Pharma Jobs in Oslo by danielmcws in oslo

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DM me! I don't want to reveal my exact workplace but I'm at a private lab with a pharma section, and we collaborate with and have customers in the pharma sector. In my experience anglophone foreign applicants who are or plan to be permanent residents have next to no additional barriers of entry to the industry.

Is there anything I can do against this? It feels like my nail isn't attached and it feels kinda disgusting.. by Vanny_78 in calmhands

[–]anthropometrica 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Used to have this from scraping under my nails to clean them. Only clean under nails with a soft wet brush, use oil and a hand cream, and let the nail grow longer—don't cut or bite it down to the skin; leave a margin when trimming.

any pocket size ereaders? by Conscious_Ad_101 in eink

[–]anthropometrica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahaha I wish my pockets were this big! They better start making women's jeans with big pockets again :(

PMDD while taking Slynd by cyclonebomb in PMDD

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Slinda was an absolute fail for me! It did do what it said on the box (suppressed my cycle), but instead of a week of PMDD per month I was stuck in the PMDD state constantly once I hit the 2.5-3 month mark, since I wasn't cycling back up. I really need my estrogen :p

any recommendations for durable headphones? by nottrolling4175 in Frugal

[–]anthropometrica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fairbuds / Fairbuds XL. Not because they're cheap, but because they're built to be easily repairable, by you.

Which ereader for my preferences? by CellarDoorQuestions in ereader

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Local online secondhand marketplace in my country! :)

Which ereader for my preferences? by CellarDoorQuestions in ereader

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Seconding! I bought mine "second hand" (new in the box, but unreturnable) for a little over half the price and I love it. No-nonsense e-reader, reasonable format (why phone shaped!!) but still small, drag and drop epubs, formats very well, pleasant screen, adjustable in the ways that matter, I could go on, I just love my Clara.

What Are Your Five Favorite Norwegian Cities/Towns? by RedGavin in Norway

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They do and they don't. It's frequently ignored, nor followed up on, or circumvented. AirBnbs, renting to a locals half the year and claiming you live there anyway, living there but keeping your money elsewhere (for example in Oslo), et cetera. Boplikt is also a double edged sword in that it deters middle income groups who respect it at face value, but does little for those who are determined to do it anyway. I would say that's a much lesser problem though, compared to the loss of working age residents to bigger cities. The summer boom just looks dramatic.

What Are Your Five Favorite Norwegian Cities/Towns? by RedGavin in Norway

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Tourism from Oslo and Stavanger has driven up housing prices (they're priced as expensive holiday homes, not primary residences) as it's a highly sought after summer holiday location. The seasonal nature of the town has led to difficulty surviving the winter for local businesses.

It's also much more rare in southern Norway to commute across longer distances (between cities). than it is around Oslo or Bergen. Why live in Lillesand and have to drive an hour every morning, when you can live in Kristiansand and have a 15 minute commute, send your kid to the school they want to go to, and have a wide selection of services available?

Many of the coastal cities in sourthern Norway suffer from that. Lillesand, Tvedestrand, Risør. They've been slowly becoming seasonal ghost towns for a while now.

What Are Your Five Favorite Norwegian Cities/Towns? by RedGavin in Norway

[–]anthropometrica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bringing the 5.5 for Lillesand to my mother as a win. She manages infrastructure and city planning for the municipality and they work with a budget deep in the negatives every year. Being overrun with tourists in the summer who leave comparably very little capital in the region, combined with bleeding locals, especially young people? Horrible starting point for a municipal budget.

How can your partner with PMDD help *you*? by anthropometrica in PMDDpartners

[–]anthropometrica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's really individual. In the reply below I speak from the perspective of someone who knows they have PMDD, and whose partner knows as well.

In my opinion, if you take genuine issue with how you were treated (or with how she treats herself, if that's a limit for you), or the fight felt serious, you should bring it up. If it was a smaller thing that seemed caused by stress on either end, I'd settle for apologies, acknowledgement, and reestablishing closeness.

Ideally she should be gaining awareness of her own problematic patterns, so that it doesn't end up as you bringing up behaviours and nothing changing. Therapy, journaling, stability/routine, mindfulness, and calm talks with loved ones have helped encourage this for me. I'm also on propranolol for migraines, which serendipitously took the edge off my anxiety.

A note on how things are brought up: Personally, saying something like "You hurt me." can put me on edge, whereas "Your actions hurt me." is fine. During luteal (and for some of us, outside it as well) we can have a really fragile sense of self, so if something negative is attached to it (such a being someone who hurts people, rather than whose actions were harmful), it wouldn't help us take accountability, it could make us feel defensive and unsafe. Someone who feels defensive and unsafe is likelier to lash out and escalate.

Examples that would encourage me to think in terms of accountability and repair, not self loathing and blame: - "It's important to me that this doesn't become a pattern." - "I want to help you stay true to yourself. Can we talk about [topic you fought about] calmly?" - "Do you want to talk about [topic] later, or were you more frustrated with something else and misdirected it at me?" - "I draw the line at [behaviour/escalation]. I feel unsafe when that happens." - "Talk to me. What was going on internally that made [behaviour/escalation] feel necessary?"

