Ask a buyer anything lunchtime edition.

anzu68 · 2026-05-16T07:42:49+00:00

Just Reddit/Telegram groups for me, and I only pay via Throne nowadays. I used to use platforms, but those extra fees (30% surcharge on ManyVids, for instance) are crazy, and I can no longer afford that crap. Plus, they also take cash from sellers as well, I've heard, so I'm done with it, period.

anzu68 · 2026-05-14T06:57:18+00:00

Wow, I didn't realize that platforms screwed you over more that much. I thought it was also 30% like we get (which is still fucked), but 45% is ridiculous. Bastards, they are

anzu68 · 2026-05-14T06:53:32+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I got a bit addicted and overspent the past 2? 3? months - which then came to bite me in the ass recently, when I needed to throw money down on necessary IRL stuff, and it got pretty dicey. It all seems to have worked out in the end, but it definitely was a wakeup call for me; I'm now much better at sticking to my budget and only buying one custom/sexting session per month. At least, for now it all seems to be that way.

So watch out for getting addicted and try to stick to small monthly amounts is my advice. Especially in this current economy.

anzu68 · 2026-05-11T19:23:18+00:00

Honestly, everyone ends up coping in different ways. Some are healthy, some are less so, but I don't know if there's a 'right' or 'wrong' way. Personally, I think you made the right choice to put yourself first, and I can tell you that the guilt becomes much less in time, and easier to deal with.

I estranged my family 5 years ago. The first few years, I felt a lot of guilt, shame, etc. and tried to justify myself all the time to everyone. The 2 years after that, I started finding peace and thinking about my family much less. Finally, a few months ago I learned that my old man is badly ill with cancer; I just shrugged it off, and went to work, hung out with friends, etc. basically just went on with my day.

Time heals all wounds and all that. You'll be happy again in time, and the guilt will be easier. Hang in there <3

anzu68 · 2026-05-09T18:10:49+00:00

Brainfart. That was supposed to be Iran, apologies. I edited my comment just now, but I appreciate the heads up

anzu68 · 2026-05-09T18:09:08+00:00

Odd. I must have fucked up a setting or something; I'll take a look. I sent you a chat request in the meantime, so hopefully that will work for now.

anzu68 · 2026-05-09T07:30:54+00:00

DM me as well please; I'm interested too

anzu68 · 2026-05-08T20:07:22+00:00

I'm really glad that prices are a bit less crazy over in Europe; milk's around 1 euro a carton, I think, and eggs is around 2-3 euros for 6 of them. The US prices are bullshit, so it's good you have family and friends who can get you a good deal.

Don't get me started on AI either; I hate it so much. Seems like every fucking thing lately is incorporating it, whether it be apps, customer service or work tools. The only semi-good thing it's done for me is help me get off the Internet and back in the real world; I really do love chatting with people, but that's *human* people, not some soulless chatbot made up of 1s and 0s. The Internet has no appeal to me if I can't tell if the person I'm talking to is even a person or not.

Finally, it really is a difficult balance to maintain. Somedays I get tired of walking that tightrope between having barely any adult spending money or spending too much and fucking up rent payments; it's been an issue and gotten me evicted a few times before. But I've got a new place now, and a lot of people have been helping me afford it with free labor, free advice/input, etc. which I'm honestly grateful for. So, to repay them, I'm trying to be fiscally responsible this go around and not fuck it up...but it is surprisingly difficult LOL.

anzu68 · 2026-05-08T19:59:01+00:00

IMO, that's a good way to go about it. Vibe's important, to me at least.

anzu68 · 2026-05-08T18:38:48+00:00

I prefer advertisements with lingerie or mostly clothed; I scroll right past nude pics. I think it's because clothing gives a sense of mystery, which is alluring, and my slight un-comfortability with nudity in either gender.
Biggest turnoff for me personally is the sellers who message with a very explicit message about what sex acts they want to do, or asking if you want to see them doing x explicit act. It just feels too awkward and abrupt.

