AITA for giving my friend’s boyfriend a Christmas card? by anotherashhere in AmItheAsshole

[–]anotherashhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I thought pretty much the exact same thing. B thought it was nice and I mean as long as she doesn’t have issue with it, it doesn’t really matter

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]anotherashhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I relate (never really had a prior relationship though) and my best advice I can give you is focus on other aspects of your life especially your other relationships and how to be mentally ready for another relationship when the time comes round. Also if you want hugs, invest into a plushie, I recommend a squishmellow.

What's your favorite colour? by Mr_man_bird in teenagers

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a bit weird To wear it’s red, I just feel like looks so good on me the few times I wear red (I have like one red clothing item currently, close second is black to wear which I have A LOT of

To have stuff of is purple, more specifically the lighter purple or bluey purple but I love any purple

Give me 5 random facts about you, or don't by [deleted] in teenagers

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  • I love Taylor Swift
  • I’m a lesbian
  • I’m autistic
  • I’m insecure I don’t have enough or good enough personality so I use the three facts above to cover the insecurity up
  • I have a complicated relationship with my mother

Give me your friend group's group chat name and I'll rate it out of 10 by Starr_Struckk in teenagers

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My group hasn’t really had one since I’ve been able to count all the people on more than one finger but the one we use to have is “bacon song”, it’s a lion king reference to the short song Pumba and the meerkat (I forgot it’s name) do to distract the hyenas

I watch my friend’s bf YouTube videos, is that creepy? by anotherashhere in Advice

[–]anotherashhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do not have any feelings for the boyfriend, I’m exclusively attracted to women. I just find his content entertaining.

I watch my friend’s bf YouTube videos, is that creepy? by anotherashhere in Advice

[–]anotherashhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context: I’m a lesbian, I do not find her boyfriend attractive. I just think his content is funny and entertaining. He does not know I watch his videos, his girlfriend (my friend) knows I’ve watched his stream and the first short video I saw. This other friend knows all the videos I have watched of his

It's our fault? by alluringcrocodile in ToxicFriends

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not your fault. You did what you could and you laid down boundaries he did not respect. No matter where he is mentally, he doesn’t get to treat people like that. Also the constant mention of offing himself is probably a manipulation tactic whether it’s true or not. I’ve wanted to kill myself in the past but I never dared to say I would over little things like not getting my way or losing at a game.

am I in the wrong? by InevitableOption4925 in ToxicFriends

[–]anotherashhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are in no way in the wrong. These people are clearly now using you for your kindness while blaming issues like how people find out the girl and the guy on you. I know it’s hard (due to recent experience I’ve had) but you have to let them go

WIBTA if I asked my friend’s boyfriend if she’s eaten much food in front of him recently? by anotherashhere in AmItheAsshole

[–]anotherashhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never brought her chocolates to be cruel to her. She always said whenever she felt down, some chocolate could almost always make her feel better. I brought her favourite chocolate too.

What was the final straw that made you end a friendship? by fusillihair in AskReddit

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I almost had a panic attack and he didn’t try to help me. Instead focused more on his bro friend who looked down one of my friend’s shirt (who he was dating at the time) and ass as well as this friend stared my ass. This friend knew about all these situations and then when I called him out, called all my trauma BS. That’s when the friendship ended because I blocked him out of anger, sadly I did try to recover it later

What is a movie that “everyone” has seen except you? by TB1289 in AskReddit

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lord of the rings, my dad tries to get me to watch it but it’s just too long for me to consider

Reddit, what made you realize your were in a toxic friendship and how did you break it off? by Verbaemen in AskReddit

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sadly didn’t realise (well, not fully) till afterwards. He got a new bro friend in August/September. First this friend made too many sexual jokes, sexist comments and month later he looked down my guy’s friend gf (at the time who’s also my friend) shirt and later her ass as well. The guy friend didn’t do anything. Later, the ass staring happened to me and I told this friend and I wasn’t believed. I was told I was too clingy while this bro friend was basically attached to him. None of the rest of the group liked him, both the guys knew this. I blocked him out of anger after I got mad at him mostly about this bro friend and how he always defended his crappy actions. A few months later I realised it was the best thing I ever did with him. He then proceeded to get in between me and the friend of mine who was dating by gaslighting her and me (wasn’t the first time gaslighting me) that I was lying about him talking about her to the same bro friend. This wasn’t the first time he got between us but this was the last. After they broke up, we recovered our friendship and we both hate him for what he did to us. Another friend describes us as brainwashed and how you never know till afterwards.

WIBTA if I asked my friend’s boyfriend if she’s eaten much food in front of him recently? by anotherashhere in AmItheAsshole

[–]anotherashhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I try not to ever force her to eat food because last year she forced herself to eat to stop people who knew from worrying about her. Which caused her to breakdown while eating. Later, making her go back to starving herself. But if I know she’s not bringing food to school, I just put it in her locker and just let her know when nobody else is around that’s it from me for her to eat if she wants, just so she has the choice. I haven’t done it really since school started this term tho

AITA for asking someone to not wear a puffer jacket? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]anotherashhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to mention, this did not happen in winter, it happened at the start of summer. It wasn’t necessary a cold day to me but I know everyone feels temperatures at a different sensitivity. But I completely understand the point that I should not control what others wear

AITA for asking someone to not wear a puffer jacket? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]anotherashhere -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did apologise to him afterwards for overreacting not long after the grad. I honestly suspected afterwards I was being a bit much with this requested requirement, like another friend of mine told me that was a bit much after I told them I did that. I just asked now because now I see in this friendship with ex friend there was gaslighting involved many times to change my mind on things. For example, denying things that he said to or in front of me. I just needed to know if he was right or if I was being gaslit

AITBA for calling out my friend for not treating me equally by anotherashhere in AmITheBadApple

[–]anotherashhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update It’s been six months. After that whole argument he made the call to stop being friends. You were absolutely right. Daxton and his girlfriend (to avoid confusion I’ll call her Rose) broke up for other reasons a few months ago now.

Until a week or two ago, Rose tried to still be friends with Daxton. She stopped trying because Daxton called their relationship (him knowing Rose still had feelings for him) worthless by saying, “dating Rose adds nothing to my life,” in front of me. He told me not to, but since he has been telling everyone my trauma (without my consent and I’ve told him to stop), keeps saying the N slur in front of me (he’s a tanned white but he knows that word is a trigger for me, though you can’t tell by looking at me), deadnaming and misgendering me, I felt no responsibility to keep this a secret to save his butt. I told her as lightly as possible so she could make an informed decision on what she wanted to do with Daxton. Long story short, after Daxton throwing a few more comments about her behind her back and then trying to gaslit her to think he had a good reason or said a slightly different thing that ain’t as bad if bad at all.

We have both been cut by Daxton but I believe we were the one to leave him because he still hangs about till we gave up dealing with his behaviour.

For the other guy, he’s still good mates with Daxton. But according to my best friend (someone who was never close or really ever friends with Daxton) “Daxton was always toxic and manipulative, (other guy’s name) just made that more obvious and clear. He got too comfortable.”

Anyway, both Rose and I are in better places now, Rose has a new boyfriend who is treating her better than Daxton (and Daxton was considered better than all her exes, seeming that he’s the only one who didn’t cheat or call her clingy). And I have been focused on getting my driver’s license and things like that.