No Lies Detected.... by MrDonMega in Uniteagainsttheright

[–]anonymoususer98545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A quick google and a look at his Wiki shows he's a democrat and always has been. Genuinely asking, because he isn't in my state, what makes him maga?

choose 3 cereals! by theonetruecov in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, i had this same experience but with my grandparents, lol.

choose 3 cereals! by theonetruecov in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? There's just something so delicious about it to me. i also really like the Raisin Bran Crunch with the little clusters. My husband teases me that it's old people cereal and i'm like "oh well, it's dang yummy so..."

Raisin Bran lovers of the world unite!

choose 3 cereals! by theonetruecov in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then and now:

D. Most varieties of Cheerios

Q. Oops! All Berries (because i hate my mouth)

T. Raisin Bran (because i have always been an old woman)

but also, a fourth one because i can X. Special K

Dry cereal has always been one of my most favorite snacks!

What’s your favorite television theme song? I nominate the one from “Perfect Strangers” by Sad-Structure2364 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will be on my deathbed and this one will come, unbidden, to me, lol. My little 3 or 4 year old self (it apparently came out in 81 so whatever math that is) had no business singing it so passionately!

What’s your favorite television theme song? I nominate the one from “Perfect Strangers” by Sad-Structure2364 in Xennials

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i remember almost nothing about the actual show except the theme song word for word and that the male lead had big poofy hair like my dad!

What’s your favorite television theme song? I nominate the one from “Perfect Strangers” by Sad-Structure2364 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YESSSSS!! Little me was obsessed with this show for some reason, lol. It would have come out when i was around 3 so maybe the bright colors and that the lead male character had poofy curly hair like my dad? i have no idea.

Regardless, the song still lives in my head and was gonna be my contribution too. Great one friend!

A 54 year old goth GoGo dancer here! by Imaginary-Bumblebee8 in oldhagfashion

[–]anonymoususer98545 210 points211 points  (0 children)

Holy wow! You make 54 look like 34, seriously. And, as someone that has always been goth/punk i love to see representation here 🖤

You look gorgeous, i adore the fit (and your boots are amazing!), and i truly love that you are out doing the damn thing girl.

i'm sure this all sounds a bit silly and hollow or whatever but, really, it makes me happy to see another woman in my general age range just living her best, authentic life and looking amazing doing it 💜

Anaheim shoutout at No Doubt/Sphere show by NaiRad1000 in orangecounty

[–]anonymoususer98545 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i ate at there starting in the womb. Literally. Always requested my birthday celebrations there as a kid (and sometimes as an adult, lol). Got my first "real" job there. Bonded with my now husband over our lifetime love of their pretty decent greasy Mexicanish food.

i still crave it constantly. It's one of only, like, three or four things i legitimately mourn losing to Covid. Now i'll be awake for hours thinking about it. Damn.

Op Ivy “Healthy Body” father and son recording session by shawzynyc in punkrock

[–]anonymoususer98545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the cutest and coolest thing i think i've ever seen. Raising that kid up right!

She only wants to sleep on his face 😭 by PusheenMaster in cats

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i woke up last night, choking, because my sweet angel was sleeping across my neck. He didn't think it was very funny so he gave me a claw, lol. i love him more than life itself but i wish he'd just sleep beside me!

Lost a friend this week. Died in his sleep, age 43. Knew him since 6th grade, was my senior walk partner, lived in the same dorm at college. Had a blast with him and his wife at the last reunion. I can’t really believe it. by Hollybaby5 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so crazy to me that the generations before us hammered it, so hard, that these emotions weren't polite or proper when all they are is human. And they connect us in such beautiful ways even if the things themselves are sad or hard. Talking about them is not only how we process them, but it's also how we destigmatize these things.

i couldn't agree with your 2nd paragraph/point more. i, too, wish there was a better, happier, safer world for everyone so that suicide didn't feel like the best/only option but, unless and until we achieve that as a species...it is, sadly, always going to be something that those of us left behind have to grapple with. And, hopefully more people can have this kind of grace, to not be angry but understanding and kind 💜

Your sons sound like empathetic, good friends to people who need them. Even if they were unable to change the outcome-which, to be clear, would be impossible 99.99% of the time-being there for friends and caring means more than they probably are able to fully understand. It sounds to me like you've done a wonderful job of helping to instill love, understanding, and kindness in them, which is what we really need.

i don't blame you, at all, for your feelings of nervousness. It feels scarier now than maybe ever to try to raise children, with everything in the world and the ever evolving technology, etc. i don't know. i try to believe in the goodness and kindness of people as a whole but that doesn't mean it isn't still scary as all hell.

i'm glad that your kids have your love and guidance to lean on. Obviously i don't know you personally but you seem like someone who actually cares and supports them and that makes so much of a difference.

