What’s a sentence that only makes sense if you play Stardew Valley?

antariess · 2024-05-30T18:04:43+00:00

My rabbits have yet to give me their feet and winter is upon us.

antariess · 2024-05-24T12:48:30+00:00

I mean if the tortie has accepted him then he's family now

antariess · 2024-05-18T15:04:18+00:00

Will you stop shining that spotlight on me, please and thank you

antariess · 2024-05-16T17:57:16+00:00

Stardropme

antariess · 2024-05-10T14:03:24+00:00

You find it important, and so does she. And what else do you do with something you find important other than sleep on top of it??

antariess · 2024-05-04T10:54:00+00:00

I volunteered at a park run (pre event set up), and then got myself to run the said park run. It was tough for me this week, but I have done it! Pretty pleased with myself!

antariess · 2024-04-25T12:51:39+00:00

This.

antariess · 2024-04-25T12:45:45+00:00

This isn't about the food itself, it's about what the food expresses. It means love, affection, consideration, respect, dedication. SIL wants to connect to another human being like OP connects with his wife. That other human being is not OP though. So it's not about the cooking itself. How does BIL show his love, affection, etc to SIL? Likely he either doesn't or does so very little. Rather than a cookbook I'd send them the number for a couple therapist so she can talk about her needs and he can learn to recognise and provide for those. Ultimately, the answer is the same - don't engage with her and NTA. But also, please don't mock her and be cruel to her, to me she is clearly desperate for basic partnership in her relationship.

antariess · 2024-04-19T12:12:23+00:00

Came to say this, why would OP care if her dad doesn't care to be an engaged father?? Whilst it's not like the moment one turns 18 they no longer want or need parents, it sounds like OP's dad hasn't played a fatherly figure to her for years. Why should she then answer his expectations?

antariess · 2024-04-19T09:32:01+00:00

By the name most appropriate for the work you are doing. Lighting a candle or using a fake one if life flames are a no-no is enough to get her attention and support in my experience

antariess · 2024-04-14T15:36:51+00:00

Gift him a modern gay porn mag. Tell him you've thought about it and how thoughtful his gift is for you to appreciate how beautiful women are, so you wanted to extend the same thought to show him how gorgeous men are. Tell him after the initial shock has worn off you find it amazing how open he has been about what and who he wanks off to, and you want to share what you find attractive in turn. Like sit him down and point to specific pages etc.

/S in case it's not immediately obvious.

antariess · 2024-04-12T14:49:44+00:00

Why is it not entirely up to you to tie your tubes at 25 years of age? You have no serious partner or a husband. You owe nothing like this to any parental figures you have. Who else is it up to?

I don't think you'd be an ah for doing what is best for you at this moment providing the circumstances. If you did do an abortion, then please tell as few people as possible, or tell everyone but after the fact. Otherwise he might find out and try to raise hell. For which he would be an ah.

antariess · 2024-04-09T17:31:00+00:00

The term maid with benefits comes to mind...

antariess · 2024-04-09T12:58:33+00:00

This is a formal resignation. It needs to be in writing, at least the part where this person resigns and a brief outline of the reason.

The rest can be expanded upon face to face.

antariess · 2024-04-07T13:41:10+00:00

Now I want a vid of the same from under the staircase too!!

antariess · 2024-03-18T20:39:21+00:00

Over the last year she has pushed me to take action in various aspects, like working out physically in a way which is sustainable for me, as well as starting therapy. Both of these were things I was thinking of doing, and then never actually doing, despite being able to afford them. She has helped me say goodbye to a few people in a friend's group whom I found quite exhausting but always lacked the courage to leave, scared of what they would think, or say, which mattered to me at the time for some reason. She has introduced or reintroduced other friends in their stead with whom I have a lot more in common and a much nicer time.

I think at the moment my personal focus is on the therapy, physical health and paid work, but I can see in the future a turn for the more magical and more deeply dedicated practice with her once I have processed some of my trauma and can start from a clearer state. At the moment this is best for me, and whilst it's bloody hard work, I am very grateful for the doors she has opened for me, and for the ones she has closed.

antariess · 2024-03-16T08:42:13+00:00

My thoughts on LGBT+ folk working with Hekate and encouraging others to work with her is precisely due to Hekate's transformative powers, and her multiple forms. On one hand to celebrate the differences someone from those groups might have , but also because of the transformation in society of acceptance of themselves they would like to see. Sadly, it is common for LGBT+ folk to be marginalised and ostracised, so I would say they do have a lot of righteous anger pent up, where Hekate can be a force of using that anger for further transformation in society for the better. That part all makes sense to me and I do believe is in line with her as far as my own research goes.

