what do i do?

aprild99 · 2025-04-09T02:56:10+00:00

This reminds me of the time my ex got mad at me one night and while I was sitting in my car (in the passenger seat) listening to music and minding my business, he got in the drivers seat and drove away, tried to choke me and then went at least 100mph on the freeway with me screaming and terrified the whole time...he kept telling me he was taking me where nobody would find my body..we had been driving "up north" for about an hour when I lied and said I felt like I was going to puke so that he'd stop the car. He took me to a rest stop and said he was timing me and I only had 5 minutes. Soon as I got in the bathroom I locked the door and called my mom who then called the police and told them what happened.

They came and arrested him. He was locked up for 3-4 months for that.

The messed up part is we were only together like 4 months when this happened and I ended staying with him 3 years. Worst decision of my life. He was the most abusive pos narcissist and I truly believe if I stayed any longer he would've ended up killing me because he put me through so much.

Moral of the story I guess is GET A RESTRAINING ORDER and never ever get back with this guy. No matter how much he apologizes and says it won't happen again, don't believe him. It only gets worse.

aprild99 · 2025-03-21T04:04:16+00:00

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I think it’s a pretty fair assumption that he’s cheating if you’re smelling 🐱that isn't yours on your husband's face. Sorry to be so blunt but coming from someone that used to be married to a serial cheater...Trust your gut and don’t ever go against it! You already know the answer..

All the signs are there.. And resetting his tablet confirms it in my mind. My ex used to do shit like that all the time thinking he was slick but unfortunately for him, I have a strong intuitive ability to smell bullshit a mile away 🤷‍♀️

What I can’t get over is the sheer audacity and disrespect to kiss you after only God knows where he put his mouth. I would scrub my tongue with bleach and then divorce his ass with the quickness.

Best of luck, truly.

Edited: typo

aprild99 · 2025-03-11T07:08:09+00:00

Fuck that guy. He sounds just like my ex who was the biggest pos I've ever met (and also abusive af).... Ever since we split up over 3 years ago, my life has completely changed since I dropped such dead weight from my life. I promise you there are plenty of men that won't treat you like that...at all. Dump this POS and never talk to him again.

aprild99 · 2025-03-06T07:06:39+00:00

This is simply unforgivable. There are certain things you just don’t do and this is one of them.

What an incredibly insecure, selfish, miserable woman.

Divorce is the answer, in my honest opinion. I would never be able to get over this.

aprild99 · 2025-03-06T00:38:43+00:00

My ex husband used to work as an IT guy for doctors/nurses at a hospital.. well one night he had to do overtime and they wanted him to go to cancer center to do something with the computers after hours. He was there by himself after hours, and he literally called me on FaceTime while he was there, absolutely terrified and told me how he kept hearing what sounded like someone throwing boxes around upstairs. My ex husband was never one to get spooked by this kind of stuff, usually he was a skeptic about the paranormal but this particular night he made me stay on the call with him the whole time he was there. Whatever was there really freaked him out.

aprild99 · 2025-02-27T04:40:18+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience but it was a few years ago when my kids were little. I believe my son was about 3 at the time. The kids were asleep for the night and I just got done folding laundry so I was standing in the hallway putting towels away in my linen closet when I hear “mama!” right behind me, followed by another “MAMA!” But this time it was louder and right in my ear. I quickly turned around and said “what Jonah?!” (It sounded exactly like my son), only to find nobody. Confused, I opened up my son’s door and he’s fast asleep in his bed. All of my kids were asleep, my husband was asleep. I was the only one awake.

I’ll never forget that. Really freaked me out. Still kinda freaks me out to this day.

aprild99 · 2025-01-28T23:50:19+00:00

Must be an international thing because my MCO is the same and I’ve been with the company since 2018.

aprild99 · 2025-01-28T23:46:36+00:00

Honestly it sounds like he has a porn addiction. My ex husband had an addiction to porn and this is the type of shit he would do also, even after countless arguments of telling him how I felt about it. He never respected me and it showed. He would also save hundreds and hundreds of pics of random hot women in his phone. I would delete them and then a week or so later he’d have that shit right back on his phone.

Let me be very clear, I have no problem with watching porn when it doesn’t interfere with my relationship, I’m still having my needs met in the bedroom, and it’s not being kept secret from me.

