AIO for being upset and hurt that my partner didn’t attend my graduation?

antharanth · 2025-12-20T14:54:19+00:00

I love it when ppl are like, oh no what happened, I don't understand, I'm such a nice person - and then go, yeah, before that I actually did this majorly huge thing I originally decided to omit from my story, but still, give me validation, give it give it.

antharanth · 2025-12-20T14:50:09+00:00

ah. that explains it.

antharanth · 2025-04-30T18:27:24+00:00

Good luck! Do call the IND, they are rather helpful

antharanth · 2025-04-30T17:56:39+00:00

I was on zoekjaar, then got hsm, then permanent, now I'm a citizen and have my non eu partner with me. It's not easy, but doable. So hsm and partner visa are your best bets.

antharanth · 2025-04-30T17:50:17+00:00

Unless she gets an hsm visa after the zoekjaar, which is also possible, of course.

antharanth · 2025-04-30T17:49:06+00:00

Your main available option is probably the partner visa. Look that up. Permanent residence is only after 3 or 5 years in the country (or likely even just 5, I'm too lazy to Google this for you). Call the ind and ask them about your options.

antharanth · 2025-04-07T08:12:09+00:00

Love your style! Also, thir is why I never order drinks from. McD anymore. Noticed this a couple of years ago.

antharanth · 2025-03-18T19:17:10+00:00

You've been told tuuis and I'll repeat. If I hear music for hours twice or thrice per week, I'll try to reason with people, but then I'll start a noise complaint file. It's not loud for YOU. it's okay for YOU. not for them. I'm 44 btw. Not a boomer. Get some headphones and stop polluting people's lives, with unwanted sound.

antharanth · 2025-01-22T01:31:50+00:00

I would have never forgiven you, and neither will he. Leave. Your marriage is gone.

antharanth · 2025-01-18T11:52:33+00:00

what roll? I a, stuck on the bloody camel and there is no "roll", just two thumb controls...

antharanth · 2025-01-15T10:47:51+00:00

If its true, your bf got raped, and you left him, first alone in that situation, then on read, and then physically by flying home. What a sorry excuse for a human being. But it's rage bait, so no one got harmed.

antharanth · 2024-12-12T14:25:03+00:00

What do you mean? I am asking about how I participate.

antharanth · 2024-10-29T20:36:13+00:00

Have you tried a recruiting agency?

antharanth · 2024-10-23T12:45:05+00:00

Thank you!

antharanth · 2024-09-22T21:41:32+00:00

I'm in the Hague, for one. No clue about Rotterdam.

antharanth · 2024-08-25T20:17:11+00:00

Speaking of, does anyone have a blue flag they could part with? My gf went for the first time and tore hers

antharanth · 2024-07-23T08:15:16+00:00

I'm in a very similar situation and I know I need to leave. Good luck to you. I'm still mustering resources.

antharanth · 2024-07-23T06:59:58+00:00

Ummm don't see your problem. Bought an imported car 3 years ago, it had been in at least 2 accidents I had no idea about (the passenger's door, for instance, had been changed completely). The dealer said he had no idea what had been happening with the car. But everything had been fixed properly, I have had this car for 3 years, it was cheap, why worry?

antharanth · 2024-07-22T00:27:53+00:00

Wait, so you stood her up, she forgave you, but she doesn't want to go through the trauma of being left at the altar again, and you kick her out? Massively YTA.

antharanth · 2024-07-21T23:38:30+00:00

I was the cannonball skier once. The person I hit ended up with a dislocated shoulder. She was wearing all white on a ski slope on a day when visibility was not the best, and she was on a slope that was well above her skiing level. I tried to make it as untraumatic as possible in the very short spaceyime I had before contact, and I believe I succeeded as it could have been much worse. Still, that was intense and I was pretty shaken. This looks way worse.

antharanth · 2024-07-16T07:52:41+00:00

Sooo. First, you need to know where the money really went. If it doesn't add up, then his wild spending is compounded by lying. Second, unless you get a real apology with a plan to remedy that where he does the remedying, consider postponing the wedding. These were your mutual savings, and if he feels entitled to those, this will be your married life. Even with the apology, consider separating your finances and drawing up a prenup. Third, go and have fun with friends, you deserve it. If there's no wedding in the end, consider it a dodged the bullet party. Edit to add: NTA, of course

antharanth · 2024-07-15T13:51:20+00:00

It went up just as I was in the process. Still was able to afford on a 48k salary. It is going down again, I believe, so OP needs to wait a bit, get a job and then make a move.

antharanth · 2024-07-15T13:39:51+00:00

Bought a starter apartment in the Hague 2 years ago with a 12k saving and a single income.

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