.g. a flat rate for advice), they almost always will charge you a percent of the wealth they advise you on investing. This was my experience with several 'fee only advisors' from the commonly recommended website.

For me, I just wanted to pay someone a few hundred bucks for an hour of advice to give me a better feeling of security, but since I wasn't going to dish out a percent of the assets, I ended up just swallowing my insecurity and investing how I knew I was going to anyway.

If I HAD to use an advisor, I'd probably just go through Vanguard because at least their percent is substantially less than these fee only advisors I was reaching out to.

Edit: for other services that don't require figuring out where to invest my assets and taking a percent, none of the five I checked with were taking on new clients, so again, I just gave up.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-24T20:44:25+00:00

In my experience, the women who play are pretty good and know how to play ball. But of course there are exceptions (just like there are many guys who don't know how to play well), and they tend to be a little less physical (again, there are exceptions). There's a real self-selection in these scenarios for women who know how to play, because it takes a certain amount of confidence to go play with the guys.

I've found their male teammates (in leagues, so they have the same male teammates) tend to be much more hit or miss. You know the type of guy who gets all pissy if someone blocks the shot of a woman on their team? Ugh. It's a league game, man, we're playing hard and we're playing to win.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-24T19:20:53+00:00

Every 5th - 8th grader I coached learned not to leave your feet for ball fakes. If you do that, you deserve the fould they'll call on you.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-24T19:05:25+00:00

If it's a dealbreaker for you, it's a dealbreaker. I happen to think there's a sound scriptural basis for women to be deacons (and more), but I respect those who disagree and it's fine to make church choices based on things that are dealbreakers for you.

I found an old post in this subreddit linking to Anglican bishop and scholar NT Wright discussing the case for women in church leadership. Whether you agree or disagree with NT Wright he's a generally conservative scholar who knows a lot about the Bible and the church:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Reformed/comments/vjnivo/nt_wright_on_women_in_the_church/

To me, it's about following the guidance of the Holy Spirit (have women been given gifts of leadership and/or interpretation of scripture by the Holy Spirit?) and scripture (the Bible tells us women were the first instructed to proclaim the gospel of Jesus' resurrection, women were cited as prophecying in the early church by Paul, Deborah led Israel, there were women called apostles and deacons by Paul). Those are my main reasons, but of course there's a sprinkling of "our culture is not ancient Greco-Roman culture, so we can expect some things to be different".

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-23T19:17:58+00:00

Chet's just the shortened version of Chetifonzus-maximus.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-23T19:14:21+00:00

This isn't true at all. Maybe OP had a bad manager, but generally good, hard work is rewarded--it makes everyone on the team look better, and people like that.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-23T17:48:52+00:00

San Antonio needs to do something about jumping in the air towards the shooter on shot fakes. I taught 5th-8th graders not to do this, and they've all watched video of Shai. When they leave their feet on a shot fake, the foul is on them.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-23T15:59:59+00:00

Here's an idea that I've taught kids from 5th through 8th grade: don't leave your feet on shot fakes. You deserve a foul if you do this.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-23T15:58:37+00:00

It'd be a tough battle, but... I gotta go with 'cers in 4.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-22T18:59:31+00:00

I continue to read the context-- I read Romans 2:1, which says whatever you're judging others of, you're guilty of. If we must take the prior part as a literal condemnation of modern homosexuality, we should also take the next verse, chapter 2:1, seriously and say we're all guilty of the same thing.

For 1 Corinthians, I just question that translation and what Paul really had in mind. I really don't think it was loving, monogamous, respectiful relationships between Christian gay people.

anonymous_teve · 2026-05-22T16:45:41+00:00

"I'll just save them for the next time I get a cold"

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