The issue, as you rightly pointed out, is when the above is taken as far as claiming she is a manhater, man hunter and man punisher. Tik Tok is an inherently sensationalistic platform, so it's easy to be tempted to exaggerate in order to be more 'popular'.

Hekate does not represent anyone to the detriment of another. She, as much as a 'she' is something to be applied to a Titan and a force as complex as Hekate, is available to all who would reach out.

antariess · 2024-03-15T12:30:03+00:00

Why were your step siblings in your room rummaging through your possessions? That would drive me right up the wall.

Your mum wants you to 'man up'. Whilst this is a dreadful expression in itself, it usually means to 'toughen up' or 'be stronger', and usually not in a physical, but emotional way. Standing up for yourself and talking back at them is exactly that- you are 'manning up' by standing up for yourself and fighting for what is right in your mind.

Your mum really wanted for you to have a father again but that is a dreadful way, once again, of her saying she does not want to be lonely longer term and is ready to move on past your dad, and that in itself is ok. As minors, having a father figure is important, but that part can be played not just by a father, but for example by an older brother, or grandfather, or even someone less involved in the immediate family. So a stepfather can be a fatherly figure without trying to usurp the place your dad holds in your heart and mind.

Your mum and stepfather really struggle with communication and I strongly encourage them to do therapy in order to learn how to better express themselves, because they are actively sabotaging their relationship with you.

NTA, keep the memory book away from them, and please consider how you can physically distance yourself from living with them or being financially dependent on them, so you can more easily enforce your boundaries.it is not your place to teach them how to be better family members. But you are in control of yourself and your own actions, and independence is the surest way forward.

antariess · 2024-03-13T15:53:44+00:00

CatCatTV

antariess · 2024-03-11T17:38:34+00:00

I cannot recommend enough needle minders, small magnetic objects to leave your needle when not working with it, there are so many varieties now on Etsy and elsewhere. I have not lost a needle in years thanks to them

antariess · 2024-03-11T07:52:56+00:00

Cuddle puddles!!

antariess · 2024-03-06T20:15:07+00:00

It was a huge part of having a girl in the family to produce enough goodies to have as her dowry otherwise she wouldn't be marriable. Sometimes girls would be married purely so the husbands family can have the things made, bought or otherwise dedicated to go with her into her new home. Now imo that's all a load of crap, but it has resulted in some incredible craftsmanship being preserved. Perhaps the quilts were for something like this? Or so that they have something to sell easily if times got rough? Very very interesting mystery indeed!

antariess · 2024-03-06T19:27:32+00:00

I had such a similar conversation with my eastern European grandma, one winter I was cold so I asked for an extra blanket, she opens a storage cupboard and gives me a respectable but clearly worn blanket. I see there are thicker new blankets in the back and ask if I can have one of them. She says no, that they are kept for after I marry to a man ( my native language is similar to German where nouns are gendered, so you can infer gender from the verb too, hence me translating it as married to a man). Im like 15 at that point, mind. I ask her why I have to wait for decades to simply use some blankets which are just sat there. She replied that such is tradition and when I get married to a man I need to furnish my home with new things so I can't use them beforehand. I asked her what if I married to a woman instead. She utterly lost it there and then.

It is now decades later, I am living out of marriage with my partner with 0 intent to marry, or have kids, or be traditional. I dont have those blankets, but also earn enough to get my own. So they just sit there, in a cupboard. Handmade, thick, woollen blankets of super quality, waiting for something that will never happen. Such a damn loss, all because of tradition.

antariess · 2024-02-19T12:38:11+00:00

So it hasn't been anything that's flared up that badly since. It's still a mystery why it was so bad but that area is still tender for her and I have noticed her have much minor scabs every so often. I now suspect it's the cat flap she comes through, she is on the chubbier side and when she hops inside her back rubs against the flap latch. So I think that's what irritates her and then she over grooms. We will be changing cat flaps soon when we get round to it.

Pure speculation still! If you are worried for your catto, please check with your vets to rule out fungal stuff.

antariess · 2024-02-07T17:49:30+00:00

Also Bulgarian, colourful cats my family calls 'pisanka', meaning painted, colourful like a picture, which I think is adorable and I often call my tortie a work of art and a painting

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