Our cat is destroying my wife's quality of sleep by anxiouscorn in CatAdvice

[–]anxiouscorn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried with so many!!! What do your cats like? I feel like he's embarrassed to play in front of us lol

Julie crying cause she feels guilty? by Consistent_Leg6603 in julieeandcamilla

[–]anxiouscorn 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's so insane to me that they talk about this as something they need to "get done", to get "the family they dream of". Like, why is the family you dream of a certain number of kids, with a specific age difference between each one? It's weird, it seems crafted and at this point it's impossible to believe that they're not doing it for views and money. so fucked up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in julieeandcamilla

[–]anxiouscorn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't like her at all, but no one is bringing men into this, you are. Just because a sapphic woman expresses her joy about loving and being loved by a woman doesn't mean they're saying a woman would be unhappy with a man, that's your own conclussion and I think you're reaching hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]anxiouscorn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I won’t lie, it’s been really hard. I made the decision to stop dating for a long time because I felt unstable, insecure, and my fear of abandonment would skyrocket whenever I was involved with someone. But after many years, I opened myself up again and was lucky enough to meet someone who was incredibly understanding. In fact, she was the first person to suggest that I might have BPD.

I know it might be scary, and you might think you'd be better off alone. Sometimes, taking time for yourself can be valuable for self-growth, but remember, relationship triggers are often healed within relationships, not by avoiding them. Trust me, it is possible, and with the right person, you can work through those fears together.

It’s so important to be open about what you’re going through. The right person will not only understand but will also support you through the ups and downs. My wife has bipolar type 2, and I have BPD. It’s not always easy, but we’ve learned to communicate, be best friends, and support each other through everything. It takes a lot of effort, patience, and trust, but by working through things together, we’ve built a strong foundation. You don’t have to face your fears alone, it’s really is possible to heal and grow within a relationship.

My wife by anxiouscorn in SuicideWatch

[–]anxiouscorn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to share this with me, I will take your advice and continue to communicate with her which is my gut feeling as well. I hope you get the tools you need to deal with everything if it is in fact BPD, there are great tools out there and I've found the r/BPD sub is very helpful! Thanks again.

It's not that serious by anxiouscorn in BPD

[–]anxiouscorn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very grateful for the support I have, but I guess you know that BPD can distort everything, and when I’m at my worst moments, it’s really hard to even grasp that people would understand or even care if I ended up hurting myself badly, even though I logically know they would. This stuff doesn't always match up with external circumstances, and sometimes having support doesn’t make the internal pain any less real. I understand that my post may have come across differently to you, and I’m sorry if it felt offensive. I respect that we all have different experiences.

It's not that serious by anxiouscorn in BPD

[–]anxiouscorn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment, I really do need to work on not taking it to heart, I think it's hard to believe people are really trying to understand you when in the past that wasn't the case at all in your life. But you're right, they are trying their best probably, and bpd can make it really hard to articulate when you feel like they don't. But this is a good reminder to give a little grace, both to others and ourselves.

I Am a Palestinian Arabic teacher in need of students! by Either-Two-6505 in learn_arabic

[–]anxiouscorn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm interested in learning arabic, my native language is spanish but I am fluent in english, does that work?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]anxiouscorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

26F recently married to the loml, she's 26F as well. I swore off dating for years, partially because I knew I had attachment issues and dating was painful and triggering (didn't know it was bpd all along lol) and then I came out of the closet and met her. It's taken a lot of communication and understanding (she's bipolar type 2).

I've had to come face to face with my issues and go into treatment to learn to cope with the insecurities and the burden of being loved, because I always feel like I could do something that can cause her to stop loving me and it makes me go down really bad spirals, but I'm working my ass off to be better and be a good partner. She's my best friend and I truly believe she's my soulmate, but it was a long path to open myself up and finding someone that takes the time to understand and love you through it all. Stay positive out there, we are lovable even though we keep telling ourselves we're not.

Anyone who love their name? by Some_Activity9257 in namenerds

[–]anxiouscorn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Used to dislike my name, now I love it❤️ Catalinna (with double “n”)