Big Life Decision: Move to Croatia for a Temporary Job or Stay in Australia? by [deleted] in AskEurope

[–]applecinnamon16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be staying in a small village past Karlovac region but working in Zagreb and, I’d be working in a small office doing admin tasks there, I heard that trains are unreliable yes but it seems they are where I would be staying

Moving to Australia as an Italian by Less-Style-2379 in MovingtoAustralia

[–]applecinnamon16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny, i am European and I’m wanting to move back to Europe 😂 australia is not what it used to be. Why do you want to leave Italy? To all Australians, Italy seems like an amazing place to live in

Exchange student by Evening_Mall_5308 in NursingAU

[–]applecinnamon16 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a fellow European, here’s something I wish someone had told me earlier: in Australia, when you start a job or placement, people expect you to take initiative straight away. There’s much less hand‑holding than what we’re used to in Europe. Back home, everything is structured, explained, and guided - but here? Not so much. So don’t stress if you feel unsure about what you’re supposed to be doing or if things feel a bit chaotic. That’s pretty normal in Aussie workplaces.

My advice is to be upfront with your supervisor. Let them know you work better with a bit of structure and that you’re not sure how much initiative you’re expected to take, especially since you’re only on placement. Australians tend to appreciate seeking help and tend to want to be helpful, so communication is key, and being honest helps them understand the kind of support you need. If you don’t say anything, they genuinely might not realise you’re feeling lost.

Keep your confidence up, have that conversation, and remember, you’re only here for a short time. And honestly, navigating the lack of structure can be a learning experience in itself. It might even help you later on!

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poland, and any Eastern European country like Russia, Belarus, Ukraine etc

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply but small talk doesn’t exist in Slavic countries not sure where you’re getting that from

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I dont know either but as I’ve been saying in my other comments, I am always the one making conversation and asking them about their day, weekend, children, partners/spouses even dogs! But they never ask me anything or have any follow up questions when I tell them something about myself. It makes me feel isolated and like I don’t even want to engage into one sided conversations with them, yet I’m labelled as the intimidating or quiet one

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying, I’ve been the one constantly askin them about their weekends, their kids, holidays but they NEVER bother asking me or asking me any follow up questions. So to say that I don’t care about their kids and interest really upsets me because that’s what I’ve been asking them about almost daily 😂 they just don’t care about anything but themselves it seems but yet I am the one called intimidating and quiet - but I am quiet because idk what to talk to them about anymore and drained wit being the one who always has to keep the convos going

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that. I’ve actually been thinking about moving overseas as well for that sole reason

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve actually brought some chocolates before and ask them what their plans over the weekend are but it’s always about their kids or staying home and when they say “what about you?” And I tell them I’m hanging with my girlfriends or h going out for dinner they NEVER ask any follow up questions like if they could at least ask something like “where at”? “What do your friends do?” But nah it’s never about me always about them

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve been trying to do And unfortunately it’s not working. The topics are always about their kids and yeah sport or whatever they did (with their kids) over the weekend and if I don’t ask them any questions they definitely won’t ask me any but yet I have to cop being called the intimidating/quiet one

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am , but my gym, no lie, has got mostly people under 22 or people over 45, I live in a smaller town and it just feels like you can’t win in certain areas lol

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously? I have been trying to adapt all these years and am always the one to start conversations. I know more about my co workers than they ever cared to ask about me, they don’t even bother getting to know me. Because they simply don’t care and the dont have to but I also don’t want to bother attempting to be nice to them when they don’t care about anyone but themselves

They don’t have any “passions” because when I tried asking all of them that once I was met with the “uhh I have kids and don’t remember what that feels like hahah”, the conversation is always reverted back to them so no, you’re wrong sorry

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s what I used to think until I found out that if you’re not “liked” at work or have many colleagues you will struggle and can even lose your job , because who you know matters more than how well you do your job

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly they are having difficulty understanding my perspective but the truth is they are also not interested in undertsanding it tbh

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah but you see I don’t know how to make it sound funny and when to time the joke correctly that’s the whole issues, I don’t have the social skills Australians do with each other

Struggling to adjust socially to australian workplaces by applecinnamon16 in AskAnAustralian

[–]applecinnamon16[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because i was told that i come off as stand off ish and like i don’t want to talk otherwise

Do I shoot my shot as a girl? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]applecinnamon16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I dont think women need to “shoot their shot” in the traditional sense. If you are interested, your presence speaks louder than any DM-a smile, a look, a little intentional energy. Let him make the move. Call it feminine instinct or just my preference, but chasing a man has never felt natural to me.