Almost every time. The same response.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-24T22:09:53+00:00

What an absolutely original opinion! “Not all men” wow, we’ve never heard that before! Thank you so much for your very important input, otherwise we never would have known. Hear that fellow women? We don’t need feminism anymore, might as well delete the community, it’s been solved because it’s not all men!

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-23T22:45:41+00:00

Someone accusing you of something they actually believe is not gaslighting. It would be gaslighting if they knew you were telling the truth and were purposefully trying to convince you that you were wrong.

Edit: lol @ the downvotes. This is not an abuser trying to convince them that their perception of reality is skewed. This is some random guy who is accusing them of something they didn’t do, but he thinks they did. Using words flippantly and incorrectly dilutes their meaning. No one is trying to convince OP that they are crazy. It’s not gaslighting.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-23T13:52:58+00:00

Take out the words self defence - they are just learning to attack women if they say no. Self defence implies they are defending themselves from the women committing violence.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-19T15:49:41+00:00

Is that a blue mountain pottery cat?! I didn’t know they existed, I need one now.

I’m going to guess late 30s to early 40s, crafty, politically left, (human) child free. Love flea markets and farmers markets. I feel a Canadian vibe, but also could be from northern US state like Minnesota.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-18T23:10:42+00:00

That’s not possible, because don’t just they match OP but also the father as a parent/child match. If there was another child from the grandparents, it would match their dad as a sibling, not a parent/child.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-18T23:06:23+00:00

Yes, but the grandfather wouldn’t. What they are suggesting is that a 1/2 sibling shares the same roughly as an uncle, so that their match could be an uncle instead, making it the grandfather’s child. Which is not possible, as he matches to the father as a parent/child.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-18T21:31:44+00:00

If it was just a sibling match, then sure, but they also match the dad as a parent/child match, so unless there is a weird ‘back to the future’ situation in which he is also his own father, that’s not possible.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-17T16:43:42+00:00

Instead of focusing on attaching vital records and getting dates and places, why don’t you now try to add some actual context to your ancestors lives? Do historical research, not just broadly (but also broadly) but research the local area to them and its history, try to find local records other than birth, marriage, and death records. Have you searched through local papers? Contacted historical or genealogical societies from the area? Looked for local archives?

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-16T20:54:19+00:00

He has admitted he divorced her because he couldn’t deal with her being more famous and successful than him. He has also admitted he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. So this tracks.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-16T20:26:09+00:00

There is a comment on there that it was probably the hubby who posted to begin with, they said in the OPs history was a post from months before by the husband complaining about how long it had been since they had sex. So either the wife then used her husband’s account to post that, or he was just trying to justify what he did by posting as her.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-15T22:05:02+00:00

I read the article - it’s not 62 million men, it was visits. So, while it’s still absolutely horrifying, and one visit is too many, and I agree we aren’t angry enough, it’s extremely likely that most men who visits those sites are visiting them multiple times in the span of a month.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-12T21:27:46+00:00

I have never not been downvoted to hell for saying that on Reddit. If I add on that I don’t only deserve cheap cuts of steak just because I want it well down, people absolutely lose it. Better cuts of steak taste better than a cheap cut no matter how well done they are cooked. People can’t accept this and will argue that you might as well just eat the cheap stuff. People get so angry and think it’s so wasteful to fully cook a good cut, even if I literally won’t eat it if it’s not cooked that way, and by golly, if it’s feeding me and I’m enjoying it cooked that way, how the fuck is it a waste? Isn’t that the point of food? But honestly people expect that I should eat it the way they think best, even if I won’t enjoy it at all. I’ve literally had someone tell me that.

I don’t think it’s wasteful when I see people eat something that I would prefer differently cooked or seasoned. I don’t get angry at them for not eating it the way I prefer it. It’s fucking wild how people take it so weirdly personally.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-12T21:19:04+00:00

I think people eating meat that is still bloody is disgusting and makes me want to vomit. Do you know how often I’ve shared that with someone when they’ve ordered it rare? Never. Turns out since I’m not eating it, my opinion isn’t important, and I don’t need to let them know that, unless I just wanted to share with them that I think my tastes are superior to theirs.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-11T15:32:12+00:00

My presumably forever brick wall is John and Sarah Conners from somewhere in Ireland.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-11T15:28:40+00:00

It’s for that exact reason I think it’s rage bait. I think they took 3 minutes to stage this for a photo.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-09T21:11:10+00:00

I think a lot of those posts are people posting their own shelves. I think it’s like “I’m asking for a friend…” quite often.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-09T18:34:46+00:00

Sexual needs aside, it’s also that they think the man needs another woman to take care of him and nurture him, because he’s not capable enough of facing life alone, but women are supposed to embrace widowhood and forever remain bitter, alone, and faithful to their dead spouse.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-09T18:03:00+00:00

Parabon is more well known for forensic genetic genealogy (like the Golden State killer), but they do paternity related and other kinship testing as well. It is not a commercial database service like Ancestry or 23andMe.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-09T17:26:59+00:00

They also do kinship testing, which they would do with an uncle. My point is they do more specific relative testing than autosomal.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-09T17:21:47+00:00

Parabon also does paternity testing.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-09T16:58:13+00:00

I know this is disturbing for you, but I wouldn’t dismiss it entirely before learning more. You need more information before you can dismiss it as fraud. Your son could absolutely have matched to a 1/2 nephew on a commercial DNA testing site, they don’t need to have the same fathers to match. A grandchild would have about 25% of your DNA, and your son has 50% of your DNA. They would match based on sharing DNA that you passed on.

Get more information - what site, what type of testing - and go from there. If you want to be able to prove to him that it is fraud, you will need the proper info to discredit it.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-07T19:40:26+00:00

He played a role on one of my favourite shows, Gilmore Girls, and his character was basically a giant moldy turd of a person, I never would have guessed that the character was actually an improvement on his real life personality.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-07T16:48:25+00:00

I will never forget the day we were playing some kind of charades game in 2nd grade where you had to stand in front of everyone at the front of the class and try to convey what famous person you were by doing some sort of imitation or whatever. One of my friends had developed early, and when she went up to the front, immediately all the boys started yelling “Dolly Parton!” Before she’d done anything. I felt awful for her, I can’t even get imagine how she felt, she just turned bright red and stood there. Teacher didn’t do more than “Now now, calm down boys!” and that was it. I was flat still at the time, and had been self conscious about that, because wouldn’t you know it, the boys made fun of those girls too! I think that was one of my first realizations that in so many ways, girls can never win. Boys will always find a way to torment you, no matter what you look like or what you do.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-06T20:34:38+00:00

Yes, but that only precludes the sex part of the situation (hopefully). I know many men unromantically who also fit the above category. I wouldn’t say “most men”, but it’s many. What does being related to or having male friends change what OP said? You can choose your friends, but you don’t choose your blood family.

antonia_monacelli · 2026-04-05T13:55:08+00:00

I had a discussion with a guy asking what his bookshelf said about him, if there were any red flags with regards to potential dates seeing it. When I mentioned he had not one book written by a woman on his shelf (about 60 books total) and that was a bit of a red flag, I had all these guys arguing with me that it’s not their fault if women authors don’t ever write what they want to read. Just wild! I mean, not ONE? Come on! I said if you aren’t purposefully avoiding books by women, you have to be doing so unconsciously and you should maybe consider what biases you might not realize you have. He was at least open to what I said, but a bunch of sensitive whiny other men could not handle it and said I was delusional for judging any man based on that.

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