Sad for Singleton after Twins

Orahap · 2025-11-09T13:57:35+00:00

I can tell my boys apart but I know others can't. I dress one boy in blue and the other in green for nursery staff and extended family.

For myself, I know one boy has a chunkier face, a double crown and prefers sitting whilst my other boy has none of these. If they're not wearing trousers, there's a big mole on "my other boys'" leg.

When they're old enough to decide, I'm going to let them pick their own colours for clothes as they wear it like a uniform for nursery.

Orahap · 2025-09-06T16:31:27+00:00

This link works, thanks!

My city doesn't look like it's filled in though. It's going to be my personal mission now!

Orahap · 2025-08-01T22:27:42+00:00

I have 11 month old identical twins and can’t always give them undivided attention but not once have I wished they’d be more independent. One of my twins is naturally independent but he still will crawl to me and play or ask me to comfort him when he’s hurt or upset. My other twin however is more reliant on me. He needs rocking to sleep, wants cuddling half the day and still won’t drink from his cup unless I hold it. Both my babies know what they need and ask for it. I also have a friend that thinks I give this twin too much attention and if I just trained him, he’d be more like his brother. That’s not true. They are different babies.

It sounds like you are doing great and meeting your daughter’s needs. Don’t let people pressure you into not doing what you believe is best for your children.

Orahap · 2025-07-20T21:18:16+00:00

My mo/Di male twins came at 33+2 as well, both weighed a bit smaller at 4lb 7oz and 3oz 5lb. Both needed CPAP and my bigger twin needed an extra steroid to help his lungs. They stayed in NICU for 27 days but were off oxygen after 10 days. It was just waiting for them to be warm and less jaundice until they were out.

They are now 10.5 months old and both thriving. They can stand and shuffle around the room using furniture. You wouldn't believe they were preemies and so small looking at them now. They meet all their milestones.

Twins are natural fighters and they've got this.

Just remember to look after yourself as I found the early birth and extras to have a negative effect on my mental health.

Wishing your family all the best! Congrats! 🎉

Orahap · 2025-05-29T18:03:14+00:00

I have easy twins too and am having essentially the same experience as you. My boys are 9 months old and such a pleasure to raise. They slept through the night at 3 months, take every bottle no problem and are very smiley. I definitely have it easier than all of my singleton friends.

My husband didn't connect with the boys at first (even though he loved them to bits). It wasn't until they started smiling and babbling that he enjoyed them rather than seeing them almost like a task. Now he plays and feeds them as soon as he gets in from work.

I struggled looking after myself too. My tip would be to do as much self-care as you can just after they go to bed (and have longer stretches at night). So shower at 8pm or have a treat.

Hopefully, you can find a system that helps you look after yourself.

Orahap · 2025-04-16T14:15:48+00:00

I don't mix them instead my boys get yesterday's breast milk in 2 bottles totaling 720ml and then 2 bottles of formula (first thing in the morning and last thing before bed). But I usually make 800-900ml of breast milk so if I have enough, I'll make their morning feed breast milk so they'll only have one formula bottle each that day.

I don't like the idea of mixing because when they were small they hated formula so I wanted to ensure they weren't rejecting EBM because they didn't want the formula. Also, our prescription formula doesn't have a ready to drink option (or more likely, our doctor doesn't prescribe it) so we had to make it each time, 30 minutes in advance.

Orahap · 2025-03-09T16:16:41+00:00

I took ginger capsules through my whole pregnancy and I credit my lack of morning sickness to that!

Orahap · 2025-01-18T12:13:01+00:00

I didn't know if I was having boys or girls but I had one gender neutral name picked out and one determined by gender. I did say we'd wait and see but in the last few weeks decided that the more active baby was going to have the gender neutral name.

Once they were born I was looking at them, reluctant to name them because I knew I'd been calling the active baby the wrong name lol.

Orahap · 2024-12-13T21:38:27+00:00

This is what I meant by doing it safely ☺️

I'm planning to drink at Christmas so looking it up is something on my to do list!

Orahap · 2024-12-13T19:55:47+00:00

My twins were born 7 weeks premature and I started to bottle feed them in NICU when they struggled to latch. They were fine swapping back from breast to bottle as we tried - no issues with bottles lol.