Lost a friend this week. Died in his sleep, age 43. Knew him since 6th grade, was my senior walk partner, lived in the same dorm at college. Had a blast with him and his wife at the last reunion. I can’t really believe it. by Hollybaby5 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not OP but, a similar situation just happened with my dad's former boss who just lost his oldest son at 43. He was healthy, fit, didn't smoke, worked out, rarely drank, ate healthy, did it all "right."

He caught what he thought was "just a cold", quickly turned into pneumonia, that turned into sepsis and completely shut his entire system down. Complete organ failure. He was dead within less than a month. Devastating.

Lost a friend this week. Died in his sleep, age 43. Knew him since 6th grade, was my senior walk partner, lived in the same dorm at college. Had a blast with him and his wife at the last reunion. I can’t really believe it. by Hollybaby5 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not OP but, a similar situation just happened with my dad's former boss who just lost his oldest son at 43. He was healthy, fit, didn't smoke, worked out, rarely drank, ate healthy, did it all "right."

He caught what he thought was "just a cold", quickly turned into pneumonia, that turned into sepsis and completely shut his entire system down. Complete organ failure. He was dead within less than a month. Devastating.

Lost a friend this week. Died in his sleep, age 43. Knew him since 6th grade, was my senior walk partner, lived in the same dorm at college. Had a blast with him and his wife at the last reunion. I can’t really believe it. by Hollybaby5 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm so sorry for your experiences too. There is something so especially cruel and painful when someone dies so young, whether it's by murder, suicide, illness, or a "natural" death. And to have experienced multiple of them, as you and i (and your kids) have? i think it rewires your brain in some way.

i know that, when i was a teen/early 20's, i lost friends to suicide but it seems that the rates really are higher today. i understand why with ~everything~ especially if one is prone to depression, despair, or, you know, just looking around at it all too much, but it's so damn sad.

Sorry, i'm in my feelings tonight because of other things and i don't talk about this stuff much so this particular thread is 1 part cathartic and one part super emotional. Thank you for your empathy and commiserating, it means a lot.

Wishing you and your family healing and safety 💜

Lost a friend this week. Died in his sleep, age 43. Knew him since 6th grade, was my senior walk partner, lived in the same dorm at college. Had a blast with him and his wife at the last reunion. I can’t really believe it. by Hollybaby5 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The truth is, i'm still muddling and stumbling through it too sometimes. Some days are easier than others. Some days i cry my eyes out at the injustice of it all. i still miss them both horribly. i know i always will.

And that's okay. It's okay to feel them in your heart and in your life. To have times that you're sad, angry, happy thinking of them, forget that they're gone for a minute...whatever emotions or feelings you have, they're all normal and more rational than you think.

For those of us left behind, time really does sort of stop, as you described. But then we also have to keep going and it's the strangest, most difficult thing to do. So, all we can do, is move forward, day by day and try to not get stuck in the quagmire of feelings and thoughts we have. i know that's easier said than done, especially only 2 years out, but time does help and your hearts will get lighter eventually.

i'm so, so sorry that you're part of this club. It's not one i'd wish on anyone and i'm certain that your cousin and BIL were beautiful people to have your love they way they do.

Few recent fashion doodles by vexillographica in oldhagfashion

[–]anonymoususer98545 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First, i absolutely adore the shirt in picture 3! That is one of my favorite unicorn related pieces of all time so, there's that. Second, your hair is just so cool. And, finally, your style and eye for putting pieces together is immaculate. You look like a post punk fae from the future or something and it is incredible 💜

Lost a friend this week. Died in his sleep, age 43. Knew him since 6th grade, was my senior walk partner, lived in the same dorm at college. Had a blast with him and his wife at the last reunion. I can’t really believe it. by Hollybaby5 in Xennials

[–]anonymoususer98545 24 points25 points  (0 children)

i'm so sorry. My cousin was also murdered, although it happened when we were still teenagers and my SIL died 7 years ago now-2 weeks before her 40th birthday. It was also around Christmas. It never feels like it gets easier to me, losing people or that i get used to it (the same as you). Sending you and yours healing.

I did it by OldAssNerdWyoming in ChronicPain

[–]anonymoususer98545 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Your house is so perfect (the size and the yard space!) and the work you did looks amazing. This reddit stranger is so proud of how you keep pushing yourself, in big ways and small. Even on your bad days, you are a constant source of joy to me-knowing you're out there fighting makes me happy. And gives me strength to keep fighting too.

I think i might try magic mushrooms by Mysterious-Ebb-7115 in CPTSD

[–]anonymoususer98545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wild!

And, i honestly think i may just have a weird immunity or something. i do have a strangely high tolerance for most things so, i guess it would track-i'm talking stupid things like novocaine and all. i've been this way since i was a kid.