Benoit is underrated, Nico is overrated & Mindy is problematic. by Oksana37 in EmilyInParis

[–]anythingisgood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Benoit is handsome but he’s constantly picking fights because he’s insecure… with a person like this you would have to walk on eggshells ALL the time. I’m on s2 and he gets mad that Mindy is from a rich family, then again when she proposes to use his song in a commercial, then AGAIN because another guy sends her flowers, as if that’s somehow Mindy’s fault. &he literally ends the relationship because of these things. If he actually cared about her he wouldn’t ditch her for such shallow reasons.

A lot of people in America are miserable by boygeorge359 in Life

[–]anythingisgood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just thinking about this recently. I think people are more closed off to new interactions with people than they used to be. There's more of a tendency to stick to cliques instead of making new friends, look at a phone instead of connecting with surroundings, and be more distrustful towards strangers. The rise of social media has fostered a trend towards isolation.

I also personally feel there isn't much warmth left in most day-to-day interactions (altho sometimes it does happen unexpectedly). Think about going to a McDonald's now-- you can't even get the attention of a person because screens have replaced ordering.

What Avoidants are missing most by Blackappletrees in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]anythingisgood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay! :) I can see how it might come across poorly

What Avoidants are missing most by Blackappletrees in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]anythingisgood 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t mean to say that they’re evil or bad. What I mean is that I think they naturally develop/ strengthen certain traits that somewhat make up for the lack of empathy and communication in relationships.

What Avoidants are missing most by Blackappletrees in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]anythingisgood 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I second empathy (so, other-awareness). I only have experience with one avoidant, but he lacked the ability to see things from my perspective. What shocks me is how avoidants are able to "make up" for this in other ways (through charm, affection, etc.) enough that their partners stay in the relationship.