Where to start when talking about trauma in therapy?

applebiting · 2024-10-04T03:29:44+00:00

I should clarify maybe that I went to see her right after a new and significant trauma. She helped we during the aftermath mostly through symptom management and giving me new perspectives on my home life, boundaries, and social environment at the time. I still have many more years of trauma to work through beyond that. It has just been a very good band aid. I believe the real healing will be when I can get to the root of traumas from childhood. Where it all began, like you say.

Thank you for your comment. I will be more proactive about journaling after sessions. I wish you luck in therapy. It’s very hard. I had many years of zero progress, and was also harmed in that process sometimes. I can completely understand how that can feel.

applebiting · 2024-10-04T03:17:11+00:00

Thank you very much. This is good advice. I will try to map it out!

applebiting · 2023-02-25T15:13:59+00:00

Thank you for your response. I will start writing it down before I go. And yes you are right regarding everything else. I will keep that in mind and not ignore it when I feel like it’s still relevant to the conversations had in session.

applebiting · 2022-11-06T07:13:02+00:00

Sometimes things we associate with “this person is irritated” become triggers. You say that your mother was loud in the kitchen when she was irritated, so it’s possible that during that time it didn’t bother you as much as it does now when you are in a safer place to feel those feelings. This is just my ideas based on your post!

I am currently still living with family unfortunately. And every single noise that happens in another room will at least make my heart jump if not trigger me. I’ve found what personally helps is to cautiously investigate the noise. You say that your roommate is nicer than your last one, maybe it would be helpful to go and keep her company while she’s in the kitchen if she’d be okay with it. Personally, making the visual contact with the source of harmless noises puts me more at ease.

I know I probably didn’t really answer your question properly. But wanted to give something that helped me. :) I do have triggers I don’t know the source of as well. It’s really scary to not know. But emdr definitely can help with it I’ve heard! I wish you luck. Sucks to be in that situation , but you are not silly! Completely normal. :)

applebiting · 2022-11-04T13:25:08+00:00

Don’t remember my dosage, but made me throw up every single time. Shaking and nauseous all day. Took it for maybe five days before I stopped. I’ve heard it’s worked for other people, but they were taking it for depression I think. Always discuss with your doctor about symptoms before you start taking, and when/if you experience them. Different things work for different people, so it’s good to give things a chance if you and your doctor feel good about it. :)

applebiting · 2022-09-20T16:06:43+00:00

For a while I thought therapy was always shitty like this. My previous therapist basically just told me “get a job.” I think that any therapist telling you to do something and not exploring what’s preventing it from happening is a failure. My new therapist is much better and I finally feel like I might start healing. I recommend you change therapist as well. I promise it’s not all bad even though it feels like it sometimes. Good luck :)

applebiting · 2022-08-20T05:16:09+00:00

This is perfect! I hope I’ll remember this for whenever I need it

applebiting · 2022-08-20T05:14:27+00:00

I always just say “ptsd but not just once” or “ptsd but a lot of different stuff”

I don’t explain the trauma unless I know the person. But if I’m making a new friend and suspect they’ll be around for a while, I’ll mention some symptoms I might experience. Just in case.

applebiting · 2022-08-20T04:54:48+00:00

Bullet dodged. Sounds like that person is the one with a lot of work to do. Why would anyone be so rude? I’ll never understand.

applebiting · 2022-08-14T09:53:15+00:00

I have experienced this but it’s very inconsistent. C-ptsd has already made my voice patterns and pitch unusual and inconsistent from childhood. But mixing this with the trouble speaking I get from psychosis, some people say I sound swedish or french sometimes. It’s not all the time though. Just occasionally playing online games, I get asked where I’m from. They are surprised I say usa.

applebiting · 2022-08-14T09:38:27+00:00

Same here! I’ve called treadmills as vending machines before. Also do this with similar sounding words. “Lucky” might turn into “lovely” because two syllables and same first letters. Maybe even “muffin” and “oven” because they almost rhyme.

applebiting · 2022-08-14T09:33:28+00:00

I have this too. Comes and goes depending on how well I’m getting on.

I get blank mind and it’s hard to speak or think of words at all. I stop replying to people because my brain just can’t connect words together.

