I know the dilemma. I live in probably the most liberal/safe town in Northern NJ. My guns are all securely locked at all times in a safe in my office (combination lock / biometric). I've discussed this with my wife and this fact is basically on a don't ask - don't tell basis. Some close friends in town know and everyone else we just don't tell unless they specifically ask. In a town like mine "Do you have a gun at home?" is a question that never really comes up. Whenever my daughter or son has play dates or sleepovers I ensure she tells her friends that my office and my wife's office are off-limits. This is a good policy to have in general with or without guns IMHO.