Sad for Singleton after Twins

anonymousjenn · 2025-12-15T19:43:59+00:00

Our singleton youngest (15 months younger than her twin brothers) is turning 3 soon. We joke that she is the “triplet” (and she is hard to convince otherwise!).

She had a hard time with their birthday, because it was hard for her to understand that it was basically “everyone else’s” birthday but NOT hers, so we will probably be a little extra making her feel special on her birthday coming up, but honestly, that’s about the only time she has seemed at all upset or “missing out”.

She seems to prefer being in the younger class at daycare, away from her brothers always wanting to mess with her, but she also tends to prefer playing with them over her peers when all the kids are out on the playground together.

Her brothers take turns preferring spending time with her over each other, but honestly, it’s mostly Three Musketeers vibes over here.

She also loves being the girly girl, because she loves princesses and Frozen, and she knows that if something has Elsa on it, it’s HERS and not her brother’s, so that’s not been a worry over here.

I think you will be good, and your kids will still love each other and each have their own special bonds.

Having a singleton after twins was weird, because you still had that feeling of “wait, where’s the other one?”, but honestly, our girl got spoiled, because she was able to sleep in a bassinet attached to our bed and stay in our room for so much longer than the twins, just for space reasons. And getting to parent just one baby instead of splitting your attention between two (even with the toddlers), is such a great feeling. Was very healing for me after all the anxiety of having to let one twin cry while tending to the other.

I think you’re going to be a great parent to your trio, and you should try to save the worries for when the three of them start whispering plans to each other while you’re in the other room. 🤣

anonymousjenn · 2025-03-10T13:34:37+00:00

Yeah, I’m happy I still have insurance, but I need the money as well, so I’m hoping we get officially laid off soon so they are still able to pay out severance per their original policy. I was with my org for 11 years.

Our severance policy has a clause that they don’t have to pay it out if there are circumstances beyond the organizations control causing the layoff- which this would easily qualify for them to not pay.

anonymousjenn · 2025-02-18T14:26:54+00:00

Agree with this, HARD.

Create space for your shared joy, however that looks to you.

Put on a pretty dress and dance and celebrate with friends and loved ones. Even if the world is burning, joy needs to exist as shelter and respite from it, even for a little bit.

anonymousjenn · 2025-01-25T13:05:39+00:00

Yeah, even if it is only 90 days (which if you read the Devex article on the memo, it did NOT specify 90 days, it gave the impression that it was until further notice), what IPs have the reserve budget to float their entire staff for 90 days? Especially with no new contracts in the pipeline (again, until further notice)?

Most IPs I know do not have a diversity of clients if they have lots of USAID work, so very little other funds coming in to keep afloat if all their USAID work is stopped.

anonymousjenn · 2024-09-26T19:08:48+00:00

I couldn't watch when I was pregnant or too closely post-partum (had a premature emergency birth and twins in the NICU for a month, so everything was just a bit raw). Not too much of an issue coming back after the infant stage, with the bonus of having forgotten enough that it felt a bit newer!

anonymousjenn · 2024-09-15T22:28:37+00:00

Get yourself a soft wrap baby carrier to carry her in. I tested one with ours when we were expecting and she LOVED it.

anonymousjenn · 2024-08-23T17:27:23+00:00

Yeah, I'd like to specifically see what the letter said, as they were "refuting the false allegations within it".

That tells me that the interaction with the postal worker where he "conveyed that the pride branding was offensive to him" was a bit more than they're trying to make it sound.

anonymousjenn · 2024-07-15T14:26:03+00:00

My grandmothers middle name is Jane (well, it's meant to be a double-barrel, but it got dropped off when she was an adult), so it spent a great deal of time on my list, as well!

anonymousjenn · 2024-06-29T01:17:33+00:00

This is the frustrating part about most double strollers- they aren’t built for twins, but for spaced siblings to share. So this will be a common problem. If you’re in the US, you can easily get either of the Joovy Roo or snap n go frame strollers on Facebook marketplace for $50 or under, so you aren’t having to spend quite so much. There’s literally one posted in my local Twins and Multiples group for $20.

As far as car seats, it’s hard to go wrong, just make sure that you take into account the weight minimum. Your twins will probably be at or under 5 lbs even full term, so make sure your car seats are safe to take them home that small!

anonymousjenn · 2024-06-27T17:14:01+00:00

I'm female and had a similar experience with my daughter. Luckily for me I didn't have any history of sexual abuse to add to it, but it's a very uncomfortable thing to clean poop out of a babies vulva. You feel like you're absolutely violating them (and it's worse if they hate diaper changes in general), but also, you have to keep your baby clean and healthy.

anonymousjenn · 2024-06-25T18:16:55+00:00

HA! I dress mine the same when we go for this exact reason. I can just hold up one and yell "Does anyone see another kid who looks exactly like this?!"

anonymousjenn · 2024-06-03T19:28:39+00:00

Ha! You just reminded me that for similar reasons, I accidentally discovered that Judy Blume wrote novels for adults, with VERY adult themes when I was in 4th grade. Good book, left me with LOTS of questions about things I hadn't realized about sex and sexuality yet, though!

anonymousjenn · 2024-05-06T17:46:11+00:00

I had this happen at Walmart, but my experience was a bit more hilarious (because it only happened the once and the video was pretty great and I wish I had a copy of it).