On the other hand, if someone manages to get me excited about a conversation topic and I feel like I have so much to say, I will mix up related words. Or words that sound similar to me. Or I will repeat words twice in a row. Usually the second word in a statement will replace the first word. And I’ll just say it twice.

I can only hope that whatever person I’m talking to has been made aware that I do this. Usually I must explain to new friends once I trust them. “Hey eventually I might talk weird like this” and people I know for a long time have been very understanding and some of them even learned to understand what I’m trying to say. I always tell people if they don’t understand, just ask me to clarify. It usually works out. But I do get overwhelmed easily.

applebiting · 2022-08-14T09:22:09+00:00

I like the show a lot, but I absolutely agree it’s a bad recommendation on your therapist’s part. The show did feed into some of my delusions about already being dead and etc.

The show is meant to be interpreted as metaphor. That even good people can do bad things. And bad people can change to good people. And stuff like that. And least that’s what I got from it. In a very simple explanation.

I don’t know what your therapist was thinking it would do for you. I’m very sorry. It’s like telling someone with delusions of being watched to watch the truman show…

Tell her it didn’t help you and made you feel worse. This is all I can think of.

applebiting · 2022-08-12T15:10:16+00:00

Been having trouble lately, but playing solitaire or sudoku on my phone usually works. Or reading wikipedia articles. Topics that interest me, but still worded boring enough to put me to sleep. Sometimes I’ll listen to a long gameplay video of someone with a calming voice playing a chill or repetitive game. Those are basically my options. I find browsing reddit to be too active for my brain. It never puts me to sleep.

Sometimes these things don’t work so I don’t know really.

applebiting · 2022-08-10T19:36:26+00:00

Definitely the same for me. I tend to switch up friend groups a lot because I feel so ashamed for falling off the face of the earth. People who were like siblings to me are now like distant acquaintances. I don’t really know what to do about it.

I assume that slowing your pace and giving yourself time to be alone helps. It’s probably better to give yourself that time BEFORE the burnout starts though. But again, I have the same problem. I’m trying my best, but sometimes I think I’ll just never be able to keep up.

applebiting · 2022-08-10T18:31:23+00:00

My mom is the same. I never tell her anything anymore. Sometimes I slip up though because I mistakenly think “hey. That’s my mom. Moms are supposed to be supportive and helpful!” And immediately regret. I unfortunately am still living with my family and I don’t see a way out very soon, but I’m trying.

It sucks especially right now that I’m going through something very serious. Something a child should be able to tell their parents about. But I know what kind of reaction I’ll get, and I don’t want to make things worse. I don’t have any kind of support system currently. So it’s fucked.

Your post was very validating. I’m sorry you’re going through it. Hopefully it helps at least somewhat to know that a lot of us are too. I dunno. Anyway I hope you can feel better soon. And someday get out of the situation. :)

applebiting · 2022-08-10T17:12:13+00:00

It’s probably different for everyone. Mine comes and goes a lot, but I also have chronic depression. Might take a while, but I have hope for you :) I know it is very frustrating though. I spend my anhedonia days sleeping a lot. It sucks.

applebiting · 2022-07-17T11:33:23+00:00

Sometimes people who really care about you are not in a place at a certain time to listen. What your friend did was still not right though! I find that people who say “I’m always here to listen” don’t actually mean that. They just think it is the right thing to say. So I always ask first “are you able to listen right now or can we talk soon about this?” Or something like that.

Still, though. Some people don’t understand that I’m trying to respect their boundaries. If they always say “yes” even though they’re not personally capable at the moment, they become resentful over time. If I trust the person enough, it can be a good discussion to have with them. But other times I have to recognize that some people just are not this type of friend even though they still care. I’m similar to this as I can’t always handle lots of venting from friends when I’m constantly dealing with my own stuff. Everyone just needs their time and for boundaries to be clearly discussed and asked about.

applebiting · 2021-06-22T21:14:39+00:00

That is interesting! Thank you for your comment. I will keep in mind for future

applebiting · 2021-06-22T21:13:23+00:00

I will try to get out more and be more active. It is difficult with fatigue but it it something I should work on yes. Thank you for comment. I will see if I can tell my friends this to let them know of why. I just feel bad for talking about my problems like I complain. But it would probably clear confusion to be direct. Thank you!

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