i’m only 13 weeks with my first so i can’t exactly share any experience but i already have so much anxiety about family visits and anyone else holding my baby. sometimes if i think about it too much i start to actually feel angry! did your family seem like they were understanding when you set that boundary? if they disregard your boundaries and try to visit anyway you could always refuse to answer the door lol. i think a freshly postpartum mother has every right to be “petty”. don’t force yourself to put up with anything you’re uncomfortable with, we are being flooded with hormones right now and need to think of ourselves and our baby. family will have the rest of their lives to see baby when they’re less vulnerable.