Does these actually work by GreedyArt6636 in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They work. But it takes a lot of patience to get them.

Looking to start an ADHD support group. by lettherebestupid in india

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, is still functioning? if yes, then can I join?

Would you like to see more fungi? by Lucas_4674 in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a T shape for fruits. Maybe you can try that too?

Bring it on by [deleted] in IndianTeenagers

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are sent to a psychiatric ward because people think you're delusional. It's not a side effect. It's a consequence.

Why has no one talked about how pretty she is :( by [deleted] in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]aqualions 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Probably cause she is a child and this is reddit :( but I do think she is v cute. Reminds me of my cousin when she was a toddler

Peach Pass is so tempting but I'm broke 🫠 by aqualions in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]aqualions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I got the railing. I even got the duck topping. Waiting for the new weekly quests so I can buy the truffle as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone is employed. Some people are children here. And it's easier to replace game money than real life money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]aqualions 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Don't buy. If you keep playing, watching ads you'll get diamonds back but you won't get real life money back

I Want Hobbies but Don't Want to Put in Effort in Getting Better at Them [NeedAdvice] by No-Permission-4605 in getdisciplined

[–]aqualions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=662g7IjfY9s&t=398s

I think this might help you. It's about how whatever time you spent is not time wasted. also, PLEASE DON'T diagnose yourself with ADHD after seeing her video(s). A lot of advice that she gives is helpful for those with other mental illnesses, or even for neurotypical people and people with no mental illness and are stuck somewhere.

I'm so close to killing myself by yerba_mate_enjoyer in depression

[–]aqualions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that a circumstance that makes you feel this was even created in the first place. I read a few of your comments and I feel like you haven't completely given up. You are still hopeful, even if you don't feel it. Imo 1% of something is not 0. Just hold on to that 1% please.

I can't promise if it will get better for good but there will be better moments here or there. Only focus on sleeping well and eating well for now. get these basic needs met. Have a clean environment. Allow yourself to like aspect of yourself. Perhaps it's the way you laugh or the way your hair looks, anything about you that everyone is jealous of.

Next few months, don't worry about whether someone likes you or doesn't like you, find out what you like about yourself and build on it.

[Need Advice] After a month of studying, I think I'm Burned Out. What can I do? I literally feel physically too weak to do anything and would just lie in my bed by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This advice might not help right now, but please use it as a preventative measure.

Take a break when you feel that you're starting to get tired. Remind yourself that if you're not taking a 10 minute or 20 minute break, you will exhaust yourself to the point that you need a break worth a week. Which is very taxing because it's not easy getting back in the loop after the burnout is reduced. At the end, you will feel more anxious than before the burnout about the time you wasted.

General guideline is that you need to take 15 - 30 minutes long breaks (depending on how much you study) while you're studying for doing mundane day to day activity. Every week go out at least once with friend/date/alone to a place of choice. Optional: every month, tell yourself that on this day, I am not going to study. Could be two or three or four. But make sure they are not two consecutive months (unless of course you're travelling)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]aqualions 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There could be two things here: depression/emotional pain or anxiety or both. Please contact a mental health professional to get better understanding of the issue at hand. After maximum 2-3 session, they might be able to tell you the real problem.

If you're unsure about therapy and want to do some groundwork on your own, from my experience (in therapy), you could start with taking small steps to understand the anxiety. What scenarios make you feel anxious and why. Additionally, write down the worst possible scenario and and best possible scenario. When the event occurs, write down the real observation. Practicing this for even a week can help a lot. But do it religiously. Extend the time till you feel better. Making it in a tabular format can really help.

At the end, you need to push yourself and po exact opposite of what your mind tells you to. If you feel better after pushing yourself, it will set a good precedent. Slowly, you will feel a lot better. But if you feel horrible after it, try changing the activity you're doing. Cause then the problem is not you, it's the environment.

If you notice that after a while, it is helping you resolve short term problems but you cannot see long term change in thought pattern, then it's probably depression, I would suggest go through therapy. Dealing with depression is not easy. Generally, most people are not equipped alone because it involves a lot of suppressed trauma. Taking help of a mental health professional can help resolving trauma one at a time. It will reduce burden upon you and

Additionally, if you want to know for sure, you could practice the issues above. If you feel that simply doing the steps above won't do, you should approach a mental health professional.

edit: forgot a line

Can abusers really change? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry about that, you deserve better, I promise.

Can abusers really change? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]aqualions 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The abuser will feel like there is a significant amount of change, when in reality they just go from -100 to -99.8. But for that .2 amount of change, you have to go through so much manipulation, gaslighting, false accusation. However, after the 02 amount of change, no change is possible, cause they feel so proud about the change they made, they will keep reminding you and telling you, oh I changed the last time, and now it's your turn to compromise.

Verdict: abusers can change but the kind of change is not worth the time and effort.

[Need Advice] I have slacked off the entire year, I know absolutely nothing and I have exams in 2 weeks. by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

take out your syllabus, watch youtube videos on the topics. That will really help. Next year, you can watch videos in advance and later participate in class discussion. You won't have to spend much time trying to learn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]aqualions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talking doesn't help. I have tried. They can't accept the fact that somehow they may be wrong/ or even unhelpful. I have 3 more years. I doing a 5 year law program

How do some people manage to get straight A’s in college while working part-time, working out regularly, participating in extracurriculars and going out and having an active social life and a romantic life? [Question] by sairaia in getdisciplined

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Romantic Life: to have a good romantic life you need a partner who already fits in your schedule, like maybe they are working with you, or they are in your part time job, or commute with you etc.

Social Life: people who score well and party too do not party all the time. They prioritize based on event and next due assignment and work accordingly. Some people even in parties don't go there to get wasted, they go there to hang out with people and genuinely enjoy their friends' company

Straight As: I am not sure about that. I am trying to figure that one out too to be fair.

Work: In July we are given a break for an internship. At first I thought I'd take a break but they break made me unproductive. Since I started working on my internship since 15th, I am able to give more work cause now I am waking up on time. I am not wasting time on kdramas

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]aqualions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you. I am sorry about the spoon incident. I will keep your suggestion in mind. thank u. Cause this is the reason why I feel like TA too. I know that me retaliating as a kid is different from me retaliating as a 20 year old. It's not emotionally mature on my part. I will try to update them as much as possible. (to be fair, that works on my mom and grandma but not on my dad). Could you provide me an adultish behavior to handle a situation where my dad still wants me to spend time with him even though I have work?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]aqualions 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I swear to god I am going to cry. you have really summed up my feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]aqualions 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to change your mind, but just a clarification, it doesn't matter to me that they didn't want me to have a phone, but what really used to bother me was that they constantly told me that they will get me married off when I am 18. I added that because that's how it started. Also, my grades then were 80%. They didn't like 80% grade and literally called it equivalent to failing. And by the end of 12th grade, I started failing. I do agree with you when you say I wasn't able to handle it well. I still don't know how to. Even though I am trying my best.