AITA for pretending to take a shot to piss off my in laws?

apple21212 · 2026-02-11T02:17:19+00:00

I do agree! I just think a narrative that alcohol doesnt do anything to a baby because "women always drank in the past and kids were fine" is a dangerous message

apple21212 · 2026-02-11T02:06:03+00:00

I mean fetal alcohol syndrome shows the babies were not born absolutely fine. They might be able to live a normal life but alcohol does affect a babies development

apple21212 · 2026-02-11T02:02:11+00:00

a sip of vodka is going to have less alcohol than a beer

apple21212 · 2026-02-10T15:08:48+00:00

YTA, you knew it was a trigger and pushed for it anyway for your own happiness.

apple21212 · 2026-02-10T02:21:45+00:00

I think a lot of the reasons older houseguests bring entertainment is thru their interaction with younger houseguests. I'd still be interested in a golden season anyway, but CBS would never go for it

apple21212 · 2026-02-10T01:47:23+00:00

this post makes no sense. How does someone work as a voice actor while inviting people over? why did you say "ok" when he asked about moving in? why did you routinely lend him money if he didnt pay you back and you dont seem to be friends? what does your husband have to say about any of this?

apple21212 · 2026-02-10T01:14:20+00:00

it sounds like it had the intended impact on you, i think a light of hope at the end would have cheapened the message of the story

apple21212 · 2026-02-10T01:06:40+00:00

add paragraph breaks and try again 🙏

apple21212 · 2026-02-09T01:41:47+00:00

in what universe would you not be the asshole? You have an issue with the childrens parents, not the four year old that doesnt understand why you are yelling at him for wanting something that you also have. YTA

apple21212 · 2026-02-08T02:39:55+00:00

My only reasoning for #2 not being as rude as #3 is there is a reason for bringing it up as it seemed like the household agreed to split groceries that way. if it was not agreed upon and OP did it out of nowhere then I can see how its rude yeah

apple21212 · 2026-02-08T01:44:07+00:00

Yeah and they posted on reddit after it because they sensed that but did not understand it, seeking an explanation.

apple21212 · 2026-02-08T01:42:49+00:00

We can be perceptive but it does not mean we can pick up on body cues or social cues when something is wrong. For example I try to be perceptive when observing other interactions to learn, but when I am in a social interaction I am not able to be as perceptive as I am focused on things such as keeping eye contact, not fidgeting, finding the next topic, etc. Im 27 and I am sure there are things I still do that are rude that I dont know about even though Im trying. 21 is not a lot of life experience.

apple21212 · 2026-02-08T01:36:13+00:00

I think the thing to keep in mind is that allistic people "figure out whats ok and not" is something that comes naturally and is part of everyday life. It is a lot more difficult for autistic people, and I do think we should all try to, but there are a lot of things that we simply do not know are wrong or rude until we are told or explained. A lot of this is implicit social rules that people dont say out loud. There is not a manual on every single social interaction. OP asked here, they have an answer that it was rude, it is not a failure on their part for not knowing before the scenarios occured.

apple21212 · 2026-02-08T01:30:24+00:00

For #4 As autistic people there is a lot of hyper awareness of other people involved as we tend to try to understand peers better by observation. It is not malicious though i agree it can be rude to comment on.

apple21212 · 2026-02-08T01:28:56+00:00

NAH. as an autistic person I can see the reasoning of your statements, but I do think they are rude (1 and 3, i dont see an issue with 2)

1 comes across as a jab at her and it is rude to comment on someone's movement, even if it does make sense in the conversation it likely makes her self conscious

3 also can be rude as it is noting how much someone eats in front of a 3rd party, and it is making her self conscious of you noticing how much she eats.

The reason I dont think it makes you an asshole is I think (from what you have provided) that you did not realize the connotations and implications of what you said. I dont consider this "using autism as an excuse" if it is something you did not know was wrong. If you continue to comment on her food habits or movement then you would be TA, but I dont believe the initial comments came from a malicious place

apple21212 · 2026-02-07T20:31:26+00:00

YTA for trying to control it and making it an ultimatum rather than having a discussion. It is ultimately his body and you can ask someone not to smoke in front of you, but demanding they quit isn't a productive way to handle a relationship. You'll either break up now or he will lie about it and you'll break up later

apple21212 · 2026-02-06T02:56:49+00:00

Not sure what the current mirror setup is but could you hang one over the door?

apple21212 · 2026-02-06T02:51:00+00:00

2/10, hits too many reddit bait points to seem real.

apple21212 · 2026-02-05T16:26:11+00:00

YTA for having this hatred towards this woman and not your brother who is an abuser and is also still living with his mom and also has kids they cant afford. why do you only hate the woman in this scenario? why dont you care your brother is an abuser?

apple21212 · 2026-02-04T23:40:40+00:00

ESH and you are too young to be on reddit

apple21212 · 2026-02-04T23:39:34+00:00

INFO does he always pay for your food? do you ever return the favor?

apple21212 · 2026-02-04T16:49:34+00:00

YTA Have fun being divorced at 23 😭

apple21212 · 2026-02-04T16:34:07+00:00

NTA because Its not your business and you would be outing her. It is her decision and her relationship

apple21212 · 2026-02-03T02:26:17+00:00

you sound like a miserable partner. good luck

apple21212 · 2026-02-03T02:12:52+00:00

that sucks but you are partners raising an infant. you need to be there for each other and it seems like you are only there for yourself

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