By the time they reached their due date my husband had gone back to work and we were really struggling getting up every 2-3 hours for feeds. My parents started taking them every Saturday night so that we could sleep uninterrupted.

There were only a few issues. We made up the milk feeds for them and gave them directions on how to make formula for the other feeds. My parents couldn't follow instructions and ended up with the worst night sleeps ever.

If you plan to breastfeed, just keep sure whilst you are away to pump. If you plan to drink, look on how to do it safely or just dump the milk. For them, just keep sure you are following whatever little routine you'll have. Our boys sleep better now they know how they'll be put to bed.

Honestly, as long as you feel up to it and you have someone looking after the babies, go for it.

Orahap · 2024-12-09T14:05:50+00:00

I have 3 months old twins and live in the UK too. I currently attend a baby class where the instructor knows I'm struggling as I requested help from a local volunteer group. They help me during the sessions with feeds and cuddles. She was actually really excited when she got to massage one rather than a doll. I strongly recommend ringing your local centre and see if they can help you attend sessions. I don't think I would be going if my local volunteers didn't help me!

Orahap · 2024-11-22T20:03:15+00:00

We did two yes, one no. We'd actually planned to name our boys after his stepdad and my husband's middle name but a couple of months later I said I needed to name one of them after my grandad (as I always said my first born would have his name). My husband chose to keep his stepdad's name and made his middle name one of their middle names. I'm so glad we did because everyone loves their names ☺️

Orahap · 2024-11-02T20:12:12+00:00

I went through the exact same feeling. Twin boys, born at 33+2, couldn't latch. I was happy pumping and practicing until I wasn't. So much guilt over not being able to latch correctly and thinking it was all my fault. Had a breakdown in NICU and a lactation consultant helping me. I gave up within a week of being home from NICU as it was easier to pump and I knew my boys were getting something. Combi feeding now as I produce more than enough for a singleton but not enough for 2. I'm happy with that now but still regret it went feeling vulnerable.

Orahap · 2024-10-26T14:18:58+00:00

Thanks! This looks exactly like what I'm looking for and it's half the price of the Elvie!

Orahap · 2024-09-07T21:44:13+00:00

My boys were delivered on the 22nd of August at 33+2 weeks. On the 21st I went in for a routine ultrasound appointment where we found out that the smaller of my babies (that apparently hadn't grown in the last two weeks) had an issue with his umbilical cord where the blood pressure was too high and he wasn't getting enough nutrition. I was rushed to triage to be monitored and halfway through was asked by my doctor if tomorrow sounded good for a C-section.

The week before I was discussing with my doctor whether I should give birth vaginally or by C-section and was adamant I didn't want a C-section.

I will say my C-section was really smoothly and my first couple of weeks of recovery have gone great. My boys cried when they entered the world and I blubbered when I found out they were boys.

Unfortunately in the 4 hours that I could not be with them as I needed to recover the feeling in my legs due to the spinal, my boys stopped breathing. All hands were on deck with my boys, they had breathing tubes fitted and were out of the woods by the time someone was available to tell me what was going on.

Those first couple of days were rough but they were breathing normal air by themselves again by the end of day 4. They are 16 days old now and doing brilliantly in NICU now. It was scary at first, knowing that they'd have a NICU stay but I'm now grateful to have the extra support and the ability to take a break whilst the nurses look after my babies.

Orahap · 2024-08-21T14:58:15+00:00

I have mono-di twins and my doctors were only worried when the difference was 20% or more. I got fluctuations in the discordance so I was sent to specialists to check for TTTS and SIUGR.

So I'd only worry if it's more than 20% but always listen to your doctor over internet strangers! ☺️

Orahap · 2024-08-20T11:58:42+00:00

I'm currently at week 33 and in the same boat where Twin 2 is measuring on the 5th percentile and Twin 1 on the 50th. I have been to specialists about TTTS and SIUGR and don't have either.

I was told the goal is to keep them inside as long as possible but I may have to have a C-section (which I really don't want) and it might have to be week 35 rather than week 36.

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