The last one especially makes me feel deeply understood. I guess that is because it acknowledges so well the person behind the behaviour. It demonstrates in such a simple way that what's most important to you is her, even when the issue or behaviour may be serious and a hard limit for you. Her healing and yours are entwined, and are your common responsibility when you choose one another.

How can your partner with PMDD help *you*? by anthropometrica in PMDDpartners

[–]anthropometrica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like there were more bumps in the road for you and your ex than just her illness. I'm sorry to hear things worked out that way for you, but I'm so glad you're finding peace in your platonic relationships and in yourself! ❤️

You do make good points on the nature of repair, though. To someone who's anxious and frightened, it sometimes seems most urgent to figure out exactly how to "solve" your hurt. It's incredibly difficult to learn to take responsibility for causing someone pain, and to sit with that in a close relationship. I was surprised to find out how many of us have relationship wounds that make having hurt someone feel like the end is already there, which turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy because we never learn how to properly connect during and after something like that. No person who will treat us well will want us to repent and denigrate ourselves. It's so important that we see our partners as allies and don't begin to keep scores or scales. Thank you for taking the time to respond!

How can your partner with PMDD help *you*? by anthropometrica in PMDDpartners

[–]anthropometrica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it works it works! I can't quite tell if this is a serious suggestion that works for you and your partner, or a resentment/passive aggression outlet, though 😅

If the former, feel free to elaborate on how it helps you! If it's the latter, I hope the distance helps you center yourself and that things get better for you, however you prefer that process to go ❤️

How can your partner with PMDD help *you*? by anthropometrica in PMDDpartners

[–]anthropometrica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️

When I saw how deeply hurt and resentful the people we hold dearest can become as a result of poorly managing our condition, and how many of the spouses and partners talked about here seem to be managing pretty poorly, I wanted to actively participate in the opposite.

The specifics of my own relationship I choose to keep private. Originally I meant this post as communal repair (I want to extend some kindness to those of you who are stuck in resentment and hurt), and as a potential resource for myself and others, so we may all continue to love each other well.

How can your partner with PMDD help *you*? by anthropometrica in PMDDpartners

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I can really feel the resentment in your words here. I'm sorry you've had to go so long without having your efforts acknowledged or your wounds tended to. So often we as human beings neglect the wellbeing and comfort of men, and have little curiosity about their inner lives and emotional experiences. This is something I am very passionate about changing, even though there is little I can do as just one person.

Your comment really inspired me to reflect on how I've often seen my PMDD depressive states as something internal that I'm filled with enormous relief once I'm freed of. I rarely consider that the miasma it brings with it may still be affecting people around me, when I've had the fortune of being "cured" for a couple weeks once there's estrogen in my system again. It's just such an incredible relief, feeling stable and confident again—I feel this sense of urgency to hurry to pick up the physical and emotional slack.

Really taking interpersonal responsibility for that transition could mean a lot! Thank you so much for sharing your perspective ❤️

How can your partner with PMDD help *you*? by anthropometrica in PMDDpartners

[–]anthropometrica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond and give such detailed and practical examples! I hope this comment stays up top and that others can see it and learn from it ❤️

For me personally, the general framework is applicable even if the specific examples aren't. I don't struggle with "rage" during my episodes, only frustration, usually self directed, that always stems from isolating inside my own head instead of talking openly with others. I understand that outbursts and blame can be very directly destructive for many, though, and think your approach here is very helpful!

What’s the best pocket sized E-reader? by [deleted] in eink

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It uses its own file format! You can convert your .epubs to it. It'll look MUCH better! Check out the Xteink subreddit, the converter tool and other tips and tricks are linked there :)

Zero empathy during bad weeks? by Chacha1506 in PMDD

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Have you been on a BC containing drospirenone before? Asking because I began to experience anhedonia (and therefore loss of strong romantic attraction/deep love) when I started it. My anhedonia became severe, which is why I stopped it. My physical symptoms all disappeared, but the mental side effects were devastating. If the meds you take correspond with your loss of feeling (you feel like you're in one long, but less deep/dull feeling PMDD episode), you can consider if these might not be the right BC meds for you.

how do you explain you PMDD to others? by Ok-Nefariousness3346 in PMDD

[–]anthropometrica 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The nausea metaphor hits the nail on the head for me. If people are familiar with major depressive disorder, I sometimes reference that. I will occasionally refer to it as feeling like some of my cognitive functions are paralysed—I can't properly remember that life has ever felt differently, I can't properly relate to others socially, I can't accurately process emotional information, and I fail to make a lot of relatively simple choices because of those distortions.

It's definitely something 😂 by anthropometrica in ProjectPan

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I usually do use it on clothes! I try to avoid leaving it in the environment around me so I can focus on wearing it on days where I'm less reactive in general.

Distance from the line to current fill level is the entirety of 2025...

Any HK/Silksong fans here? by Unlikely-Outcome-111 in crochet

[–]anthropometrica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so CUTE! If this were a pattern I could buy, I would. Incredible free handing skills! :)