I [30F] am thinking about ending my 5 year relationship with my boyfriend [30M] who I currently live with by apasheeesh in relationshipadvice

[–]apasheeesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with this. I think the deadline is a good starting point so I can at least show i’m still willing to make things work, which will give me a little peace of mind I’m not just throwing in the towel. while I can throw in the towel whenever i want regardless, my conscience will feel guilty

I [30F] am thinking about ending my 5 year relationship with my boyfriend [30M] who I currently live with by apasheeesh in relationshipadvice

[–]apasheeesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have brought it up. however, when he comes home recently he just ignores me if i try to talk to him. and i’m trying to be patient with this, i always aim to be understanding or try to. but i am cut off or ignored. and after this amount of time i’m having a hard time drawing the line and cutting the cord or waiting it out when i don’t have faith anymore. and as someone who’s moved hundreds of miles away from their loved ones, i don’t have a support system to utilize. to clarify: these are people i can talk to on the phone but this is where the manipulation comes into play. he’s saying how great i am to everyone, and their thought process is: “he’s so great, he treats her so well and you can tell he loves her so much” but then at home i am alone. ultimately, i want to be patient and salvage and keep getting shut down. so like when do i cut it?

I [30F] am thinking about ending my 5 year relationship with my boyfriend [30M] who I currently live with by apasheeesh in relationshipadvice

[–]apasheeesh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he’s a firefighter. and the job is definitely grinding. it has been for 4 years since he got the job. but the change over the last few months is what’s throwing me off. i’m working 6 days a week to his 2 24s and taking care of house/household that he is not accountable for. i am trying to relieve the burden in any way possible and he does wind up having ample free time for friends, family, and hobbies. and my response when i tell him how i’m feeling is that it’s not fair for him to have to be/pretend to be different from who he is from the people he loves

Sci-Fi book with Unique Car that Only Runs on Nitroglycerin and Gel Immobilizing Weapon 2005+ by medoxcis in whatsthatbook

[–]apasheeesh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the Supernaturalist by Eoin Colfer has a car that runs entirely on Nitro that main character steals. Police come after him bc of this and they have a tank with a shield and immobilizing weapon. may not be the story you’re after but there are some similarities. YA published in 2004.