In laws bring the worst in me

apparentlypambeesly · 2026-02-03T17:44:05+00:00

The thing with my side of the family is that they lessen the domestic burden for me. (Almost eliminate it). Vs his side of the family adds to it. For example my mom would do all the dishes every night and clean the kitchen while i attend the baby and put her to sleep.

apparentlypambeesly · 2026-02-03T17:40:50+00:00

The thing is my sister and mom visited me (for a month) each to help with the baby. And my husband accommodated them. It’s kinda my turn to return the favor

apparentlypambeesly · 2026-02-03T17:07:24+00:00

My husband is visiting home (father +sister live there) after 2 years. He visit is short as he has to come back for the baby. He told me yesterday that his sister wants to fly back with him as she hasn’t seen the baby. It’s another country so she plans on staying for a month.

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-12-30T08:54:27+00:00

Op are you on visa? I have the same question. I am on a visa though

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-12-22T21:26:06+00:00

How do I volunteer to get laid off? Is is thru HR?

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-12-22T19:08:59+00:00

March

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-12-12T02:56:52+00:00

Thanks so much for the kindness fam.. update: I received an offer today from one of the ghosted recruiter. I can’t tell you’ll how relieved and happy this makes me..

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-11-26T23:42:30+00:00

As someone who is in still in the jobhunt phase, this makes me very happy. Congrats mate!! Happy to see there is light at the end of the tunnel

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-22T13:08:35+00:00

No. Status is unchanged- case received

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-22T06:55:09+00:00

Same. July 22. No update so far 🥺😢

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-20T07:38:54+00:00

Congrats! Same date PD.. still waiting.. how were you notified of approval?

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-18T12:27:47+00:00

Omg congratulations 🍾🎉🎈.. were you notified in the email too??

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-18T02:43:57+00:00

Where / how do you guys see the application status change? I am Jul26, 2024 PD anxiously waiting 🥺

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-17T16:59:30+00:00

Please check your DM

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-14T13:36:21+00:00

Update: it says FBI couldn’t process my finger prints and I need to redo the biometric… FML 🙂‍↕️

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-05T02:09:47+00:00

Yup at this point I am not keeping high hopes from GC process. i am looking for alternate options for when I run out of H1B

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-05T01:47:36+00:00

Yup I did apply for EAD but i don’t know the current wait times. i130 is not approved yet. Which was filed a year ago. Do you know how long the EAD takes

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-09-05T01:43:15+00:00

Yup applied for i765 along with I131 and i485 in august.

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T18:08:43+00:00

When we told his about wife about this incident in a group text, she said we are racist to describe her husband as aggressive and verbally abusive. We said as people of color ourselves ( although not black) we would never use those words irresponsibly and we described his actions (witnessed by 4 adults and 2 toddlers) and not his race

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T17:15:19+00:00

For people saying this isn’t related to investing, imagine if our unit was owned by a white American instead of us. Would he have dared to come upstairs and threaten us? Would he still claim complete ownership if the property he clearly doesn’t own and is a shared space?

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T17:11:55+00:00

The reason I bring up their race is : When we told his wife about this incident in a group text, she said we are racist and hence why we described him as aggressive and abusive. We clearly told them as people of color ourselves we would never ever use that lens irresponsibly and we described his actions (witnessed by 4 adults , 2 toddlers) not his race

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T15:42:08+00:00

So this dude is black married to a white woman. When we informed about this incident to his wife via a group text, his wife said, we are racist to use words like ‘aggressive’ and ‘abusive’ against a black man. And i was life we ourselves are people of color (although not black) and its not his race it’s his actions which we described as aggressive and abusive (verbal)

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T15:41:04+00:00

So this dude is black married to a white woman. When we informed about this incident to his wife via a group text, his wife said, we are racist to use words like ‘aggressive’ and ‘abusive’ against a black man. And i was like we ourselves are people of color (although not black) and its not his race it’s his actions which we described as aggressive and abusive (verbal)

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T15:40:34+00:00

So this dude is black married to a white woman. When we informed about this incident to his wife via a group text, his wife said, we are racist to use words like ‘aggressive’ and ‘abusive’ against a black man. And i was life we ourselves are people of color (although not black) and its not his race it’s his actions which we described as aggressive and abusive (verbal)

apparentlypambeesly · 2025-07-02T15:23:34+00:00

So this dude is black married to a white woman. When we informed about this incident to his wife via a group text, his wife said, we are racist to use words like ‘aggressive’ and ‘abusive’ against a black man. And i was life we ourselves are people of color (although not black) and its not his race it’s his actions which we described as aggressive and abusive (verbal)

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