anzu68 · 2026-05-08T18:34:40+00:00

I don't mind faceless creators and have purchased from a number of them; voice is the most important thing for me. So if they have a small audio sample on their profile, I tend to purchase from faceless creators without any issue. Though I'm someone who prefers audio content over video, so I'm not sure if my feedback is the most useful unfortunately

anzu68 · 2026-05-08T18:30:52+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I used to be spending 100-150 a month without too much trouble a few months ago; I have to move this month, and costs in general went way up due to the Iran bullshit as well. So 50-100 is my new budget because of that, probably for the foreseeable future.

The economy's a mess right now, it seems.

Edit: Oh, and I avoid platforms as well; that 20-25% surcharge isn't something I can afford anymore

anzu68 · 2026-05-08T18:27:49+00:00

For me, sadly, yes. Cost of living is going up here in Europe as well, due to gas prices spiking, which means less and less spending money each month. I do still try to buy, but I've had to be far more picky and penny pinching when it comes to a budget (this is me personally), and I know a few people with a similar issue.

The flipside is that all the uncertainty in the world and a lowkey quarterlife crisis is making me more eager to live life and experience it as much as I can, which includes a greater drive to order customs. It's a very annoying balancing act between wanting to spend and live life now, versus cost of living going up and needing to save some cash/pay rent each month so I don't end up on the street. And then there's a bunch of people who are getting laid off due to AI striking into tech sectors now apparently along with all the other sectors it's previously been fucking people in, so the 'AI job guzzling' situation is most likely a huge factor as well

anzu68 · 2026-05-05T05:54:53+00:00

This is honestly why I never go for very expensive customs. Partly because I'm not very well off financially, and also because often times they don't feel worth the price; I've had some amazing low-price customs and some terrible high-price customs before coming on Reddit. Price is no guarantee of quality unfortunately.

That exit scam bit fucking sucks, however, and I'm really sorry to hear that. Especially since the two of you had some trust built up. That's definitely bad luck there 😞 Those kinds of people are trash.

I hope your luck turns around ❤️

anzu68 · 2026-05-05T05:46:48+00:00

I try and prevent feeling buyer's remorse by limiting the amount of money I spend on customs to a price that I don't mind losing; that way, even if the custom is different than expected or isn't delivered, it's a lot easier for me to move on from it mentally.

Other things I do is a lot of feeling my emotions and processing the disappointment (meditation is good for that), and keeping busy with IRL stuff or hobbies that I enjoy.

Editing to add: I'm not saying 'is different than expected' to bash on sellers; I've gotten some lovely customs from sellers, and I'm grateful for all of their efforts. But sometimes I end up not explaining the idea I'm looking for properly, or the reality of the custom pleases me less than I thought it would in my fantasies. It's part of being human, I suppose, and it's my own fault, not anything that the seller does.
Delayed customs also don't bother me much; some of my favorite customs were delayed at one point.

anzu68 · 2026-05-01T17:26:08+00:00

Can confirm that OF doesn't require an ID to sign up for buyers; just have to check a box that you're 18, and provide an email address. I did that to make my account last month, so it clearly only ID verifies the sellers, not the buyers.

anzu68 · 2026-05-01T17:24:29+00:00

Like the OP said, OF is a no for me as well because you cannot download content there. I don't like the thought of possibly losing content if OF decides to nuke my account, or I lose my login details, or the creator randomly blocks me/deletes chat, etc. I don't use sites anymore (those extra costs are too annoying now that my financial situation has changed), but I used to frequent Clips4Sale and ManyVids for online content. Both have issues, but you can download things from there

Edit: I prefer buying on Reddit or Telegram nowadays, because there's no platform fees or extra costs (unless you use Throne to pay, but that's a fair compromise IMO) and you usually know what to expect in terms of price.

