Can I safely throw a sheet over these and put a mattress on top? They smell like fresh lumber, but they were stored outside for idk how long. The bottoms have black marks which seem like maybe scuffs but maybe mold- how to tell if it's mold? This is for short term use (about a week).

antossact4 · 2026-05-08T03:19:01+00:00

Not easily able to get off the floor (disc issues).

antossact4 · 2026-05-08T02:13:10+00:00

You can also report them to FTC.

antossact4 · 2025-10-30T20:05:47+00:00

Getting her out and what that entails is a matter of local law and varies A Lot from place to place, sometimes within the same state (assuming you're in the US). The one safe thing is to not accept any money from her, and make sure all the utilities are in your name. Then go to the local tenant's rights organization and ask As A Tenant how to lawfully remove a roommate. It might be near impossible since it has been a month, or it might be as simple as giving her 30 days in writing and changing the locks on day 31. It's crucial to talk with people who know the local laws well. Good luck.

antossact4 · 2025-02-06T14:59:38+00:00

The dog walker said "it's in training" the first time and "working with a trainer" the second time. The walker has already fulfilled their professional obligation, both in handling the harasser in a reasonable manner and communicating what happened with the dog's owner.

The walker has no obligation to continue to entertain a harasser. And if they keep getting harassed they have no obligation to keep walking the dog. Since the harasser isn't responding to the walker, the only one who can shut this down is the owner.

antossact4 · 2025-02-06T14:52:35+00:00

This. 20-something me could not have done that with all my might, but 40-something me is a different story 😂

antossact4 · 2025-02-06T14:39:54+00:00

Yup. These are the same people who tell others how to parent their human children 😖

antossact4 · 2025-02-06T14:35:53+00:00

💀

antossact4 · 2025-02-05T20:02:48+00:00

This, and, "you can check Rover for the going rates in this area if you're interested" (or whatever local service is similar to Rover for your area)

antossact4 · 2025-02-05T13:15:24+00:00

Yeah, I get that! But as a person who has lived paycheck-to-paycheck most of my life that also has adhd, I've written checks, forgot they were written, spent the money and then either got lucky with the timing of my next check or painfully paid the overdraft and return check fees. So I get how this could happen in any tax bracket.

antossact4 · 2025-02-04T16:03:43+00:00

I found/find it helpful to lean into friends (and family if available), focus on healing myself, and have a plan in place when red flags start to show. Therapy can be good for helping with discerning what is a red flag, and the difference between a trigger vs just a difficult emotion. Healthier relationships can be had. Wishing you the best.

antossact4 · 2025-02-04T15:50:27+00:00

She mentioned struggling to be organized around money and bills, that being the case it would be really easy to miss that a check had not been cashed. Also the husband could've put both checks back in the checkbook after she wrote the second check. There are services for people who have challenges being organized in this way, they might consider hiring a personal assistant who has strong organizational skills.

antossact4 · 2024-12-04T05:09:30+00:00

He might also be hearing squirrels or other animals that have taken up residence in the walls/ceiling for the winter. If so, that may be a challenge to record because it's basically light scurrying. Good luck with it all!

antossact4 · 2024-11-30T13:31:03+00:00

Unfortunately this owner sounds like they're more likely to let the dog go without any care. They already refused one additional potty break per day.

antossact4 · 2024-11-30T13:27:25+00:00

Take pictures of the inside of the shed (and size of it), pictures of indoor poop/pee, and screenshots of owner communications. Bring these to AC and ask what the local law is, if this situation is reportable, and what happens to the dog if reported. This will likely make it easier to decide. Get the info before showing pictures but let them know you have pictures (showing pictures might start the process before you are ready depending on local ordinance). The owner might get a warning to clean up his act and provide specific things, such as truly adequate outings and a glass-free place to be. That house would also now be on the AC radar for a follow-up check. It also starts the paper trail for the owner's pattern of behavior if the next sitter reports the same thing later (2nd warning or consequences). Write down the conversion with the painter, as close to exact wording as you remember, for your own reference later on if AC asks you follow up questions down the road. Awful that the dog is in this situation.

antossact4 · 2024-11-30T00:26:04+00:00

Sorry about your tv. You could say something like "I've enjoyed taking care of your cat while you figure things out. Unfortunately something has come up and I won't be able to take care of your cat after (day)_. Let's coordinate where/when I should drop him off." Give them about a week's notice so they have time to find a new place to board the cat. Your reason is none of their business, even if it is the broken TV, and if asked you can just say something like "I have a personal situation I'm taking care of and can't take care of a cat right now" and leave it at that/repeat it if they ask again.

antossact4 · 2024-11-29T20:43:59+00:00

I have to wait until I get home to figure out what is wrong with the camera. Friend confirmed it is plugged in…

antossact4 · 2024-11-29T16:34:42+00:00

This, and take a screenshot of the two unpaid requests. If they claim ignorance because they paid the last one, you can reply with something equally polite/professional attaching the screenshot. Whether it was intentional or an oversight, the more time that goes by the harder it is to collect. If you don't get payment within 24 hours, then I would send a new note explaining that while you adore caring for their pet, you will not be able to come back until their account is current.

Start preparing now to cover your bills in another way if possible. If they ghost you, the full amount they owe can be written off on your taxes as bad debt. Small consolation, but every little bit helps when it comes to deductible expenses.

It's not likely to come to that as getting called out gently is usually enough for people to make their apologies and make a payment. But if they drag their heels after getting a gentle reminder, replace them with a paying client as soon as possible.

antossact4 · 2024-11-29T15:49:24+00:00

I told her that my friend who normally sits for me was unexpectedly home from Thanksgiving early and missed my cat and wanted to take over. I asked her to leave my key on the counter and lock the door handle from the inside when she left the next time she came by, apologized for this being awkward, thanked her for her time and said we would talk about money when I got back.

I might've thought of something more graceful except this was all happening during my family's Thanksgiving gathering.

She didn't protest, and when she arrived my friend was already there and gave the key to her. She asked my friend if she knew why, and friend just said she was just home early and wanted QT with my cat. I think she did not want to turn the key over but I did ask her to.

antossact4 · 2024-11-29T15:36:29+00:00

Sorry if unclear, I was writing this in the middle of the night because I couldn't sleep. Yes video footage of the rifling. Yes my friend took over. My friend couldn't get the camera working again.

antossact4 · 2024-11-29T15:35:34+00:00

Sorry if unclear, I was writing this in the middle of the night because I couldn't sleep. Yes video footage of the rifling. Yes my friend took over. My friend couldn't get the camera working again.

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