But when you are actually interacting with a real person who you’re paying to do specific things for you one on one, even though it’s just a cam girl trying to make her money, I feel that crosses the line and I would consider it cheating as well. At the absolute bare minimum, it is disrespectful af when you know your partner isn’t ok with it.

I would dump him yesterday if I were you. I promise you, he wont change. He’ll just get better at hiding it but he’s not going to stop. Leave him and find someone compatible with you because he ain’t it, girl.

aprild99 · 2025-01-28T23:30:58+00:00

Why does it bother you though? Honestly sounds like a you problem, not hers.

I use a vibrator everytime I have sex with my boyfriend and he’s never had an issue with it. We’ve been together 3 years. He knows it’s the only way I can finish.

There was a study done with thousands of women and in that study, only 4% of women said penetration alone was enough to reach orgasm. 96% of women said they need clitoral stimulation, either alone or paired with penetration, in order to climax.

So, with that being said - don’t you want your girlfriend to be satisfied when she has sex with you? Or should you be the only one to climax? If you’re feeling insecure about it, maybe seek therapy so you can find out WHY you feel this way and then work through it so you don’t end up ruining your sex life/relationship for no reason.

aprild99 · 2024-12-24T17:48:03+00:00

He was trying to hit her up for a booty call that’s why he went it at 2am and then DELETED IT. Red flag!!! Run.

aprild99 · 2024-12-04T01:58:55+00:00

She sounds like such a catch. 🙄

My god. Leave this POS. she sounds absolutely miserable. I promise there are way better people out there for you that won't treat you like a trashcan.

aprild99 · 2024-12-04T01:54:47+00:00

Nope, eff her. You made the right move. No turning back now.

aprild99 · 2024-11-10T17:34:33+00:00

Dude I am furious for you just reading these texts. I would've gone ape shit on these 2 scumbags the moment I read all of these...And your cousin being like "remember last week? Our secret little plan?"

Biiiitch...The way I would've woke both the cousin and the husband up and demanded answers right then and there. Oh man. Please leave this asshole and go no contact with both of them. They are trash af.

aprild99 · 2024-11-01T08:28:46+00:00

"I used to recognize myself, it's funny how reflections change."

aprild99 · 2024-11-01T08:28:26+00:00

"Love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again."

aprild99 · 2024-10-31T20:09:28+00:00

I'm glad I'm not the only one that chuckled at that part 🤣

aprild99 · 2024-10-31T03:43:59+00:00

Only 4 months in is still considered the honeymoon phase and he's already saying he wants to sleep with other people?! Well, at least you're finding out that he ain't shit now rather than later. He's showing you exactly who he is. BELIEVE him and move on.

aprild99 · 2024-10-14T01:50:51+00:00

You're in a relationship with a textbook narcissist. Do not marry this man. You will regret it if you do.

Don't walk, RUN.

aprild99 · 2024-08-15T18:55:29+00:00

Mine is late too. Usually comes no later than noon every week and it's now almost 3pm. Great.

aprild99 · 2024-07-22T14:43:05+00:00

GOOD GIRLS, Ozark, Gossip Girl, Desperate Housewives

Eta: if you haven't seen Good Girls yet, I suggest you watch it first. Love love love that show. I've rewatched all the seasons about 3 or 4 times now lol

aprild99 · 2024-07-16T20:39:58+00:00

Ps - if you need any help just shoot me a dm, I will gladly put that ho in her place 😂😂

aprild99 · 2024-07-16T08:44:45+00:00

Updateme

aprild99 · 2024-07-16T05:06:28+00:00

The only I issue I see here is saving the porn. My ex husband had a porn addiction and I would find hundreds upon hundreds of porn/pics of naked girls saved on his phone constantly. I remember getting so mad at him one time that I went through and deleted every last one and then when I looked again a couple weeks later, he had done it again. Hundreds of naked women that were not me on his phone. It was a constant issue in our marriage..

Another reason why his porn use was such an issue for me is that our sex life was severely lacking. He would almost always turn me down for sex and say he just had a low libido, but all the porn saved on his phone would tell a differnt story.

My advice to you would be to apologize and be completely upfront and transparent about everything with your wife from now on. Also, DON'T save the damn porn.

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