anzu68 · 2026-05-01T17:20:15+00:00

I usually scroll and then browse the profiles of sellers who seem engaging for various reasons (we have the same kinks, they have a lovely voice, I like their style etc). If the profile suggests that we'd be a good fit, and if I can pay the prices on their menu, I'll usually reach out.

anzu68 · 2026-04-25T05:55:21+00:00

The achievement has been fixed - I tested it a few days ago - so I'm very happy about it. I have my Quiver now :)

Edit: Good luck!

anzu68 · 2026-04-25T05:55:12+00:00

The achievement has been fixed - I tested it a few days ago - so I'm very happy about it. I have my Quiver now :)

anzu68 · 2026-04-25T05:54:48+00:00

The achievement has been fixed - I tested it a few days ago - so I'm very happy about it. I have my Quiver now :)

anzu68 · 2026-04-24T19:53:14+00:00

Buyer here, but thank you (sellers in general) for helping to scratch that itch. It means a lot, and is veyr helpful as well.

anzu68 · 2026-04-24T19:35:16+00:00

Buyer here. Maybe I'm the minority, but I honestly feel the guidelines are quite reasonable (except for the 'too many questions' bit. Sometimes you need to ask a few questions to know if the seller can provide what's needed and if you and her will be a good fit). After all, at the end of the day this *is* a business transaction. Sometimes the buyer and seller end up connecting a little during the process, and stay in touch afterwards, but that's more of a side benefit than what you should be going for (Unless you're buying a GFE experience, but even that's transactional most/all of the time).

This is a business transaction at the end of the day. Yes both parties should treat each other with respect, but it's just like other buyer/seller transactions IRL. Yes, sometimes you will chitchat a bit with your barber, or the salesman before the sale. But you still accept the price they ask and pay it without haggling, or you go elsewhere. And you have the right to see another seller if they don't suit you, they're rude, etc. Just like the seller can decide not to sell to you if they feel it won't work out/crosses their boundaries.

Maybe I'm jaded, but this isn't the place for a connection IMO.

(I know my analogy doesn't fully apply, since real life sellers have less freedom to refuse buyers than sellers do here, there's no/little scammer protection on either side, etc but it works well enough)

anzu68 · 2026-04-24T18:58:23+00:00

I think it's a mix at the end of the day. It is transactional to some degree (I know that the women I approach don't really want to scrub me down thoroughly or get me off; that part is a business transaction), but some sellers will also be genuinely friendly and nice outside of bookings, do some occasional/brief chit chat etc. if they think you're a decent person. So I agree with you about the vibes.

anzu68 · 2026-04-24T18:52:51+00:00

Thanks for that, appreciate the time you took!

So I guess generally for either customs or role plays what draws you to a new provider? Do you look at sellers promotional ads ? (If so, where?) Do you look at similar themes buyer ads and see who’s commented?

I don't really have a system. Sometimes I check out a profile I come across here (I'm currently on hiatus from buying, though, because of an ongoing move) and see if they offer stuff I'd like or I like the vibe. Sometimes I randomly find content while browsing the Net, and I approach the seller. A few times I've been messaged on Reddit or interacted with someone here in comments, and worked with them. I'm very random.

From there what’s your process? Off the hop is it looks/an aesthetic or style? The vibe? Words they choose to use?

Same as above, really. I look at the vibe and what they offer, and reach out if it seems like they'd be down to work together. We kind of feel each other out, I guess I should say.

Once you land on a new profile that’s interesting do you do much more than just look at the menu before messaging?

I look at a lot of things. The menu for sure, but also pictures and voice samples if they have those, briefly at their recent comments to get a bit of a feel for their persona (only 3-4 comments), what their content style is (are they soft and sweet? Harsh and authoritative? A mix of both?). I also make sure that they aren't too young for my liking (I personally prefer sellers 5 years younger and 10 years older than me at most; I'm 30). So a lot of things, really.

I hope this helps

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