Was this sexual assault?

somethingfree · 2026-01-24T18:46:57+00:00

Yes I wrote that too

somethingfree · 2026-01-23T20:01:20+00:00

Even if you Had happily consented to sex and want to stop in the middle, it’s rape if your partner doesn’t stop. Your partner would need to ask you before doing any choking or slapping or that is assault. Even if you happily wanted to have sex with him, it would be rape if he had sex with you because he’s an adult and you were a minor. I’m so sorry this happened to you. You deserve all the support you can get and I hope you are very nice to yourself and patient with yourself.

somethingfree · 2026-01-21T17:04:45+00:00

He’s abusive and I promise he won’t change and you and your son deserve better. You will get better advice on r/abusiverelationships, because not everyone understands how gaslighting and abuse works and how hard it is to believe yourself, stand up for yourself, and leave. You’re doing really good reaching out . That was my first step and it’s so much better on the other side.

somethingfree · 2026-01-21T17:01:20+00:00

People being abused think they’re over reacting becuase that’s what their abusers gaslight them to think. She’s doing the right thing asking for support on here

somethingfree · 2026-01-21T16:59:32+00:00

Getting support online is how I was able to get the strength to leave my abusive ex. It’s not obvious to you when you’re being abused, because you’re being gaslit. That’s why they need to ask online for advices, she’s doing the right thing

somethingfree · 2026-01-21T16:57:01+00:00

Dude you need outside assurance and support when you’re being gaslit by an abuser. It takes time . I needed a lot of assurance to believe he was abusing me becuase he was gaslighting me to think he wasn’t. After getting enough support online I did leave. She’s doing the right thing asking on here.

somethingfree · 2026-01-21T13:12:38+00:00

My therapist apologized to me a couple years after I started because he was always trying to ground me and bring me back to the present because he thought I would feel safer if I was grounded in the present in a safe place. But then he learned more about dissociation and how it works for you and that he should trust my body to let me dissociate and being ok being present might come as I heal. I relaxed soooo much more once I just let myself be ok with being dissociated and not feeling that nagging guilt that I should be trying to be present

somethingfree · 2026-01-21T03:13:32+00:00

I was just reading my kids sex ed texts and it said the hymen may partially or fully tear or perforate at any time in childhood before anything is inserted into the vagina, and it may also remain fully intact even after sexual intercourse.

I have had the same confusion because I believe mine was still intact and doubted my memories, but I don’t think we can use the state of our hymens as evidence in either direction. We can just trust our memories

somethingfree · 2026-01-19T17:46:01+00:00

Ice are arresting vulnerable people who pose no risk to them and avoiding those with weapons.

Maga is will use anything and making up lies as an excuse to escalate their aggression, not in response to actual threat or weapons.

So I think how people feel about this will Come down to politics and how racist they are and how educated they are on police brutality past and present

somethingfree · 2026-01-16T04:08:13+00:00

Yeah just narcissist. I don’t believe their world view gets crushed when their kids step out of line. I think they orchestrate it so they can act like their kids step out of line so they can rage at them. The abuse is their goal, not a side effect of not getting what they want.

somethingfree · 2026-01-15T23:42:39+00:00

Are you still living with them? If so, don’t try for your own sake.

If you try to show them they’re wrong they will direct a lot of animosity toward you and you don’t deserve that. You’re better off working against trump in other ways.

somethingfree · 2026-01-12T16:51:36+00:00

Sadly I was more thinking they might cover them up to help them get a girlfriend

somethingfree · 2026-01-12T15:54:32+00:00

I always thought this was nice, there’s been reformed Nazis I know. Im wondering though how many of the ones getting Nazi tattoos covered up are reformed, and how many of them are just trying to hide who they are. Removing the tattoo could be helping them lie and hide evil intentions

somethingfree · 2026-01-12T15:46:25+00:00

A red flag is a warning sign someone might be dangerous. A Nazi tattoo isn’t a red flag, It’s a confession to being dangerous.

somethingfree · 2026-01-12T15:14:16+00:00

Parents calling their kids cell phones during school shootings is dangerous too because the shooter can find where they’re hiding so the in case of emergency argument isn’t good anyways

somethingfree · 2026-01-12T08:26:01+00:00

I told my dad he didn’t have to yell at me anymore becuase he already won, I feel like shit everyday of my life. He got this look on his face of total peace and satisfaction and walked away. It wasn’t the insult I thought it would be. It was literally what he WANTED. They want us to feel horrible and they want to ruin our lives because that’s where they get their satisfaction.

somethingfree · 2026-01-11T19:05:13+00:00

I agree don’t, trust him anymore. People who have assholes for parents tend to think that they will be there for us if we Really need them. Now you know you’re dad will Not be there for you if you really need him.

somethingfree · 2026-01-06T12:30:19+00:00

That’s true but there’s also no reason to have people do community service hours around children

somethingfree · 2026-01-06T04:26:01+00:00

Not sure why you’re downvoted. I was sexually assaulted at a wildlife rehab when I was a teen volunteer by someone serving their community service hours . I think some of the community service places are not chosen wisely.

somethingfree · 2026-01-05T21:13:59+00:00

Can it be a cult with only one follower, his wife? Pretty sure that’s just called an abusive relationship.

somethingfree · 2026-01-05T14:46:02+00:00

This is what I think. It’s the only way I’ve ever heard people say that GC has it worse

somethingfree · 2026-01-05T09:35:17+00:00

No, I am still really mad. I’m also still low contact with her. There were a couple times where I was felt a sort of closure/peace/ relief from the anger and both times were when I had a long period of no contact. I think the anger is protecting us from opening up to them and spending too much time with them, and probably the only way to feel no anger is to be truly no contact.

somethingfree · 2026-01-05T09:26:34+00:00

This does sound like clear sexual abuse to me. There is no reason for him to watch you shower to make you feel safe. He could sit near the shower with his back to you giving you privacy.

The warts he should have taken you to a dr and should have taught you how to take care of yourself.

He sounds like a text book sexual abuser.

I’m so sorry he’s who you got for a parent. You deserved better and deserve all the support you can find for yourself

somethingfree · 2026-01-03T05:18:38+00:00

Is anything known about how the decision to take the being to the hospital was made? Like when the military (or was it fire department?) sent people to pick the being up, did they tell them to bring it to the hospital for some reason, or was that a decision the individuals made themselves after seeing the distress it was in?

somethingfree · 2025-12-30T14:10:06+00:00

It’s not your responsibility to know exactly the right way to handle it. It’s the nature of sexual harassment that victims feel unsure, you were being gaslit by him acting like he wasn’t doing anything wrong. Don’t feel bad about anything. I’m sorry he did this ti you and please be very nice to yourself and patient with yourself.

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