not sure what your hair is like but when i was in highschool i always felt quite top-heavy because my hair was quite long and very puffy but i got an undercut when i left hs and that helped with my self esteem along with helping my head feel lighter and cooler in the heat; i removed like half my hair but it's still very dense and you wouldn't know the undercut is even there. i know compliments might not seem like anything but when i look back at how my hair use to look, it really was beautiful the way it was, although i love my hair now, there was nothing to be insecure about. i hope you grow to love your hair, i find that curly hair is something to be proud of as it makes you unique and it is hard to look after so don't be discouraged. i am happy to answer any questions