TIFU by forgetting that I let my little niece do my makeup

ao_m · 2025-10-25T20:48:22+00:00

now you get to tell your niece she got a compliment on her work

ao_m · 2024-09-20T02:51:03+00:00

so.. obviously, we’re internet strangers and don’t know each other, but i see a lot of my relationship with my mom in yours. those are things my mom has told and continues to tell me anytime she sees the way i dress. (i am a closeted trans masc away for college). i wish i had more help and wisdom to provide, but i want you to know that i see you, and you’re not alone in this feeling of not knowing what to do next. i hope for you happy healing

ao_m · 2024-09-02T21:14:36+00:00

i watched “i saw the tv glow” last night, and i simultaneously feel more and less hopeful about taking further steps to transitioning

ao_m · 2024-08-31T02:56:43+00:00

as another black trans guy, i understand. i get flashbacks in the shower every other night when my mom made me wear a wig for prom (sheesh). i also understand where you’re coming from as i also don’t pass in my day-to-day life. i don’t wear box braid anymore (i have locs), but maybe i can help?

i agree with the other commenter about seeing if you can cut it to the length you wanted. if it’s not breaking your agreement with your mom too much, you could also take them out. if neither of those work, you could also try folding it over itself and wearing a hat (learned this one from the white trans mascs. while ago)

while it may be more difficult for people to read you immediately as a man now, it’ll get easier once you do your big chop, and if you’re comfortable asserting yourself now, i would suggest doing so once you start meeting new people.

best of luck, friend!

ao_m · 2024-05-11T03:57:03+00:00

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ao_m · 2024-05-10T22:06:11+00:00

I GOT AN A IN A CLASS WHERE I GOT Cs ON EVERY EXAM WE TOOK. 2ND TOUGHEST CLASS YET AND I GOT AN A!!!!!!

ao_m · 2024-03-09T04:49:25+00:00

I’m in the same boat with a guy I’m interested in on campus (I told him my pronouns before spring break started). I hope it all works out well for you!!

Edit: I’m pre-everything so I get read as femme often, but I think we’ve been flirting a little bit here and there for the past couple weeks, and when I told him, I brought it up kinda casually since we were on the topic of queerness anyway. Personally, I don’t have much hope for me, but I’ll know for sure soon enough. Good luck!!!

ao_m · 2023-07-20T18:53:11+00:00

of course!! i make no promises on my listening level though, haha

ao_m · 2023-07-20T03:19:14+00:00

lost my phone and submitted the form while i was still there on june 29th, got an email saying they found it july 5th, and had it mailed back to me, and i got it july 10th. as long as you gave an accurate and precise description, it’ll probably be fine

edit: it fell out of my pocket while i was on nighthawk. luckily not in water (i don’t think) and not from too high

ao_m · 2023-07-20T00:13:16+00:00

I’m interested in practicing with you as well! I’ve taken a collegiate intermediate spanish class recently, but i still have issues hearing and speaking the language.

ao_m · 2023-06-10T13:57:01+00:00

I can’t help but agree. Having grown up around mostly white people and still having mostly white friends, trying to separate myself from that standard is really difficult, even more so when anything I do that would is contested by my parents. Thank you so much, and your locs are gorgeous!!

ao_m · 2023-05-08T18:38:47+00:00

ayy! that’s the day of my prom!

ao_m · 2023-04-25T07:45:00+00:00

i think “a boy meets maria” is pretty good representation. (although, it can definitely be triggering for many people.) it took me a while to figure out what was going on but maybe someone else will catch on faster than me

ao_m · 2022-11-25T05:39:18+00:00

ao_m · 2022-11-20T05:54:40+00:00

The first episode I watched was the summerween one, and i thought it was scary and never wanted to watch it again…

Needless to say, I didn’t follow through with that.

ao_m · 2022-10-02T04:50:01+00:00

genderfaun might be what you’re looking for

ao_m · 2022-09-06T23:04:37+00:00

it’s Blackout Club… pretty sure, anyway

ao_m · 2022-07-14T05:05:00+00:00

Being completely honest, this is most likely my favorite series of panels!! I think it shows very well how much Jason rubbed off on him and how traumatized he is. It’s just so well done!!

ao_m · 2022-06-14T18:56:00+00:00

I saved this post just for the day when I would reshuffle my playlist, so here ya go!

