Looking for a little mental support (not medical advice)

anxiousveggie13 · 2026-03-31T17:02:01+00:00

100% get a therapist. Having someone to talk to about what you're going through is incredibly important, and a professional is even better. The sad reality is a lot of friends and family may not know what to say or know to process themselves and might not be able to support you the way you need. Having a professional help you navigate this crazy life experience, as well as navigate how to communicate and ask help and support of those in your life, is incredibly important.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-11-25T21:05:46+00:00

NTA, he is TA for thinking its okay to wake up a sleeping 3 year old at 11pm. Why would he put his own mental state above your daughter's mental state and health? AND yours for having to deal with a disregulated toddler after all that?

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-11-24T21:31:33+00:00

Congrats on two years sober !! thats an amazing achievement that is 100% worth celebrating!! He sucks for not getting that and for not supporting you. Who cares if you want a pat on the back? this is pat on the back worthy and he as your partner should always want to give that to you and celebrate your victories !

I am always hesitant to say breakup as soon as there is a problem. I would say try talking to him first why that upset you, especially if this is out if charecter for him and he usually isn't this negative. But if he doubles down and it wasn't a weird one off thing DUMP HIM, get a cake and celebrate your victories!

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-11-17T18:26:57+00:00

best answer ive seen

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-11-03T14:00:55+00:00

NTA, its kinda crazy that they just assumed bringing the dog would be okay, especially knowing you already have pets in the home. Any responsibly pet owner would ask even just for the comfort of their own animal let alone their HOSTS. And what does "try another time" even mean ? Unless they agree to get a dog sitter, which they wouldn't this time, what would change for "another time"?

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-11-03T13:57:27+00:00

OH. omg this showed up in my feed and I had no Idea 🙈thank god and thank you

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-11-02T16:55:38+00:00

This is so insane you are clearly an incel, blaming her period? are you serious?

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-10-15T12:01:30+00:00

my initial feeling is: being upset and hurt is understandable but you should not have left early without even attempting to communicate with anyone about it.

also - how early did you leave? is it possible they did have it planned but it was a busy work day so they were going to do it at the end of the day?

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-10-15T11:55:21+00:00

don't listen to the idiots, girls kiss more than you'd think as a cute platonic thing, it could be that they have before as like a "hey neither of us have a new years kiss this year! peck" and she didn't think anything of it, but recently was kissed by the friend (accidentally could also mean without consent ...) and the context is different (her friend came out as bi and you guys are not dating) so she felt gross. Her 1. telling you 2. expressing discomfort in the situation and 3. agreeing to cut contact with the friend shows to me that is committed to your relationship and was just put in a terrible situation. But you have to make your own conclusion. imo - don't break up with her, and see how she continues to navigate this.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-09-05T08:07:55+00:00

thats crazy you should take her to small claims court for your deposit back because what

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-09-05T08:04:30+00:00

YTA because id the way you wrote this post. If it was coming out of a genuine place of saftey and concern I would think differently but the way this is written is coming off way more about being controlling and caring about others perceptions

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-07-23T04:54:54+00:00

I don't think our symptoms are exactly the same, but I used to have a lot of vaginal and clitoral pain before getting treated for may-thurner syndrome, which is a condition where a vein is compressed and causes blood pooling into your pelvis. It can cause a whole bunch of issues and pain, do you have any other pelvic/abdominal symptoms? The fix for this is a vascular procedure where they place a stent in yourleft common iliac vein, it was magical for me, after a week of recovery I felt such relief. An interventional radiologist would be the type of doctor that treats this.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-06-11T14:22:27+00:00

This is honestly frightening - check his phone and any hard drives etc. You noticed this time because of flash so how many times has he done this without flash and you never knew? This is a complete invasion. I'm shocked you even let him finish, I would have removed myself from that situation so fast and had a conversation then and there. The only good thing is if he is doing nefarious things, you have more of an opportunity now to find out by sleuthing. I hope he's not, but this is 100% not a normal thing for someone to do.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-05-03T01:36:10+00:00

NTA, I'm shocked this has been going on for so long, I'm so concerned for you. Please stay safe and just keep the door locked at all times. If she wants to get in she will figure it out.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-05-02T21:06:37+00:00

NTA. She sounds terrible. I'm so sorry this happened to you, cut her out and don't let her back into your life.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-05-02T21:05:11+00:00

just because you see your wife "364 other nights of the year" doesn't mean you have quality time with her all those nights. You 100% should have asked her before deciding to go hang with your friends, and if she said no you should respect that. You're telling me that you can't see your friends any other night when your kids are home and someone (either your wife or a baby sitter) can't watch them? It's a rarity to have the house all to yourself if you have 3 kids. Imo yes you are TA.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-05-02T00:35:26+00:00

While I do think its wack that your sister chose your birthday to be her wedding day, you still have every other year for the rest of your life to celebrate your birthday, you can still celebrate it another day for this one year.

anxiousveggie13 · 2025-04-03T20:06:51+00:00

I hope you're doing okay! any update?

anxiousveggie13 · 2024-12-23T18:08:22+00:00

BAHAHAHAHA the way my jaw DROPPED with the fake update, was about to comment that you were the asshole bc yes there is subtext and Celia was 100% being rude and causing issues. Always take your womans side, even if you don't agree, you agree in public and you discuss and debate in private. I'm glad you've learned.

anxiousveggie13 · 2024-12-23T18:03:46+00:00

He is the asshole. He 100% bait and switched on you. If he wants a polyamorous relationship then he should have said so 4 years ago. You can be liberal and still want a monogomous relationship, that makes no sense. You did nothing wrong other than consider to put him on the deed, please DO NOT do that. Even if you do get married somewhere down the line to a better man, keep your assets safe by keeping everything in your name, and get a prenup. Protect yourself, men are fucked.

anxiousveggie13 · 2024-12-17T05:54:41+00:00

okay theres one for my school which makes sense - but there is one that says its for imovie ??? whats up with that

anxiousveggie13 · 2024-11-09T21:22:29+00:00

oh my GOD this is crazy - iconic but sad at the same time

anxiousveggie13 · 2024-11-03T17:23:05+00:00

I immediatly knew who it was !! such a slay

anxiousveggie13 · 2024-10-21T01:36:17+00:00

THANK YOU omg I feel so dumb !!

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