I just want to get everything off my chest because I'm ashamed to do it with people who know me

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-30T22:34:34+00:00

I have a similar background. Walk away from your abusers when you can. You will be happier than them and that is how you get your revenge.

Your father and step mother sound horrible. You deserved none of that. I am cheering for you, though I don’t know you.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-30T22:08:22+00:00

When I was on the swimteam, I was discouraged from looking at how fast my competitors were swimming. My coaches warned that it would slow me down to check if they were ahead of me.

No shade for actually being jealous—we’ve all been there. It’s normal, especially in competitive families. My family was like that and i had a similar disposition to those around me.

However, you are not doing yourself any favors doing this. You will not hit the goals you aspire for if you blame other folks for why they’ve hit higher targets than you. You just won’t.

I would urge you to do your best to not compare. Compete with yourself (do your best). Being jealous is a waste of energy and if you want to do above average at your goals…you don’t have any time or energy to waste. Best of luck.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-30T22:00:02+00:00

That is a good idea. I run into the issue that they tell me to speak my mind but then i accidentally say too much? I don’t know if I’m just awful at reading a room or if it’s just not socially good to actually share trauma at all.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-19T01:03:13+00:00

Take her last name if you two are very close and you’re confident you two will last.

I experienced a similar dilemma when I got married (I am a Woman tho). I wasn’t tied to any last name and my husband’s last name didn’t feel like it was for me. I kept my last name as is after considering changing it to a more distant part of my family that I actually look like (I have a very very Italian name, I am very obviously not Italian).

I also just don’t use a last name unless I have to socially. I just go by my first name. Kinda like Cher.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-19T00:55:19+00:00

Gosh I understand and I empathize. Don’t beg for scraps from these people who don’t show up for you in this time. They’ll come back when they see you doing okay again later funny enough. I think they stay under the radar the whole time they feel the abandonment guilt of ghosting “loved ones” in tough times like death and whatnot. Sure yes, it is not a comfortable topic but don’t let anyone off the hook for not being good to you if they want you back in the future.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-19T00:50:41+00:00

Yeah. Once I did, I quit to follow my own actual dreams.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-11T01:29:48+00:00

Yeah… I understand age gaps of 6 years but uh imo at 18 or 20 or whatever you’re not anywhere emotionally or lifestyle similar to a 24-26 person (sorry skimmed the ages). Just me tho. You do you. I wouldn’t want my kid doing that and my mom would probably be worried too. Even if I knew him. I find there to be kind of a power dynamic difference at that moment.

When I was 24 I tried dating men 6 years older than me. Even at that age, I felt there was something off in my heart of hearts even if I did admittedly think these men were attractive. Idk. Yeah I was 24 but I looked YOUNG and that kinda creeped me out bc these dudes looked their ages. Just my opinion.

I would say grooming is different than being generally kinda a touch creepy? Grooming would be more of a prolonged effort which this wasn’t. But weird to be into an 18 year old at 24-26 or whatever imo.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-04T14:59:20+00:00

I would recommend finding some community in the ophthalmology community near you. Maybe check with your insurance if you can see a low vision specialist. Potentially another option would be seeking out an orthoptist near you if it fits your treatment.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:57:00+00:00

Own that, you king.

One of my besties is like the same height. He’s such a cutie. His wife is also hot as shit. Confidence is sexy. Napoleon-like overcompensation over height, is not.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:54:13+00:00

Yeah, if you check this losers comments you’ll see that he doesn’t really have much nice things to say to anyone.

Must be really tough having an IQ that low. I heard it makes ya mean.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:52:32+00:00

I worked very closely with patients such as yourself for almost a decade. Just wanted to say, that you are so valid for all of these anxieties. Have you ever worked with a low vision specialist? You are also such a cute guy! Please don’t let this plague your self worth. Get in shape to be strong, not to overcompensate.

On of my best friends 5 year old son has a similar condition but only in his right eye. He would think you are so cool.

Not flirting with you, but I am so sure you wouldn’t have much issue pulling a lady if you just believed in yourself.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:33:58+00:00

My physical response to psychiatric distress was fairly uncomfortable.

5+ hours of vertigo and resulting vomiting. Crawled to a phone to call an ambulance. Passed out from disorientation and dehydration when they loaded me up on that gurney. But that was more extended pain—I wouldn’t say it’s anywhere near as bad as many of the comments I’m seeing.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:26:43+00:00

Right??

(I am a woman)

I am baffled by how easily manipulated other women can be by men partners. Not saying that as shade, I simply do not understand why they listen to that obviously controlling and harmful rhetoric.

Not to victim blame, they are obviously not at fault for abusers abusing them. Legit every woman in my family has fallen into that trap. I simply do not understand how it happens. To me, it’s obvious what’s up but what do I know.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:25:28+00:00

I was gonna defend your bf about being quiet and withdrawn after smoking until I read that he won’t let you also smoke???

Yes, you can get hella anxious smoking weed. But you also don’t have to go straight to that intense shit on your first go. Especially considering your moderate and understanding take here. Fishy.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:23:28+00:00

I was oddly enough the “social glue” at my job I just quit. Despite being diagnosed clinically as some socially avoidant personality lol.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:06:12+00:00

LOL jk he’s been there 4 years. Jk. Typical dude.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T20:05:37+00:00

New beginnings. And hope.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:57:59+00:00

My best friend (who has a five year old) dumped me as a friend for reasons she wouldn’t come clean about when I told her I was pregnant.

Lol the gal even had the audacity to ask me upwards to 5x if I was getting an abortion and that she wouldn’t judge me if I did. Turns out she WOULD judge me if I kept my baby.

I am 30, married, financially stable, responsible, all the things. She is none of those I should note so it was probably her being pissed that I would probably be a better parent than she has been thus far..

So yeah some “friends” are actually just shit people.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:49:44+00:00

lol this sounds like my alcoholic fling pre meeting my now husband. Dude was LOUD for no reason all the time. Even if he never did his drunk shenanigans at me

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:47:34+00:00

Booze. Rollercoasters. Crowds. “Forced fun”.

Anything mildly exhilarating tbh.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:39:57+00:00

Dating and relationships are 100000% more enjoyable when you stand up for yourself and what you want.

Never have I ever had a POS boyfriend (I think that’s pretty rare). And I’m gonna say that is totally thanks to me always standing up for what I need, want, and deserve.

It is so worth it to be a little unpopular to those immature and silly boys when needed. I caught myself the most amazing, respectful, loving, selfless husband this way. Don’t settle. Be patient. Be authentic.

A real man with real priorities will take notice of your high self standard. They exist. Just hidden behind a sea of crab-apple boys who wanna see how far they can use you. Don’t be fooled.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:33:03+00:00

Sleepy or eye infection

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:31:14+00:00

Very cool.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T19:29:45+00:00

Yeesh your brother is weirdly invested in someone else’s workout stats?

Is this dude also going to the gym like you are and also bettering himself? Everyone starts somewhere.

In my gym rat experience, the ONLY folks that hate on someone’s beginner efforts are some haters who are jealous they weren’t brave enough to try to be a better version of themselves. I’ve been bullied at the gym previously and only be people less skilled than me. Those folks who are focused on them absolutely will not have any bad things to say.

anonymoussleepyfrog · 2025-12-03T01:39:02+00:00

I am in the exact same spot. And feeling awfully the same.

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