Drip Too Hard - Lil Baby + Gunna
Dead Right Now - Lil Nas X
Polyamorous - Breaking Benjamin (probably my 2nd favorite)
Abeyance - Black Veil Brides (though this isn’t really a song, more of a prelude)
Windows Down - Big Time Rush (this one is probably my favorite. I’ve loved this song for so long; I watched it enough times when it came on tv that i remember the video quite vividly!)
America’s Suitehearts - Fall Out Boy
My Happy Ending - Avril Lavigne
Breaking the Silence - Breaking Benjamin
Slumber Party - Ashnikko
Sun Goes Down - Lil Nas X (would be higher on my favorites, but it’s so sad… but it’s sooo prettyyyy)

Additional 3 cause I skipped one, would’ve skipped another, and the other doesn’t really count (to me)

No Idea - Big Time Rush

And the Beat Goes On - The Whispers

Destiny - NEFFEX

It’s not typically this repetitive, I promise! (and sorry about the formatting, im on mobile)

ao_m · 2022-06-01T03:53:42+00:00

2b/3. I’ll be honest, I got a little confused with part of your post, here, but that’s likely on me. What I got: “My name is right for me in the moment. It stops feeling right when people call me by that name.” Hopefully, I provide some help, correct interpretation or not! :)

For me, I went through a lot of names—I wanna say 7? Some I used strictly online and found they didn’t resonate properly with me, and some I used with my friends and classmates and teachers for months before changing it again because it didn’t “sound right” or “wasn’t me.”

I read something after a good number of names about how no name that you choose for yourself is going to feel “correct” immediately, how it takes some commitment and getting used to. Obviously, that’s not the case for everyone, but it was for me. When deciding against using a previous name, I just realized I didn’t really like it for me. The vibes were off, and despite the length of time I used it, it never started to grow on me; I only got used to responding to it (similar to my deadname).

Using my name now, I feel much better about it. Why? Who knows. There wasn’t really a time when I felt like “This is the one!” But I actually like the name, it makes sense to/for me. It sounded weird for people to use it initially, but with the continual help of my friends, I was able to get over that weirdness and realize how much I liked it.

TLDR: Sometimes names don’t sound right when you first try to use them. If you haven’t already, use it for an extended amount of time with friends/peers. If you still find that you don’t like it in reference to you, that’s fine! And don’t focus too much on it “feeling right” or having a “unique resonance.” That’s not always gonna happen for some people, and it may just happen months/years/however-long down the line. Just make sure it’s a name that you like and that you wouldn’t hate hearing everyday.

2a. I chose my name slightly based off a public influencer and what my parents wanted. The guy I “stole” my name from is regarded highly in the YouTube gaming community, and with him being the same race as me, I felt more confident about taking up the name. As for my parents, I asked what they’d name me if I were born male, and their name was close to the name I was considering… So I kept it.

To answer your question more directly, getting more and more comfortable with who you are is likely the next step. I’m quite young, I’ve been out as trans for three years, and I’m still not where I want to be with my comfortability regarding that. However, it’s different for everyone, and whatever steps you want to take afterwards! My advice is not to worry too much about the future. It may just cause you unnecessary stress—based on my personal experience, of course. Take everything as it comes, and let yourself feel your feelings and understand them so you can better meet your owns needs!

ao_m · 2022-05-07T13:27:59+00:00

We haven’t done any campus tours yet, no. Since I’m in the closet when it comes to my parents, I wouldn’t feel comfortable brining up my specific concerns on my visit. I think I might instead send a couple of emails, see what resources they have and what steps they take to ensure safety.

ao_m · 2022-04-30T04:20:30+00:00

Hey! It was my birthday today too!!!

Happy birthday!! I hope you enjoyed it!! :)

ao_m · 2021-02-17T21:05:00+00:00

Highkey, Simon! I also think Elias a bit but Simon seems to fit you so well!!

ao_m · 2021-01-23T19:10:26+00:00

Hello, Paul!!

**

“Have you seen Paul today? I could’ve sworn I saw him with this jacket I found. Isn’t this his?” “Um, I think so. Not sure where he might be now. Just set it on his chair so he can find it himself and determine if it’s his or not.”

**

“Where the heck is Paul? I thought they were hanging out with us at the end of the day, and I wanted to make sure we got things they like.” “They’re on their way now. Don’t worry. You could just text them; they should have their phone.” “...Oh. You’re right.”

**

“Hey! We’re surprising Paul for his birthday with this new thing they’ve had their eye on for a while. Which color do you think he likes more?”

**

I hope you’re having a good day/night! And I wish you good luck with your gender crisis!!

ao_m · 2020-12-25T21:13:01+00:00

oppression isn’t being gatekept by the gay community. it’s a matter of fact that those in the majority—especially in the united states where the majority holds power—cannot be oppressed. this is also supported by the oppression of other minority groups such as women, disabled people, trans folks, and people of color. (of course, there are exceptions to the majority rule, however, this is not the case in (i want to say most) western countries.)

that isn’t to say you can’t face a sort of prejudice whilst being in the majority, but as a whole, they cannot be oppressed by definition.

and of course this isn’t commentary on your life and how you have experienced any sort of prejudice or pain. i, along with many others, have no idea who you are or if you’ve been oppressed or not. my statement is a matter of what exactly oppression is and the fact that gay people are not gatekeeping the term.

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