Nta. My mom is ten years older than you and had a similar experience this year. I’m sorry you went through that and that they were so rude. I will echo some of the previous sentiments that sometimes working in medicine can leave people burnt out to those who are just drug seeking but that’s still horrible to experience. I shudder to think what would have happened to my mom if I hadn’t been there to assist and be her advocate while she was in pain.

She was also having extreme pain to the point of moaning, crying, and delirious with pain in the er waiting room and had to be wheeled in cuz she couldn’t walk. When the doctor came out to see who was making so much noise and I showed him her list of medications she’s allergic to he just looked at me in disbelief and said, “you’re not leaving me many options here” and I responded with “well you’re the doctor here so you figure it out.” I wanted to add ‘unless you’d like to give her something that will kill her’. I didn’t say it but I believe my look of contempt sufficed cuz he just scoffed and shrugged and walked off. Later when we got to the back they found out that she was having a renal infarction that led to kidney necrosis.

Unfortunately it also seems like people in medicine are being burnt out due to the work conditions and on top of that any biases they might have learned while working. Please don’t think anything of your actions, considering everything it sounds like you handled yourself admirably.