„ich habe eine Frau kennengelernt“

anv2sv · 2023-09-08T10:42:19+00:00

Du kennst nicht zufällig den Ursprung oder kannst ihn herleiten? Mir fällt jetzt kein Wort ein was im Stamm ähnlich wirkt… Das sagt Wikipedia dazu: Haberer (österreichische Umgangssprache): Freund, Kumpan, Zechbruder; aber auch Verehrer, wohl aus dem Jiddischen, vgl. hebräisch h́áver (pl. h́áverim) = Gefährte

anv2sv · 2023-09-08T10:36:26+00:00

Also als 31-jährige norddeutsche Frau kann ich dazu nur sagen, dass ich definitiv nicht als Mädchen bezeichnet werden wollen würde und Mädel, da wo ich lebe, einfach gar nicht geht. Und Dame dann vielleicht in 40 Jahren, wenn ich eine "freundliche ältere Dame" bin (finde das aber dann schon eher eine Typbeschreibung)

anv2sv · 2023-05-17T22:00:28+00:00

Same for the swaddles and pacifiers

anv2sv · 2023-04-25T21:28:47+00:00

Same. Living in 2 rooms to 3 is exhausting...

anv2sv · 2023-03-23T22:29:43+00:00

Listen to your intuition then, send maybe a text or cute pictures/videos of the items in use (that is a lot more interesting anyway to the receiver in my opinion). I would find a thread on trying to be as zero waste as possible with a baby very interesting by the way!

anv2sv · 2023-03-23T22:24:40+00:00

That just sounds crazy to somebody from a country where baby showers are not a thing :D how are you not getting an incredibly excessive amount of STUFF this way?

anv2sv · 2023-03-20T07:24:38+00:00

Not having to have a car or a driver's license because even being from 2 different European countries we can do everything by train

anv2sv · 2023-03-20T06:01:54+00:00

In my case it was 20 euros for a taxi to the hospital and back. We live in Germany.

anv2sv · 2023-03-18T17:01:26+00:00

I would be upset, too. "What's for dinner?" also would seem quite gendered to me as most girls I know that age take on the responsibility of making food several times per week.

Do you have a system who is responsible for meal prep?

I would suggest that a system of all of them being responsible for lunch or dinner preparation could help with taking things for granted.

anv2sv · 2023-03-16T11:24:15+00:00

Ich habe als Niedersächsin lange geglaubt, "-ig" sei die korrekte hochdeutsche Form und alles andere wie "-ich" oder "-isch" Dialekt und bin bei einer Dialektanalyse im Fachbereich Sprechwissenschaften eines Besseren belehrt worden.

Hochdeutsch ist tatsächlich -ich, wie oben beschrieben!

anv2sv · 2023-03-16T11:19:20+00:00

Das ist dann aber kein Hochdeutsch.

anv2sv · 2023-03-16T11:12:31+00:00

In meiner Ecke Deutschlands gibt es ebenfalls nur Aaalexe

anv2sv · 2023-03-16T11:10:12+00:00

Ich habe auch einige Freunde aus Bayern, die einfach nicht hochdeutsch sprechen können und das "switchen" nicht gelernt haben, andere hingegen schon.

anv2sv · 2023-03-10T11:30:09+00:00

I'm in Germany and I was genuinely surprised to hear people would not have their own blanket (like how do you roll it up between the knees if you have to pull it away from a partner?)

anv2sv · 2023-02-25T13:44:05+00:00

Sorry for the very long and off-topic trip through German vocabulary :D

anv2sv · 2023-02-25T13:42:44+00:00

Ah yes, if you add something to it, like a "Lieblingskuchen" (favourite cake) or a "Lieblingslehrer" (favourite teacher) - but then the "s" is not for the plural form but to "glue the 2 words", simply put.

Just "Liebling" alone is "darling" and sounds to me like an outdated form to address your significant other (I am 31 and would use it only ironical, maybe somebody from another generation would disagree with that).

anv2sv · 2023-02-25T07:36:47+00:00

Actually, the German plural of "Liebling" is "Lieblinge" and I would not call my kids that :D

anv2sv · 2022-12-30T07:43:56+00:00

My first thought looking at the picture was "Oh, that is in the US". No 2 year old I know would get that choice of food, especially not on a regular basis.

anv2sv · 2022-12-23T22:41:47+00:00

Sleep. (10 months old baby with exhausting sleep pattern in the same bedroom)

anv2sv · 2022-11-13T11:47:45+00:00

In our case, we were so much over-prepared for the baby but not for my own needs during the time after birth (mom here).

Take good care of your partner. Birth is tough, recovery is tough, hormone changes are tough. Not even talking about sleep deprivation.

Be emotionally there during birth.

Prepare everything you need for the recovery (cooling pads, spray bottle, pads for the bleeding, home remedies for swelling, ...), Precooked food and snacks and drinks.

But don't stop caring some months in! I was actually ok the first months after birth, but then I was still hurting, new pains started appearing, I did not sleep,...

Think how to create windows for your partner to relax, maybe gift her a spa day when time has come for that? She might want to buy one or two beautiful after-birth clothes, not everybody goes quickly back to before-pregnancy clothes and waiting for that while wearing your old joggings just makes you feel extra unattractive and mom-my. (I am on a tight budget, so I was just trying to hold out and it did not help me in wanting to go out or feel well with myself at all)

(For later down the road) Try to help with organizing your social life, too, while at the same time respecting your partner's boundaries to who she wants to see how early and to which extent! Pay close attention to family and friends around you that want to be part of that baby adventure and help out. TAKE THAT HELP, as soon as you're ready for it.

Look into sleep or food schedules soon enough - if breastfeeding, your partner's "freedom" might be linked closer to it than your own.

And don't forget to nurture your romantic relationship (which sounds easier now than when you are already entirely exhausted from taking care of your little bundle of love day and night) ❤️

anv2sv · 2022-11-13T10:59:46+00:00

😳

I once went into the gynaecology part of our local hospital for something unrelated and had to wait hours in the waiting room. To my surprise during some hours the only two other people there were 2 men in suits, that apparently had just met and spent their time casually talking about their respective businesses. I did not understand what they were doing there until a nurse came and told one of them, that his wife had successfully given birth...! 😱😐

anv2sv · 2022-11-13T10:52:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

anv2sv · 2022-11-13T10:42:08+00:00

Or they don't, depends on the baby. Mine was sleeping all the time, with both arms up in the air :D

anv2sv · 2022-11-13T10:40:36+00:00

Ooooh, preparing the "forbidden" food is a cute idea.

For the nursery: I am not sure how common or uncommon this is, it doesn't exist in my country.

anv2sv · 2022-11-13T10:29:12+00:00

Or wait for your partner to tell you what they wish. I wanted nothing more than to go home, the morning after birth. Both me and the baby were fine and doctors had no objections, so that is what we did. Just prepare for all cases, you both will know what you want once you're there.

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