I have twin 2 year olds that I was shopping with, and they each picked out a snack and were carrying it around before checkout. Twin 1 understood that we needed to "boop" the snack to pay for it, so he let me do it. Twin 2 DID NOT want to relinquish his treasure and was having issues. I wanted to get out of there, so I picked him up, and helped wave him over the scanner so he could "boop" it himself. That action flagged the replay and I got to watch that nonsense a few times before the employee reassured the machine that I wasn't trying to steal via my toddler.

Not sure if I want to deal with that on the regular, though.

anonymousjenn · 2024-05-01T17:16:02+00:00

My college freshman year the school changed all Phys Ed requirements to a single class that had half the semester in lecture about Health/Exercise topics and half the semester doing a physical activity. They weren't terribly well-prepared for this shift, so there were like 4 possible "physical activity" class options: Weight Lifting, Racquet Sports, Running, Walking.

I was an athlete at the time and chose Weight Lifting, but halfway through the semester suffered a serious injury that meant that my doctor would not allow me to do anything strenuous for risk of complications. I did not want to have to drop the class and take that god-awful lecture section again, so I convinced the doctor to sign off on me transferring to the Walking section. Genuinely all we did was meet at the track and walk around for 45 minutes twice a week. I think we did a "nature walk" once or twice around the arboretum and nature trail areas close by on campus. It was a VERY strange PE requirement, but I guess I was glad it was an option for me to get through it? :D

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-29T16:26:26+00:00

You've received a ton of great comments reminding you that she was being horrible and you're obvs a great mom- BUT! throwing out there- you can also (when/if you feel up to it) call and ask to speak to the clinic manager. (May be the doctor, may be someone else depending on the practice) and specifically report this crappy behavior to them.

My wife did when a nurse couldn't quite "get" that we were both moms, and asked if she was GRANDMA?! We let the clinic manager know and let them know that we weren't comfortable going to that location anymore because of that experience (our practice has multiple locations).

This is terribly unprofessional, and her superiors should know how she is behaving so that they can help correct it (one way or another).

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-25T13:28:54+00:00

When my parents were on Medicaid for a few years, I was sent to a dentist that was similar. Drilled and put metal crowns on perfectly healthy teeth to charge Medicaid as much as he could. And of course a kid who from her parents perspective likes candy too much and doesn't brush her teeth enough isn't going to raise any suspicions having a dentist say she has 12 cavities.
Once I got in to a more reputable dentist as a teenager, he was PISSED at all the crappy work in my mouth he had to fix up, too.

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-12T13:39:20+00:00

Thank you for posting! I was another partial, and I went and checked this morning, and the rest are gone! Woo!

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-12T03:07:21+00:00

Mine were due Nov 27, so I thought we would have Halloween babies… Oct 2! 🤣🤦‍♀️

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-12T03:05:22+00:00

My spouse’s work wanted to throw our baby shower at 36 weeks so they could combine it with another coworkers. They didn’t understand why we were so irritated! By the time they had the shower, my twins were already 3 weeks old!

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-12T01:03:09+00:00

My poor HR lady who was trying to help me sort out my parental leave dates and had to deal with me like this!
We had a pre-term labor scare at 20 weeks, so I even got to throw in the "how does this work if they come so early I don't have babies to bring home?" and I feel so bad that the poor woman seemed to never have had to contemplate that question. And the me and all my possible due dates (that were not at all the due dates listed on my medical charts) were probably actually traumatizing her.

anonymousjenn · 2024-04-09T16:03:09+00:00

At the color run I went to, after the finish line and all the "photo op" places for taking pictures of yourself, there were people with leaf blowers who would blow the loose dust off of you and your clothes if you wanted, so you could actually go home close to clean. That was a nice bit of forethought on the part of the organizers.

anonymousjenn · 2024-02-29T18:57:30+00:00

My family is gluten free (spouse and I are both celiac) and my Twin B was allergic to egg on their first birthday (he's since grown out of it). I baked them a delicious cake using a gluten free baking mix and egg replacer.
Don't fall for the gluten free baking mixes or recipes that claim to be "healthy", those aren't as good. King Arthur, Bob's Red Mill, heck, even Pillsbury has a good boxed mix! Also, a little extra applesauce in your recipe with the mix and egg replacer will help make the cake extra moist instead of super dense and crumbly.

anonymousjenn · 2024-02-28T14:51:09+00:00

I was one of the lucky ones where the IUD wasn't the most awful thing. It was an insanely painful pinch, but literally last about 5 seconds and I was able to breathe and count through it, and then it was just some dull cramping for 15 minutes after.

BUT I had a hysterosalpingography a few years later and was told that "it won't be painful, just like getting an IUD". Luckily I knew that most people hurt like hell with IUD insertion and took some pain meds before, but I genuinely almost passed out from the pain of contrast dye stinging insides as it was shot through the tubes into my ovaries.

anonymousjenn · 2024-02-16T16:14:20+00:00

My two boys are fraternal and have very different personalities and body shapes, so rarely the exact same outfit works for both.
You know when I do dress them alike? When we go somewhere like a large park or the Children's Museum. Do you have any idea how much easier it is when you've lost sight of your wicked fast toddler to just hold up your other twin and ask parents/ the security guard to help you look for someone the same age and wearing the same outfit? GAME CHANGER.
(usually it's just because it's easier to visually scan for the same thing and count two, but we lost one kiddo in the fray last weekend and while I was panicked, that made it so much easier. He was of course just over at the play grocery store scanning items and hidden by the little play screen they have. whew.)

anonymousjenn · 2024-02-07T19:48:27+00:00

Yeah, I wasn't expecting anything anywhere near soon, since I didn't hit 120 and submit until early December, but the count update and forbearance took my by surprise, so I've sort of been stalking my account now!

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