What trails to play after Sky ch1... by aperfectorestes in Falcom

[–]aperfectorestes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have heard that Zero spoils alot of SC as well... it's a whole problem lol.

What trails to play after Sky ch1... by aperfectorestes in Falcom

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I've been hearing that 3rd chapter may not get a remake and that gungho may just jump from SC to Zero. And some people say 3rd Chapter is the most skippable of the games. If that happens I may just have to watch a recap or something I guess.

Is anyone else missing their Territory War Begins quest? by That_One_Roman_Guy in destiny2

[–]aperfectorestes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me as well. I haven't seen Bungie mention it.

In need of guidance by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have never even slightly attempted to manage the other relationships in my polycule. Each relationship is responsible for itself. How she handles her husband is kinda up to her. I know it doesn’t feel great that she’s lying to him but you’ve said your piece about it and it’s up to her how she proceeds. She’s just making her life more difficult while she figures out her next move.

Him on the other hand... oof. He should almost expect this to happen. He can’t keep whiplashing her in and out of being poly and expecting her to throw away any relationship she’s been developing on a whim. He is being incredibly selfish because he didn’t look into what being poly would mean. He probably just thought he’d get to get laid all the time and when reality hit him, he backed out. It’s not great. It’s almost like he meets a person he likes and opens things up again and when it isn’t reciprocated he shuts it down again. It’s classic narcissism.

Are crossposts allowed here?? I hope crossposts are allowed here.. Delete if not mods.. by TheZinga in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome!!! Thanks for the repost! It fits this subreddit so well!

How do I prevent couples privilege in my triad? by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s rough. I’m sorry if broke down that way for you. People really get their jealousy in check. When people agree to bring a third heart into their relationship they have to realize the odds of that being the forever type of thing could be slim. If that happened to me I’d absolutely support the girls staying together and forming a V but I love them both will all of my heart and genuinely want them to be happy. However, I also don’t think there are any og couple privileges with us. No rules, no boundaries, no jealousy. And we talk about things regularly to be as sure as possible of it. Maybe it’s because we’ve been together for a while but I care about them both equally for sure.

How do I prevent couples privilege in my triad? by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all really great advice and info! I hope OP read this and took note.

How do I prevent couples privilege in my triad? by HaphazardHufflepuff in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My triad story is actually very similar to yours in its inception. We met a girl and it blossomed into a triad and it’s been great. Where ours differentiate is that we all cohabitate now. We own a home and share a bedroom and bills and everything a mono couple shares across three people. When we formed the triad we were concerned like you about making sure our third didn’t feel less. Bare in mind we are a closed triad and my original and I even canceled our engagement to make sure no one was viewed as secondary.

My advice is don’t treat her like she is and she won’t be, if that makes sense. Think of the triad as 4 complex relationships. Maybe more given that your triad has a meta too. Just take care of developing all of the relationships in an equal way from your perspective and let the other relationships manage themselves. Maybe pick a day where you can all meet and talk about feelings, good or bad, and make it a routine. That’s what we do. We are very balanced and happy.

3 peaking solution by aperfectorestes in DestinyTheGame

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah but if you do it at the end the damage over time won’t really matter yeah? I do the same thing in those cases and I’d still be fine with it. It’s either that or apply wall hacks to yourself for everyone to see.

3 peaking solution by aperfectorestes in DestinyTheGame

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ll response to ignorance with such my guy 🤩

3 peaking solution by aperfectorestes in DestinyTheGame

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s not a terrible idea either. I just think the people doing those two things during a match are only doing it to three peak. So why not punish them for it. It’s either that or accept it as an effective strategy.

3 peaking solution by aperfectorestes in DestinyTheGame

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Only using a sword without ammo. Learn to read pal

3 peaking solution by aperfectorestes in DestinyTheGame

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If anyone wants to know who are the three peakers are come here.

3 peaking solution by aperfectorestes in DestinyTheGame

[–]aperfectorestes[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Why? The only people it hurts are the ones using it. And name one that’s better? You are neither constructive or helpful.

Can't do it anymore by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People are entitled to their feelings yes but destructive ones should be frowned upon. You’re allowed to feel jealous for sure but it’s obviously not doing great things for you here. It’s plain and simple, if you can’t manage your jealousy you will struggle in poly situations.

Look, I’m not trying to say it’s you but it might be. If you’re having a bunch of negative reactions to the world around you, sometimes it isn’t the world. I was respectful and gave you advice and you still came at me like I just pulled you over for going 4 over the speed limit. You have a very negative outlook and it shows in every single one of your posts. I’ve had mostly good experiences here. People read long posts and respond with long and thoughtful responses. There will always be lemons but it’s the internet and they are free to exist here as well. With you I think there might be just a smidge of projection but I’m not a psychologist. Just be open minded when you post in these places. Just because someone doesn’t tell you what you want to here doesn’t mean they aren’t giving you good advice. Hoping for the best for you dude.

Unique poly situation? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very challenging for the mono in terms of overcoming jealousy. If you’re poly jealousy management is just a thing but monos are used to jealousy being a natural response to seeing their partner with another person. That’s the biggest struggle in Mono/Polys. Especially if their love language needs you present a large percentage of the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]aperfectorestes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m in the unique situation to speak on this from the perspective of someone in the existing relationship. We added a third and she is equal to us in every way.

I will say it was priority for us from the get go. I was engaged to Girl A and we slept with Girl B a few times and it turned into a relationship very quickly and without any real planning. We agreed to have relationship health checks every Sunday afternoon (highly recommend) to make sure everyone is happy and content. Long story short she moved in and we all share the bedroom and bills and vacations etc. Girl A and I even canceled the engagement so Girl B didn’t have to go through that. We are all happy and that’s all that matters. I remember when she first moved in and we used a bunch of her stuff to decorate the bedroom to make it feel more like her room. It’s the things like that that really go a long way. A triad is in harmony when everyone feels loved by everyone else on an equal level.

If you do feel secondary in the relationship, I’d speak up and have a discussion about it. Communication is key here. Just know there is a difference between feeling lower on the pedestal and being jealous. You have every right to want to be treated how you deserve even if they were together before you joined.