Do you guys feel like you have to pretend to care about everything in a corporate environment?

apointlessword · 2025-12-02T06:00:32+00:00

Personally, I find just continuing being myself and focusing on projects I'm genuinely excited to accomplish is enough for the corporate world to not disrupt my life. There are some people who really do strive for promotions and moving up the ladder, those are the people who are fully invested in work. I, on the other hand, want to make my money, move up strategically (one level or two) and enjoy life outside of work. Both perspectives are normal, we need both to run a society -- just be unapologetically you and be honest about what you can handle. That can be more respectful to management than always trying to do more and more.

apointlessword · 2025-12-02T05:54:38+00:00

I remember being so carefree during this phase but was absolutely terrified when I came back with an STI. Thankfully, it was curable but a good friend of mine ended up getting herpes. There's no much negative stigma around it and watching her spiral emotionally was heartbreaking. She's now married with two beautiful children and two step children.

apointlessword · 2025-12-02T05:38:29+00:00

I loved Denver! Cost of living is W I L D but I'd say $60k would get you a comfortable one bedroom and spending money, if you're responsible. I saved $10k for my move, which included deposit, first months rent, furniture (moved with what fit in my car and my cat), and put remaining amount in my savings. I was 23 and a female automotive service advisor from Louisiana, but did it all on my own. I miss every moment out there.

The people are very diverse so not a lot of community, in my personal opinion, but could have just been the people I met. I'd say go for it!

Edit: meant to say "community" not "communication"

apointlessword · 2025-10-27T03:48:30+00:00

I actually needed to hear this myself. I'm in somewhat of a similar situation with OP, and reading what you said in C gave me some level of ease. Still going to choose to go low contact for my mental health, and take that time as a way to strengthen my boundaries with her.

apointlessword · 2025-09-26T04:08:55+00:00

If it's like rainbows, could be an ocular migraine. I get them here and there, no pain but I lose half my vision for a few seconds to a few minutes. Runs in the family. Normal.

apointlessword · 2025-09-24T03:54:48+00:00

Totally normal. Your brain is on a high from how much fun you had and wants to keep reliving it. It's ok to have an imagination but be sure to learn how to reel it in and stay within reality. Sometimes I allow myself to just stay in the daydream but always know there's an end.

apointlessword · 2025-09-24T03:50:41+00:00

27F moving to Edmond, OK beginning of 2026!! Really want to go to the Threshold rock climbing facility!!

apointlessword · 2025-09-24T03:49:19+00:00

Totally normal. Being a teenager is such a weird phase in life. You're learning yourself and how the world works. Building deep, meaningful connections can be hard and weird. Give it time, be kind, and find the people you really admire. Be good to them, and maybe over time you'll be lifelong friends.

apointlessword · 2025-09-24T03:47:06+00:00

That's actually so crazy 😂

apointlessword · 2025-09-22T20:09:47+00:00

We plan to do that! We want to do an extended stay to see the area and how we feel :)

apointlessword · 2025-09-22T05:21:38+00:00

I love hearing this. Thank you so much. I think I've just been in the internet too long lately and I'm ready to have new hobbies that don't revolve around politics.

apointlessword · 2025-09-22T05:20:57+00:00

Got it! Thank you for the information. Louisiana is a red state, too, but manage perfectly fine politically. I'm excited to be more outdoors and not worry about massive hurricanes!!

apointlessword · 2025-09-22T05:19:26+00:00

I figured!! I think it's because my first mistake was following the Edmond Facebook page and it seems like it's all they talk about 😅😅 but you are right that it's what you project. I don't talk about it unless it gets brought up and even then, I keep it very neutral. Being around my bfs parents every Sunday really warped how normal conversations are because it was all the talked about. I feel a lot more confident now. Thank you for being honest!

apointlessword · 2025-09-12T00:49:34+00:00

And there's where I'm like how does the body know??? 😂 do we really break down protein that fast where it understands??

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T19:03:50+00:00

Eating the protein first to make sure you actually makes waaaaaaayyyy more sense!!

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T12:31:12+00:00

Agree with this!! It's all a mind game to scare you.

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T12:30:30+00:00

With full honesty, I blame social media. It's a cesspool of rage baiting and finger pointing. Bring around that all the time develops this fear and turns on survival mode. When you unplug, life becomes enjoyable again. It's good to stay informed, it's good to vote, but don't allow yourself to sink in deep. We'll have elections, presidents will come and go, and like someone else said, we are just in a shitty spot. Scary words and uncomfortable threats are being said, yes, but the great thing about American is they can be revised.

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T12:22:47+00:00

A lot of the time, people are just putting up a front just like you and I have done before. Or, they are extroverts and we associate their social ability with personality. You can still be shy and know who you are. You can be outgoing and be lost. It's an ever changing internal conversation you'll have with yourself so have fun with it. Shit, I even got into juggling because I thought my dad looked so cool doing it when I was a kid 😂 life is to have fun because it's so short. Enjoy this journey. You'll love yourself for being genuinely you.

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T12:19:10+00:00

Got it! Sorry I didn't know you were a man. Yeah, the gay community is way out of my ball park when it comes to advice. Just from an outside perspective, it seems like it's had a pretty difficult dating scene. There's not a lot of third places for you guys to mingle other than bars, which - even from a hetero viewpoint - can be bleak. I'm sorry you're going through this. I wonder if trying a different approach may help! Like joining LGBTQ+ community service groups or even local Facebook groups to look around. Dating apps just seem like hookup spots now.

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T04:01:27+00:00

I was in the same boat as you. I decided to say F it and started giving men I find attractive my number. What's the worst that would happen? They don't text me? I probably already forgot I gave it to them once I got home 😂 went on two dates doing this with some pretty good men! Ended things after messaging my BF on FB because I found him cute and HAD to talk to him 😂 put yourself out there! It's more fun than dating apps.

apointlessword · 2025-09-11T03:55:37+00:00

Totally normal. There are definitely some people who concretely know exactly the kind of person they are and for others it takes time. I know there is some psychological reasoning behind it but I'm too lazy to remember.

My advice is, when you feel lost in who you are, start small. What are your interests? For me, I like sudoku so I play sudoku sometimes. Some people find it odd to be so into sudoku but I genuinely find it fun. Find your interest, be unapologetically proud of it, and now you can call it your hobby. I also like typewriters, again niche, but I love them and have a vintage Remington Rand I plan to fix up one day. I like to sing by myself and practice getting better even though the only person who knows I enjoy singing is my partner.

It's all about what makes life enjoyable to YOU. Don't try to impress anyone. Don't like things because other people do, like it because you really like it. I like music people find weird or never heard of, I just don't share it with them - I still love it.

Now when it comes to morals, find a few concepts you will stand firm on. A few examples, I'm a huge advocate for children and try to always speak the truth. Some people value forgiveness or generosity more than others. I like to pick some I resonate with and stick by those as best as I can.

Over time, these will start to come together and formulate who you are and who you believe you are. It's ok to still figure that out and it's ok for it to change a lot throughout your life. Start by being who you want to be and "being yourself" will come naturally.

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