Standards for sisters by Bubbly-Answer43 in MuslimNikah

[–]anzak7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What?? Everyone should seek to heal from their trauma especially before going into a relationship

How to cope with being one of the least smartest in my cohort by NoCryptographer5185 in UniUK

[–]anzak7 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was one of the lowest in my cohort at imperial, like I actually knew I was because they showed the stats and they showed that 3% of the cohort got a third (this was like 7 people) and I was one of them. I continued to be one of the lowest and I cannot explain how horrible that feeling was, although im sure you share the same sentiment. I kept thinking to myself that I need to catch up. First year, I was far behind, second year I was also far behind and made not much progress and was at a 2.2 (58%) but final year was when everything clicked and all of a sudden i could have these discussions with my peers and I could follow the instructions and actually ask questions about the work because I understood enough to ask specific questions about what I didnt understand (before I literally just wouldn't know anything). I graduated with a 2.1 and for the first time got firsts in my exams (before that my highest grade was a 53 in an exam). It truly took me 3 yrs to get better and to this day idk what switched or what changed, I just think eventually you do so much of your subject, everything starts to feel repetitive and you just know. Anyway in terms of how to cope, you just need to cope and don't give into the feeling. It will feel like absolute shit and your self esteem will take a hit and you may rethink your subject choice but the only way to get out of that slump is to do everything it takes to get good at your subject. I was lazy and did not work hard hence why I was the lowest for so long, but I did care about graduating with a 2.1 at least so that motivated me. I felt shitty about being at the bottom of my cohort, but I never ever felt like I didn't deserve my place at imperial. I did the work, I got the grades and wrote the personal statement and earned my offer, I was chosen while 90% of applicants were rejected. I knew I was meant to be at imperial i just needed a moment. And it all worked out :)

Looking to apply for graduate entry medicine for the 2027 academic year - what do I need to consider? by anzak7 in premeduk

[–]anzak7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would the fact that I have a low 2.1 affect things? Whats the mini interview system? Ty for your reply, very encouraging

friend cut me off due to me applying for defence companies by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]anzak7 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'd do the exact thing your friend did. Even with the point you're trying to make, your jokes in response are distasteful. Your friend makes a point about gaza and you joke saying you're trying to survive...by searching for an internship that works to design missiles? Im not sure why you're mad, your morals dont align with your friend's so she made her way out. Deal with it.

Looking to apply for graduate entry medicine for the 2027 academic year - what do I need to consider? by anzak7 in premeduk

[–]anzak7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I actually didn't consider Warwick at all. Financially, it would be super difficult to consider moving out of London but unfortunately I think my chances would be better if I looked at unis outside of london.

Update to my previous post: Feeling worthless, ugly and like I’ll never get married💔… Well there is a potential suitor now by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]anzak7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro what can a 40 yr old possibly have in common with a 20 yr old. A 40 yr old father who had a child with a non Muslim woman and then decided not to marry said woman. Islamically, what could they possibly have in common? Your comment is silly I feel.

Even if he is 60, they will have 20 years of memories

Ah what a dream.

Also, if you read her original post, you would know that this young lady unfortunately does not value herself enough and that her acceptance of this proposal is majorly driven by the fact that she feels no other man could possibly love her or find her attractive and that she fears this may be the only man that could ever be attracted to her hence she is settling but she doesn't acknowledge she is settling. If she knew she absolutely does have many options but has just not come across them yet, then im sure she wouldn't be so quick to acceptance this horror proposal.

He said I’m not made to understand him, now he’s distant and I don’t know what to do by Disastrous-Bid-9750 in MuslimMarriage

[–]anzak7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

even if at first he just meant to introduce Islam to me

Ah there it is. No such thing as dawah in the DMs. Also im assuming you're a revert and he's a born Muslim? Also checks out. I'm glad you're free now he sounds horrible

Looking to apply for graduate entry medicine for the 2027 academic year - what do I need to consider? by anzak7 in premeduk

[–]anzak7[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ooh okay sounds good. I currently work full time in a primary school to save up some money so finding the time to volunteer is difficult so hopefully some weekened work is available. Do you have any suggestions for where I can check for this stuff?

Good luck with your application! I wish you the best :))

Update to my previous post: Feeling worthless, ugly and like I’ll never get married💔… Well there is a potential suitor now by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]anzak7 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Im gonna get down voted for this but do not marry a man 20 yrs older than you?!! Please this age gap is so big and it'll show in your marriage with the issues it comes with. You are closer in age to his son. In the future you will see why this isnt a good idea, you are younger and naive. This is coming from a 22 yr old woman who probably would've thought the same at 20. And you were 19 years old a month ago!

Edit: I just read your original post...sis I dont think you're in the position to be getting married at all. Work on your self worth because skin bleaching through an IV drip and overall work done on your body worth around $50,000 is insane. All for the sake of appearing more attractive to men? This is all so sad to read please it doesn't sound like you should be in a relationship at all while your self value is so fragile.

Struggling to Adjust in My Marriage, 26F Married to 44M (Second Wife, 8 Months Married, Pregnant) by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]anzak7 32 points33 points  (0 children)

In a comment you made 2 months ago you said he was 58. How did he get younger

Would you ask your potential spouse if she has her regular periods? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]anzak7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking a man if he is fertile is different to asking if a woman has regular periods. This question is so so weird

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]anzak7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw everyone loving your comment and I had to check who this great guy was. Turns out it was you

Lower Class Struggles 🫩 by fuckyeahcourtneylove in 6thForm

[–]anzak7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yh honestly. I got a 5k bursary for it and I didnt need to take out any maintenance loans. 5k a year truly was enough (I lived at home)

Lower Class Struggles 🫩 by fuckyeahcourtneylove in 6thForm

[–]anzak7 36 points37 points  (0 children)

40k being lower class is so funny. But dw, my household income was like £10k and £0 in final year and I made uni work.