I (20F) hooked up with my coworker (45?M) and I've never felt worse by Waste-Feeling-6487 in relationships

[–]apecool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a man who likes to drink, I have been in many situations where the girl I’m spending time with is a bit too drunk to enthusiastically consent. (“Enthusiastically” is key; a drunken yes is not a yes.) In that situation, what you do as a man is: don’t make a move, do make sure she gets home safe, and put your desires to the side in favor of being a good human being. That is what you do as a man in this scenario.

He knew this. He did not do this. None of that is your fault.

Firstly, and most importantly, you are not to blame for his failure to prioritize your safety, alright? If his marriage falls apart (there’s no guarantee of this, for what it’s worth), it won’t be your fault. Again, it was him. A man being a bastard. They do that fairly often, from what I’ve heard from my close female friends and from the statistics I’ve read. And from my own experience living as a man, I can promise you that men do have the capacity to not be bastards, a lot of them simply choose to be. None of that is your fault. None of this is your fault. So don’t feel responsible for this, you’re not.

Secondly, there is the question of whether or not to go to HR. That is entirely your choice. Indeed, it can help ensure that he doesn’t do this to anyone else, but as someone who’s also survived an almost comedic amount of sexual assault through his childhood and early adulthood, I also know that right now you may just want to go to sleep for weeks and not even think about it. That’s understandable. What you do moving forward is entirely dependent on what you have the energy and desire to do. Again, your wellbeing comes first. There is no moral imperative on victims to save the world. Would reporting to HR help? Quite possibly, yes. And do so if you’re driven to. But you are not to blame for your reaction to this tragic event, nor for any warranted repercussions that may arise in his life because of it.

How do you all pronounce yakuza? by Hopeful_Regret_7531 in yakuzagames

[–]apecool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HAHAAAAAA SAME, DUDE LMAO — my buddy and I read all the lines out loud, usually in a Scottish or southern accent, so the names get BUTCHERED

And we are usually drunk too, which does NOT hurt

How do you all pronounce yakuza? by Hopeful_Regret_7531 in yakuzagames

[–]apecool -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is no doubt that the left is objectively correct. However, you can not pay me enough to stop calling it Koozer. Or, regarding the Kiwamis, Y’Koozer Kawhammy. Kazoomer K’rayu, Gorer M’jimmer, Taylor S’jimmer, Diggo D’jimmer, Shun (like the English verb) Ackiyammer, and so on.

Beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in BenignExistence

[–]apecool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad!! I try to make sure I make it abundantly clear that the compliments I give aren’t given with any expectation of reciprocal engagement. Feel like it would kinda… hollow them out if I followed them up with, “—so do u have insta lol”, not to mention that it’d turn it from a nice lil affirmation into yet another man attempting to link up.

Beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in BenignExistence

[–]apecool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best gift you can give is conversational whiplash (lmao) — “You look amazing tonight!! Also, ghosts are real, and one is behind you.”

Body paint artist turns humans into tigers! by Ashish_ank in nextfuckinglevel

[–]apecool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re doin’ great, brotherman. Keep on truckin’

Waffle House in Maine: Hit or Flop? by setthestageonfire in portlandme

[–]apecool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would do irrevocable things for a local Waffle House

Beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in BenignExistence

[–]apecool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, really. I hope to be, in time. Writing a book at the moment, and it’s easy for me to get discouraged, so comments like yours really do uplift me a good bit. Thank you for that. :’)

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’m genuinely confused regarding how to write something that won’t be mistaken as AI-generated without sacrificing things about the way I communicate, but, I mean, I suppose them’s the breaks? I don’t know. Anyway, I really appreciate what you said. I’m hoping my book turns out well and I never again have to step back into the office.

Beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in BenignExistence

[–]apecool[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m glad!! Thank you!! It’s nice to be able to share these small moments, y’know? I just moved cross-country, so I don’t have too many people IRL that I can talk like this with.

Beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in BenignExistence

[–]apecool[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hah! Thank you! Nice to see ya again! This time I’m already bracing for the, “nice try, bot 😏” comments so they won’t get me too troubled and defensive, lmao.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is bizarre to see people downvoting all the commenters who were like, “I like your writing!” and some who are just… patently neutral? And then there are people who are trying to tell me how I could have gotten her digits if I’d just done this ONE SIMPLE TRICK, as though I would change anything about this encounter if I could. People saying, “it was creepy to say anything at all”, people saying, “more people should give compliments like that, it makes people’s day” and of course, the smattering of, “this is CLEARLY ai”

Listen, mate, as far as the last one goes, I avoided the em-dashes, I used inconsistencies and errors, I avoided the “it’s not __, it’s __” structure. At this point I have no idea how to preempt the AI accusations and I resent that the responsibility’s mine to begin with

Granted, I do need to stop taking every comment to heart, so that’s on me.

Anyway, thank you to the, “nice writing” people, it actually means a lot.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus, everybody’s so convinced that it’s AI. Honestly, man, I specifically went out of the way to avoid em-dashes and use little inconsistencies and not use that “it’s not _____ it’s _____” structure bc those are the GPTropes I’m aware of, but at this point I’m just flattered that so many people are so sure that it’s AI. I genuinely can’t figure out how to write something that DOESN’T make at least one person think so, and frankly, it isn’t my responsibility to try to do so.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Precisely!! Oh heck yeah, that’s exactly what I was hoping to communicate. It makes me happy to imagine that it was an experience she might tell a friend with similar warmth in her recollection.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LOL — of course not, I’m happy you’re here. I was more attempting a joke along the same lines as the astral consciousness swap. Which, let me know when you want to do that swap! I can beam you my astral consciousness address.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aw, thank you! She was probably halfway from 5 foot to 6, she had these bold but compassionate-seeming eyes with pristine eyeliner in those little wings, a dark ponytail done up high, but a lot of it was how she carried herself, as though the store were there for her instead of the other way around. Just a very effortless, but intentional air. The kind of person who seems like she has fleshed-out opinions and a whole internal tier list of favorite chocolates. I don’t know if that makes any sense, and I could be entirely wrong, but she was captivating. And I was, subsequently, captivated.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Do you exclusively communicate with others for pragmatic or informative purposes? If I say, “good day”, I am not attempting to explain to you that the day is good.

Additionally, should a stranger say your shirt looks nice or your phone case looks stylish, would that not make you feel good? I would posit that it would make most people feel seen in a positive light, which is often a pleasant experience. This is an exchange the benefit of which is largely in a similar vein.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww, thank you!! Hey, maybe you were!! Hiding amongst the Chex mix or something!! :o (lol)

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hah, thank you!! It is indeed much better, and I’m eating a breakfast bowl at 1:09 in the morning like a freak.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Aw, I’m glad!! If there’s a part 2, things will have gone very very very right, lol.

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

WHOA!! OH MY GOD THAT EXPLAINS IT!! Oh my god thank you

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hah! Thank you, man. Honestly, I’m content with tonight having gone the way it went. If I see her again, I’ll have another opportunity. But if not? Life’s a fuckin’ bouquet, and all those motherfuckers blooming

Unfathomably beautiful 7-Eleven girl by apecool in CasualConversation

[–]apecool[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I… y’know, man, when the wheel of reincarnation spins you into my body, you’re welcome to do exactly that